Cathi

Ummmmmmm....it's federal, has nothing to do with the state you live in. You are not understanding what we are trying to tell you. Under the I-864 you are NOT obligated to pay her a dime in a divorce. Ever. The I-864 merely states that if she uses any means tested benefits like: Welfare, food stamps, Medicaid ect...that YOU as the petitioner would under the law, have to repay the government for any benefits used. That's it. End of story. You do not have to pay her a single cent under the obligation of the I864. Period. Full stop. You had a terrible divorce lawyer and you received TERRIBLE advice from an immigration attorney. You got HOSED. Alimony/child support are separate issues that have NOTHING to do with the I-864. Just because you run a software company, is no excuse for not knowing what the I-864 is and means, as far as the law. I'm a dental hygienist, not an attorney, and I understand.

Why on Earth would you not tell him? You are putting his life in danger because you're scared of what he'll think, that's the most selfish and immature thing I've ever heard. And as others have already stated, it is illegal in several states to NOT tell him. I've been on this site for over 10 years and it never ceases to amaze me the things that people try to hide from their significant others. Not to mention the things thing people lie about and try to hide from USCIS and the embassy. This is one for the books.

You came here asking for advice, now you're arguing with the facts. Just because someone you may or may not know in some hotel somewhere on vacation in the U.S., took a work call or email or 2, does not make it legal. It merely means that they got away with it and they violated the terms of their visa. You cannot work, physically or remotely, while here on a B visa. Fact.

It's 100% absolutely fraud for planning it on his side. Again, it is immigration fraud, illegal and there will be no happy ending if this is what he does. A permanent ban to the U.S.

My thoughts exactly. It's far safer than it is in the U.S.