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HELLO HELLO HELLO,

I am at work bored so I thought I would drop in and say hello to all of you!!! I have not been keeping

with the forum. So i hope all is well with everyone?

As for me I am doing great and enjoying life to the fullest, i have met a wonderful man and we have been together for about 3 months now...I know some might think it is kinda fast to get into another relationship after what happened with calling off the wedding but this new relationship happened by chance and by the grace of god...I am more happier now then I have been in a long time....I have kept in contact with a few of you but I miss the others on this thread, I still consider you all my friends.

Here is my e-mail if anyone wants to keep in contact jkb919@yahoo.com

Until later, Joanna

Hey guys,

Well I am really stressing right now...Adrian is giving me a hard time and I wanted you guys prospective on the whole thing....1st I really do feel bad for everything I have done to him and he thinks that I did it on purpose...but he has been talking to a lawyer at a church that he has been going to and the lawyer was telling him he would handle his case for free if he wanted to take me to court...the lawyer said he heard of a case where the woman was arrested because she brought the man to the US and then didnt marry him??? then another case he told me that a woman was issued by the court to pay the male immigrant $50,000??? have any of you heard anything like that???

I called the USCIS yesterday and they said that as far as they are concerned that if he stays here after the 90 days then I am not responsible for him and he becomes illegal, they also told me to write to the Jamaica embassy and tell them the situation....I sent them and e-mail last night and wrote a letter that I will fedex to the embassy tomorrow......I am really stressing...I know what I did to him was very wrong being that he quit his job to come and be here with me, but as I see it we all take chances in life....he is also asking me to just go ahead and marry him so he can stay here and wont have to go back to JA and that we wont have to live together....I told him absolutly not that that would be fruad and he comes back with how does he know that this whole thing was not a fraud...I cannot believe that he could even prove that it was fraud...I had the wedding all planned, dress bought, rings I bought, invitations sent out and lost $3,000 on the ceremony and reception site.....

Sorry I am just venting here and would like to hear all options good or bad.

Thank you gals are a great bunch and I miss you.

Joanna

Hello,

I used to be an active member on this site but have not been on in a while due to certian situations.

Well here is my story my ex-fiance entered the US May 18th about a week after he was here i realized I didnt want to marry him (for certian reasons) and I called off the wedding. He is still in the US and as I understand it on a K1 visa he is only legal for 90 days unless we got married, so as of Augest 18th he will be illegal if he stays here....I have bought his plane ticket back to his home country but he has been talking to alot of people and they are feeding his head with all kinds of crazy stuff...they are trying to talk him into staying here illegally...I am asking for any suggestiong on this matter: My question is what is my responsibility to him if he stays illegally??? I called USCIS and they said that I need to write the embassy in his home country and notify them (which I have done that already).

Also the main issue that I am having a problem with is that he has been talking to some lawyer at a church that said he would handle his case for him for free and that he could take me to court??? (is that possible)the lawyer said he heard of a case where a female was arrested for not going through with the marriage and also another case where the female had to pay the immigrant $50,000......HAS ANYONE HEARD OF SUCH A THING? IS THIS POSSIBLE???? I am really concerned and would like any thoughts on this.

Sorry I didnt know where to post this!!

Joanna

HELLO HELLO HELLO everyone...just wanted to check in and say "HI"....i have been reading everyones posts and I am so happy to hear everyone is doing good.

I have to tell ya'll LIFE IS GREAT AND GOD IS GOOD I have been doing very well lately!!!! Adrian and I have not been talking much lately and I think that is the best thing for both of us...I have gotten on with my life and have met a great guy, we have known of each other for a while and have just begun to hang out, we both work for the fire dept...we are taking it slow, he knows my situation and knows that I am not ready to jump into anything right now, but we are great friends and get along so well.....I know some of ya'll may not agree with me dating so soon, but I feel that i have to move on with my life....Life throws us some curves sometimes and then it straightens back out!!!!

Until later much love to all!!!

Joanna

Goodmorning all,

Just wanted to pop in and say HELLO,

Happy belated b-day Kim!!

Welcome to America Criag.

Well as for me I am getting back to the single life and I hate to admit it but I am kind of enjoying it right now...I am so glad all of your relationships are going well!!! Adrian will leave to go back to JA next month, I know he is not happy about that and this may sound rude but "life goes on" I know what ever he decides to do in his life he will succeed, I just pray that things work out for him.

Well I will check in every once in a while but for now I am going to stay away from the VJ site and move forward in my life....I love you guys!!!

Joanna

Joanna I think you should if you know for sure he is not going back to Jamaica, you should contact USCIS adn find out what to do, I heard of people that after the fiance has got there that even if they split and the fiance stays in the USA, violating the terms of teh agreement, than the USA citizen is held liable, and that if he becomes a public charge in ANYWAY, it becomes the responsibility of the US citizen, that was the whole reason we filled out the form. Again I am not 100% but I would definatley checkinto that

I really dont think he will stay here illegally, but if he does I will for sure contact USCIS to let them know that he ran off in the US and I do not know where he is.. I odnt think that will happen though.

