graceroxas

You just gotta keep telling yourself you are only waiting a short while to be together for the rest of your life!

I do know what you mean though, it's been 4 long months TODAY. I have also found there is no fairness when it comes to this process. One member *MET* his fiance online in December 2010, met in person and mailed the I129F in January, and got approved in February. There's absolutely no fairness in that.... I had already filed my application before these jokers even knew the other exisited!!!! I know the blame isn't on those people, but on the service center. If these applications only take 15 minutes, why is there such a back up??!?!

Amidst all the waiting, I find it sobering to browse through the "Major Family Changes in Immigration Benefits" section of this website.

Many of the sob stories there got me thinking that USCIS is inadvertently offering a good opportunity for many long-distance couples, especially those who've met online and known each other only for quite a short while (present company included), to spend a little more time knowing the other person. This process takes a lot out of people that we sometimes tend to get fixated on what is just a means to an end.

These months of agony is just gonna be a short blip in the relative eternity of time you're gonna be spending as a couple.That's why I don't envy those people who got their approvals within only two or three months of knowing that each other exists. Of course, they could still end up being happy ever after. Just speaking for myself.

Grace

I was just reading through all of the approvals for CSC October filers

its very disappointing

i really do hope VSC speeds up and gets out our NOA2's

If it's any consolation, the CSC filers were also having some bad moments seeing a number of non-expedited Jan and Feb 2011 petitions approved ahead of the queue. (Crossing our fingers that CSC had put that bout of irrationality behind it). To each his own circle of hell

Grace

NOA-2 today!!!!!

Bring it on for everyone!!!!!

John

Congratulations!! Helps restore faith --- much shaken of late --- in the system

D I would also like to add to your post by saying that it is not only men who are afraid of single mothers, but also single childless women who are afraid of single fathers; it will always be difficult to accept someone with children (specially if the other person is childless) because of the lifelong responsibility and commitment parenting entails. I wonder how other independent, professional, and childless female petitioners feel about this issue?

A good,no, an excellent (!) gauge of his character. How he is with his kids. I guess that can also work the other way around --- among childless men meeting single moms.

My wife is not as much younger as your husband (15 year difference), and we do *just barely* fall under the traditional formula for acceptable age differences (which I discovered somewhere is (your age / 2) + 7). But in any event, I haven't had any negative remarks (actually lots of positive ones) and my wife had one of the easiest times in the embassy that I've ever heard about. No issues from either family either.

Toma1 --- This diverges a bit from the thread but I'm just curious about that formula you quoted. First time I've heard of one. Care to elaborate?

OMG. My heart literally skipped a bit as i checked the USCIS site and saw we got touched last 2/11. I know this may not mean anything and they might just have moved the papers around but did anyone else got touched that day? Just wondering..

We did. Almost same timeline as yours.