Cathi

Getting an expedite because you need to be his caregiver isn't going to get you here any sooner, it's considered work. And since he works at a family business, trying to convince USCIS that he's going to lose his job, is going to be difficult. It won't hurt to try. My 25 year old son is high functioning autistic (Asperger's), so I understand 100%. I also have RA plus I also have lupus and Sjogren's Syndrome and I had breast cancer 6 years ago, so I understand his mom's pain. I am the person who has helped him navigate life and everything that goes along with being autistic (depression, anxiety, lack of social skills ect) since the day he was born. The older he gets the more we have him do things for himself, this has helped his self-esteem TREMENDOUSLY. Holding his hand for everything will never allow him to navigate life by himself. I know it's hard, but you need to start allowing him to do some things on his own, even if the simplest of things, he will surprise you in a good way. Start with something simple like doing his own laundry, or taking the trash out at the end of the day. I also work for NAMI )National Alliance on Mental illness) as an autism, disability and mental health advocate for teenagers and young adults, I work with dozens of people just like my son and your fiancé, every day. You need to give him the space to do things on his own, trust me. A few short years ago my son was 100% dependent on me , and I mean 100%, I did everything for him. Now he drives, owns his own car, works, and he goes to college 3 nights a week. He also does 99% of his daily chores (laundry, cleaning his room, organizing ect) on his own, all skills he learned because we encouraged him to do so on his own. It took time, but he does it all. He also has a girlfriend and she doesn't manage a thing for him. He keeps all of his appointments and reminders in his phone. If anyone had told me 3 years ago that my son would be as self-sufficient as he is now, and have a girlfriend, I never would have believed them. Gently encouraging my son to learn and do things on his own has worked, doing every last little thing for him, did not. Trust me. He absolutely LOVES his life and his self-esteem is through the roof.

The truth is, no one here knows whether or not you'll definitely get the visa, we have no way of knowing all of the facts of your case. As of now you're in AP and until all of the background checks are complete, you won't have an answer. Unfortunately, it's a waiting game at this point. I wish you the best, please keep us updated.

I don't think anyone thinks you were ill intentioned, people are just telling you the truth of the situation. No one here is going to be warm and fuzzy, people are going to explain the facts as they see them and facts are, paying for his trip in any way, shape or form works against him. Just because you think it's common, doesn't mean immigration is going to see it the same, ESPECIALLY considering the fact that your husband adjusted from a non-immigrant visa-and that fact can never be remedied.

Dude, what you're suggesting is immigration fraud.

Paying for his trip works against him.

Then you did your research in the wrong place/places. It's never been a secret about the timeline of each process.

If you got your conditional green card in 2020, you don't qualify for naturalization based on 5 years, it would be 3 years. You don't start counting on the day you married, you start counting from the day you received your green card in 2020.

Waste of time and money.

I agree with everyone else, there is no harm in trying. If you don't get approved, meet in a neutral country. FYI, I've been to Thailand and it's absolutely beautiful, it would be a great country to meet in if you're denied. Best of luck!

It's a big mess because they were green card holders who were not living in the U.S., and blaming it on COVID and other non-issues is ridiculous. This all could have been avoided if you had waited until they were ready to move here before applying for them. Sorry for being blunt, but it's the truth.

I had 3 children, all c sections, 2 of them premature by 6 weeks, and never needed, asked or had any help from my family, and they lived close. Not sure why you would request or need an expedited visa for a normal birth. Regardless of that, childcare is considered work, if you try to get their visas expedited for that reason, it will result in their visas being denied all together. Not a good idea.

Marry and do a CR1. No matter the visa chosen, there is nothing easy, cheap or fast about U.S. immigration. Nothing. As long as they are prepared for that in advance, there will be no disappointments.

Posts like that make my head want to explode. Sounds like this person is going to do what they want, regardless of all of the warnings from others in the thread. Honestly. I hope this person gets caught, if only to knock his wife's sense of entitlement down a few notches.

Reapplying without knowing the exact reason/s for denial, is a waste of time and money. Wait for the NOIR, then correct reason/s for denial before filing again.

You have at least 25 years time before a visa number becomes available. No expedite allowed for sibling category.

Ding ding ding ding!!!!

You won't have any issues. I know other petitioners who have had one or more DUs and successfully brought spouses/fiancés here.

Was just about to say the same thing until I saw your comment.

Most likely the fact that they're trying to improve numbers. Most people send "immaculate" packets yet they sit for months and months on end. Be thankful...and humble.

Coming here to help with your child care is considered work.

If you want the visa, give them exactly what they want and if I were you, I'd do it myself. No need to pay a lawyer, especially since he/she gave you wrong info to begin with.

Best I've seen, yet!! 🤣

They will never qualify for Medicare or Medicaid as they never paid into the system and it sounds like they never will. You will have to provide private insurance for them.

Not sure what you're asking from us. There is no one to contact, the numbers are the numbers and there's nothing you can do except wait.

Where did you get the idea that you can marry at a U.S Embassy? No one there performs marriages.