US Immigration from Ireland

I just want someone to at least commiserate with. We've been waiting since April 29 for our EAD. My husband, our beneficiary, has been not allowed to work for 6 months on Sunday. We talked to our congressperson a month ago and heard nothing. Friday the congresswoman's office told us our application is "on an adjudicators desk" and we should hear back by this week but honestly I don't expect to hear back.

I know that we signed up for this. I know that. But in no reality did I expect this work and travel document to take such an obscenely long time. My savings are dwindling and both mine and my husband's mental health is suffering. Hobbies/fitness/whatever he can do to take up his time only does so much. He's doing everything he can to support us in other ways than financial but I just need help.

How are other people coping with this? How do you keep yourself patient and sane? I feel like I literally do not have any patience left. I've seen in many groups that there's people who applied around the same time we did or even after us and already at least have an interview, or their EAD, and we get nothing. It just seems like there's absolutely no rhyme or reason to this process. And then I see other people who have been waiting 8,9,10 months and I literally just can't believe it.

I'm just having a day where I'm having a hard time being positive about this and am wondering if I got myself into something that I can't actually handle. As soon as we get this stupid EAD our entire lives will change and its just so frustrating to call the USCIS and be told to "be patient" and literally not a single other explanation.

I know I'm preaching to the choir and this probably just sounds super whiney but I just am feeling so desperate and powerless sometimes.