While Adrian was here we went to Islands of Adventure (part of Universal Studios) and he rode his 1st roller coaster, he closed his eyes and held on for dear life while I put my hands in the air and did not hold on...we only rode one because the other one was closed for repairs...we also rode 2 water rides that had very big drops...I just love roller coasters!!!

Hey Jojo

How are you? Don't mean to chat up a touchy subject but have you talked to Adrian? Is he still in the States, and doing ok?

I am doing very well thanks for asking

....Adrian calls me aslmost every day but the phone calls keep getting shorter and shorter, cause we dont really have much to talk about any more....people keep telling him that he should just stay in the states, I told him that would not be a good thing to do....I will buy his plane ticket back to JA weather he goes or not is his decision and I dont want to be any part of that...I will know that I did do the right thing and got his plane ticket and hopefully he will get on the plane!!!! When I talk to him he sounds OK, seems like he has meet some new friends down in South Florida.

Good morning everyone,

I am a little late on some of these but a

BIG CONGRATS TO:

MINDY & ROY

JULIE & MICHEAL

SQUITTOS

Hope everyone has a great weekend...as for me I will be working the night shift tonight and Sat. night...(I hate night shifts!!! )

Thanks Joanna, how are you doing?

I am doing good thanks for asking...been hanging out with friends ALOT lately

Good morning everyone,

I am a little late on some of these but a

BIG CONGRATS TO:

MINDY & ROY

JULIE & MICHEAL

SQUITTOS

Hope everyone has a great weekend...as for me I will be working the night shift tonight and Sat. night...(I hate night shifts!!! )

Hey everyone,

Just checking in and wanted to say HELLO....I am doing fine and I hope everyone else is.

Kelly - what a horrible time you had at the embassy....as for our interview we went to window 10 and the lady was nice to us...they did not have his medical either from Andrew's hosp....she said to come back on Tues or Thurs but I asked her if we went that day to the Hosp and they had sent it to the embassy already could we come back...she said yes and gave us a card that said we could come back that day at 1pm. We went to the Hosp and they said they had just delivered it to the embassy....(they must have delivered it while we were doing to interview or right after the interview)??? GOOD Luck when he goes back hopefully everything will work out..

Kim - congrats on your interview date...things are moving along for you.

HELLO everyone,

Just wanted to stop in and say hello and I hope everyone is doing great!!! I am doing OK, I was suppose to go back to work today and work some overtime but they called and canceled it, so I will go back to work Thurs night...I feel like I have been off of work for ever.

Adrian and I are keeping in contact but I dont think there is much of a future for us except to be friends, I think he still has hopes that we will be together again ...but who knows what the future holds....right now I am just doing what I can to occupy my time and getting back to work is really what I need.

Kelly - I see you got your interview date CONGRATS!!! It looks like you have everything you need except you must have his birth cert.

I have not caught up on all the pages yet but if there is any more congrats in order then CONGRATS!!

Jamie - you need to do the Suss report on Yahoo again so I can keep up with everyone and not have to read tons of pages

Mindy, Rhonda and everyone else - I just want to thank you for your support on my issue!! you guys are great and were a BIG help

Myisha -- Great to hear from you again and glad things are going well with your family.

Hope everyone has had a great day.....as for me and Adrian we went to the Universal Studios theme parks today and now I am very tired and stressed.....but I regret to tell you that the wedding between us is not going to happen...he kept pushing me and pushing me to tell him how I felt (I had told him several times already) till finally I blew up and raised my voice (which I try not to do)...it is over..earlier today I called the cruise line to see if they will rehire him on the ship and they said they would check into it and for him to call back next Monday and talk to a lady about it. As for now he is going to his brother-in-laws house in South Florida,...its a 3 hour drive but I really did not want to have to drive that far with him and then have to drive 3 hours back by myself tomorrow so I got him a plane ticket for tomorrow morning. I told him he has till Augest to stay in the states and he can see if he can get back on the cruise ship for work....I am not as mean as I sound I am going to give him about $700.00 for him to get by.

I am going to loose about $4,000.00 for canceling the wedding but my parents say they would rather me be happy then to regret it in the end.

I will still check in with all of you, I feel I have made some good friends here.

Joanna

all i can say is WOW!!!!i feel real sorry to hear this...poor guy...i mean do you think 700$ is really enough for him??? we all know how expensive it is in the states..and plus he will need to buy a ticket to ja and tickets aren't cheap....poor guy i mean to have your life completly torn up in a matter of days and all you get is a ticket and 700 bucks...how nice...

i know i am going to get a lot of ####### for this...but he is human too...he has feelings too...i'm not saying that going though with the wedding is the best option either but just making someone leave after they have put all of there trust into you and only to get a ooppss sorry my mistake i think is pretty selfish..

