mam521

Depending on what state you live in, if you can prove residency for 1 year, you can often get in state tuition at a public university rather than pay out of state or international tuition fees. I'm not sure that Michigan is one of those states. You and your spouse will have to look into it and/or if there are any bordering states that allow MI residents to enroll under in state tuition rules. You'll also have to find out what credits previously earned would transfer in your program of choice. The cost of post secondary in the US is eye wateringly expensive, for the most part, compared to most places in the world. If you can qualify for in state tuition, it will have a huge impact on the associated costs.

I never changed my name. In my mind, it's too much of a money grab expense and headache to change in 2 separate countries.

I'd use different words but the language doesn't align with the T&C of use here! 🤣

Yup, it's that one.

So I've just spent the past little bit playing catch up here, reading the last 8 or so pages. You are 1 million percent being baited and you NEED to keep communication to lawyer ONLY. Your statement that I bolded above will be used against you. She will try to create the illusion that you are emotionally abusive and that your lover for her is based entirely on condition. In that statement, you've given her an ultimatum. That looks bad, even though that's not your intention. It's imperative that you throw off this mask of naivety. Irrespective of you stating you're not a vindictive person, you need to really stop trusting everyone else to be like you. This woman is looking out for herself only and will take down whomever gets in her way, however she feels she needs to, to get the job done. The painful reality is SHE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU. THIS. You have a 15 year old that seems to be a bit forgotten in all of this. She, too, will have been traumatized by all of this and she too, has been a victim of abuse. She will be watching carefully now on how you navigate your way back through. You seem to fall hard and fast and I know you have your church community, but that doesn't always help you understand the underlying drivers for why you've behaved as you have and why you can't come to terms with ending a relationship with an abuser. You need a professional to help unpack all of this. Additionally, I wouldn't even be worried about who you date in future, be it a foreigner or an American, at this juncture. You have so much trauma that requires addressing before you're even ready to think about that. Will Smith once said that he wasn't responsible for his wife's happiness; that statement is 100% true. At the end of the day, YOU are responsible for YOUR happiness and if you have a loving and supporting partner who contributes to that happiness, that's really the ultimate goal. Isn't that what you want for your daughter, too? For her to see that she can be a strong, confident person and the people she curates into her life should be ones that raise her up, not bring her down? Your lawyer is a divorce attorney, so of course they aren't concerned with the immigration portion. It's not their wheelhouse. I really hope you heed the advice given by many here and can begin to reassemble your life. You've begun the mechanical things like withdrawing the I-130 and filing for divorce. You've started to lean back to your community, but there's still a lot of work to be done. Please, think about your child and how you want her future to be, the people you want her to choose to surround her and her perception of success and happiness. Best of luck 🍀

The difference is being handed the DS-5535, which is extreme vetting, versus AP, which is much less invasive. I'm sorry you're going through that. There is another thread on the Canadian forum for people who've been handed a DS-5535. Unfortunately, there have been people on the other thread who immigrated as infants or small children and were still put in line for extreme vetting.

I suspect this would be beneficial to most, not just immigrants! The financial literacy training kids receive in school these days seems to be lacking, at best!

Because she feels the need to sprinkle her fur into your sweat because it sticks amazingly well and makes you itchy, all while allowing her to sniff all the outside smells. I think it was just windier that usual this year. I managed to get away with mowing with the bag in the back yard this year. We bag mowed the front once, raked once and have to blow and bag once more but that seems to be light compared to the usual double digit bags we typically fill each weekend for Feb and Mar. I'm suffering from The Pollening. What's the acronym for incessant male oak gametes bombarding my immune system, making me miserable?

Well, at least they've held him on a $500,000 bond. I still don't know why people like this with a rap sheet involving children like that is roaming free.

This would be my concern. Depending which it is will determine if you apply as an international student and what tuition you'd be responsible for. If you have a school locally, can wait another 6 months and prove residency for a year, many states have in state tuition for residents, making things much more affordable.

@jan22's excellent summary will get you cooking. Make sure you scan all of your documents before you send and I'd recommend getting your child a passport card as well as a passport book. The card can be put away for safe keeping until your child receives their certificate and serves as another ID, should something nefarious happen to the passport. There's a strange dichotomy between the Department of State and USCIS. Because your child is 17, they will have to attend an oath ceremony to receive their CoC.

I'm of a similar mindset to @NorthByNorthwest. 6 months ago, I'd have said travel with AP. With the current political climate, I'd highly recommend keeping travel domestic. I'm not trying to monger any fear, but I know a lot of people who've been greencard holders for years and have recently filed for citizenship just because they feel the greencard alone isn't security enough in their minds.

Go lock your SSN. If he's attempting to live on his own, I wouldn't doubt he's trying to use your info to gain credit and further impact your debt. Hire a divorce attorney ASAP. You'll need to get that much sorted so you can start recovering your financial situation. Divorce proceedings and marital property are different to immigration proceedings. You are still obligated under the I-864 to look after certain financial bits for him, but it doesn't mean you can't worry about yourself. He will have to file to remove conditions; you don't have to help him with that. He'll need to file with waiver for divorce. Good luck!

It's $50 cheaper if you do it online. It's easier, too, because you can just upload the evidence - no need to scan, print, bundle, mail and hope it doesn't get lost.

Good thing we never moved, lol! I didn't even know the I-865 was a thing. AR-11, sure but not the I-865.