Hey all, first my name is Scott...my wife is from the phillipines...we have been together over a year and married. We have her K1 visa and we are about to go back to the United States. I am a US Soldier and stationed in S. Korea....for the past year I have been sending money to her family, but during this time we have been financially struggeling. My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant with our son, which is amazing bc we have been trying for about 6 months...and while trying i told her on many occassions that once she was pregnant money would STOP to her family..but yet she doesnt see it that way.
It all started after we first met and her 4 year old sister needed eye surgery or she would go blind, it was only 300.00 USD so it wasnt that bad, but after that it was her family with their hand out on payday. I delt with it but now i cant because my son's future is at stake.
I was sending 350.00 USD every 2 weeks....totaled 7,500.00 USD in 1 year, and then I sent her home with 3000.00 USD when she went home to visit. She has 9 brothers and sisters, two of the boys being 20 and 21. She is the oldest child.
Last night I made a comment on her facebook about how happy I was we were having a son, i check later and her oldest brother posted "send money home now says momma". Now this made me extremely angry not only did he disrespect my way of life but he posted on my comment about my son with such non-sense.
Today she said she wanted to send 150.00 USD home, I told her no we had discussed last check we would send 100.00 USD every 2 weeks...and thats all. She wont talk to her family about them getting jobs, she just sits quietly and lets them beg and i have to see her upset and crying
This is causing our marriage to be in trouble..I love my wife and will do anything to make her happy...but I cant take this stress anymore...what do i do?!
As of now I am not sending any money to them, and she wont speak to me going on 2 days now....
Hi
It will only get worse. They bargain where americans don't, they always ask for 2-6 times what they need. The more you give the more they ask. Its like HEROIN you have to stop it. They think in the US money grows on trees and crops grow without rain. My marriage works because I saw it coming and said no to giving money unless both agreed. Also you control the money where in the PH the women do the budget.
Filipina wife issues....advice please...
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Hi
It will only get worse. They bargain where americans don't, they always ask for 2-6 times what they need. The more you give the more they ask. Its like HEROIN you have to stop it. They think in the US money grows on trees and crops grow without rain. My marriage works because I saw it coming and said no to giving money unless both agreed. Also you control the money where in the PH the women do the budget.
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