Like others have said you really do not have the whole story...and yes I have been trying to deal everyday with what I have done to him....I bought him a plane ticket to Ft Lauderdale and gave him $800.00 YES..and i told him if he needed anything to let me know, I contacted the cruise line about getting his job back and I pray everynight that they will re hire him....This is a very stressfull time for me and I did ALOT of thinking about the whole situation...Yes I could have acted like I was happy and gone through with a marriage that I would regret but i deceded I didnt want to do that and I made a choice to cancel the wedding and him and I talked about where he wanted to go. Yes he is very upset and so am I but there are a lot of factors that made me come to my conclusion (thay you are not aware of)....sometimes we have to take chances in life and this was a chance him and I took and this is what the outcome is.

And if you want to think of me a selfish then fine that is your opinion and the people that know me well, know that I did not do this intentionally.

Sorry Jamie, I had so much going on that I forgot --- CONGRATS ON THE GREEN CARD ----

Myisha -- Great to hear from you again and glad things are going well with your family.

Hope everyone has had a great day.....as for me and Adrian we went to the Universal Studios theme parks today and now I am very tired and stressed.....but I regret to tell you that the wedding between us is not going to happen...he kept pushing me and pushing me to tell him how I felt (I had told him several times already) till finally I blew up and raised my voice (which I try not to do)...it is over..earlier today I called the cruise line to see if they will rehire him on the ship and they said they would check into it and for him to call back next Monday and talk to a lady about it. As for now he is going to his brother-in-laws house in South Florida,...its a 3 hour drive but I really did not want to have to drive that far with him and then have to drive 3 hours back by myself tomorrow so I got him a plane ticket for tomorrow morning. I told him he has till Augest to stay in the states and he can see if he can get back on the cruise ship for work....I am not as mean as I sound I am going to give him about $700.00 for him to get by.

I am going to loose about $4,000.00 for canceling the wedding but my parents say they would rather me be happy then to regret it in the end.

I will still check in with all of you, I feel I have made some good friends here.

Joanna

Hello all....today is not going very well....I will keep ya'll updated

Hello,

Well Adrian and I had a good morning, but then in the afternoon I freaked out and told him i wanted to call off the wedding ...I told him I would get him a flight out tomorrow morning.....but after my freak out we went over to my parents house and had a talk with them...we are better now, we went and rented a couple movies and Adrian drove home from blockbusters (his 1st time driving in the US) he did Ok I just had to tell him which side of the road to stay on .

We just had a talk with one of his close friends also and I told her what my fears where and now she is talking to him....she is Jamaican married to an american and she understood what kinda what I am going through....

All is ok right now...I dont think I can go through anymore freaks outs with out ending up a crazy person

(I know Mindy you already think I am a crazy person!!! but you know it takes one to know one )

Rhonda, I really hope things get better with you and Tony, if you need to vent you know my number

Until later, Joanna

Well Adrian is in the shower now so I am catching up.

We just went to the caribbean grocery store down the street and he said he felt like he had not left Jamaica, that they had everything that they have in the Jamaica grocery stores....then we went to walmart and did some more grocery shopping. So all is good right now...mom and dad asked us to dinner tomorrow night so I hope that goes OK I dont want Adrian to feel too uncomfortable right off the bat....I live where there is a mixture of people, black, white and spanish...he said he gets a little uncomfortable around a lot of white people but Orlando is so diverse I think he will be ok.

So goodnight for now.

Hello everyone...

Adrian is now home

Well Adrians flight outta Kingston was delayed and he arrived at JFK around 12:20am...(he was suppose to be there 10:10pm) he said the flight was real real rough and some guy on the plane kept yelling "PLEASE PLEASE LET THIS PLANE STAY IN THE AIR, OH MY GOD OH MY GOD..." I would have been so scared I hate turbulance

...I just got off the phone with him and he is checking into the hotel...so alls good for right now.

I am going back to bed.

Goodnight or shal I say good morning

Well hello everyone,

Adrian recieved his visa around 3pm today and then headed for the air port for his flight at 5:30pm....talk about cutting it close....Last time I spoke with him he was on the way to the airport and he would call when he reached JFK 10:10 tonight....I just pray that he got on the flight safely....since his other flight was canceled that was that was suppose to leave this morning (thank goodness it got canceled) AirJamaica is paying for him a hotel room at JFK and he will fly outta JFK tomorrow around 12pm.

