I am my ends rope here. I married my Filipina barely on year ago and the constant fighting and arguing has reached its limit with me.
I know that I have my issues, but I can't deal with the constant berating, and sense of entitlement that I get from my spouse. I never met someone so childish. I know that she does help out a bit with the kids, but she's constantly in her pajamas and laying around all day long on her phone.
I've sought counseling, but when I offer invitation for my wife to accompany me, she refuses and believes our issues are all mine.
We have one child together and the other two are hers. Her and her children are currently in the AOS phase and haven't received their green cards yet. She keeps stating that she wants to go back to the Philippines and I clearly believe her.
I have not yet adopted her kids because we had to wait one year after they got here before I could file. I was anticipating doing that this year. But of course I would need her approval.
If we do end up getting divorced, what are my legal responsibilities? If she takes off and goes back home, can she legally take all three children? I've read that court systems take into account the "best interests" when it comes to deciding where to place the children.
I'm currently employed and make well over 100k per year. I have my own home and the older kids are enrolled in school and have amazing friends and my family here who have accepted them as their nephew, niece, and grandchildren.
My wife on the other hand, if she were to go back to the Philippines has nothing. No money, no place to live, no means of support and poor education opportunities for the kids.
Since they have not yet received green cards, I understand that I can rescind my Affadavit of Support for my wife without it affecting the children.
I love her kids as my own and want very much to be their father. But I can't do that with my wife around.