This is more of a rant than asking for advice or solace. I initially delayed starting the petition process to immigrate my spouse to the U.S. Once I was able to get the required documents in order to move to Germany 6 years ago, I had such a difficult adjustment with integrating myself to a new culture, language, job, etc. I delayed the process for a couple years with no real excuse.
It was the biggest move of my life, and there was so many difficult steps that maybe it was just me being afraid to start another long and tedious process again. My wife helped me get all structured and get the correct documents notarized from like 8,000 miles away. I didn't have the smoothest experience with the German Ausländerbehörde but with my wife's detailed preparation, it went pretty ok.
This petition process I told her that I would handle it. I would do the research and ensure I had everything correctly submitted. I wanted to pay her back for all the help she gave me, which I think now was honorable but stupid.
The VisaJourney here provided updates on when to approximately expect a response for my initial petition to the USCIS. I would say that it was totally accurate given the last suggested update I recieved from this site. So kudos to this site really... really nice and dependable.
But now I have to wait for the mail to recieve instructions on what I missed or didn't submit correctly. My account says now that the delay will take another 5 months!
I'm just so thoroughly disappointed in myself... Maybe I didn' submit enough pictures of our travels, or letters from family. I didn't include family providing a notarized letter providing their witness to the validitiy of our marriage. I thought all of the pictures, letters and cards we shared were enough.
So now I have to sit and wait and inform my wife that we have to wait. She is currently out of town taking care of her mom recovering from surgery... so I don't even want to text her about this. It will cause undo stress, so I will just wait until she gets home this weekend and inform her.
That is why I like being anonymous here and gives me a chance to rant about this situation. Thanks for reading and please make sure you have provided the initial evidence and documentation correctly. I'll provide an update here once I recieve the instructions as well as the progress of the petition.