I am feeling much better now....I am the main recruiter for my job and there is a huge business expo this weekend at the convention center, I was suppose to work it but since Adrian was going to be here I was not going to ( I am kind of a control freak and wanted to be there for the Expo)...so I left it in the hands of the other recruiter, I called her earlier and she was heading to the convention center to set up so I met her and helped out and I am going to work the expo tomorrow till about 3pm and then go pick up Adrian....It helped so much to get back to some normal stuff and do some work..it got my mind off things.

I am doing better now thanks for everyones well wishes (not to say i might not freak out again) but I know ya'll are there for me......THANKS

Jamie - so sorry to hear of you loss...you and Andre will be in my prayers

Joanna

ok i need a answer ASAP!!!!

Do you need to wait till you get packet #4 to set up the medical??? i thought no...but mike's mom says yes...

Yes as long as you have the date you can make the appointment...they will probally make the appointment 1 week before the interview like they did Adrians.

Well more bad news...Adrian still has not recieved his visa...he went to the embassy this morning and they said it could be a day or two before he gets it....his flight is booked for tomorrow ..I guess we will be calling to change his flight....oh well what else could go wrong.

I just got back from the Doctor and he gave me some medication to try and calm my nerves...I sure hope it helps...one minute I am up and the next minute I am down....I have always been such a level headed person and dont usually let things get to me...but Boy are my nerves shot!!

Anyway hope everyone has a good day, i am at my parents house right now and about to go hang out with my mom and keep my mind off things.

If you guys had your choice, which hotel would you stay (prefer to stay) near to the Embassy...can you list by your preference choice?

-Hilton -is this really within walking distance, because I can get a great travel agent rate (cheaper than the other places

-Knutsford

-Courtleigh

-Pegasus

Thanks for any info...

I think all of them are within walking distance....I have never stayed at any of the hotels but have passed by them and if you can get a better rate at the Hilton I would say stay there.

Guess what we got in the mail today....

WELCOME TO AMERICA!!! YOUR NEW CARD IS ON THE WAY!!!

Praise the Lord I can't believe it came through so quick...I was afraid we would be caught in FBI Name Check hell forever...hopefully we will get the card just as quickly Thanks for all the support and prayers

I just wet myself......CONGRATULATIONS!! :dance:

OOOMMMGGGG MINDY I AM ROLLIN

Congrats girl! Celebrate tonight

What time and channel does Top Model come on???? I catch it every now and then but it is just when I am flipping channels....I want to watch it

I agree the girl makes me have the zzzzzz to. Wouldn't that be great if the vote was wrong and Chris came back. But I am glad he has his own band. I want their album.

I wish...

Who do you think will win Americas Next Top Model?

I think it's gonna be Joanie

I like Danielle. Joanie is the favorite at my work.

I also like Danielle...but I don't think she will win cause the girl just can't learn to talk clearly!

I think Joanie will win...I wouldn't mind. She seems to be a nice girl.

I just hope and pray that Jade gets kicked off soon. That girl annoys me to death. She has been in the bottom 2 so many times and each time I couldn't believe they let her stay. Her body language alone drives me crazy...not to mention her attitude and all the other things about her

I like Joanie and Danielle...Jade look like ET with them wide set eyes and pronounced cheekbones

but if even if Jade don't win I still think she gonna be big, just cause her look is so unique

What time and channel does Top Model come on???? I watch it every now and then but it is only when I am flipping channels and see it on....

Guess what we got in the mail today....

WELCOME TO AMERICA!!! YOUR NEW CARD IS ON THE WAY!!!

Praise the Lord I can't believe it came through so quick...I was afraid we would be caught in FBI Name Check hell forever...hopefully we will get the card just as quickly Thanks for all the support and prayers

I just wet myself......CONGRATULATIONS!! :dance:

Oh my Mindy you are too funny!!!

CONGRATS JAMIE AND ANDRE

Good evening everyone,

I was just checking in, I am feeling a little better today but I am still having some anxiety that comes and goes, I spoke with Jonesie and Rhonda today and that helped a lot. Adrian will be here Friday and I am going to see how the 1st 2 weeks goes with him here and if I am still feeling this stressed him and I are going to have a long talk and decide what we want to do from there. There are times when I am happy that he is coming and glad that we are getting married and then there are times when I dont think it will work and I want to call everything off . I dont know what I am going through right now....you all have helped me sooo much THANKS

If anyone is wondering nothing negative happened in Jamaica, all the feelings I am having are on my part, Adrian has done nothing wrong he has been great to me. I am just stressing out too much and I really need to calm myself...I did have a break down on the phone with my parents and I am very happy that they say they will support my decision 100% no matter what happens it is great to have such wonderful parents, but some of my fears are that they will be disappointed in me, I know I should live for myself and not worry about what they think, but they are a huge part of my life and I am very close to them.

Thanks to all , it feels better to at least tell people my feelings that are or have gone through this same process....I am glad I have yall and I can get things off my chest and not have to keep my feelings inside.

Joanna