Cheating Husband

[chiffoncupcake 1]

Hope everyone is having a smooth journey.

My husband posted an ad on craigslist for sexual encounters with men and another personal ad to look for women (where he put his relationship status as "divorced"). He is not aware of I saw the ads and denied all of these. This is not the first incident that has ever happened in our relationship/ marriage. And I found myself becoming increasing intolerant towards this particular behavior. I do not know what to do anymore

What would you do if you were me?

[Sandrila 1]

I would confront him, let him know you know and I certainly would say he intends on being unfaithful.

Better turn him loose to take care of his "unfinished business".

Sorry

God be with you

[Jenn! 918]

How does he deny it when you seem to have solid evidence? Does he claim someone else was using your computer?

[chiffoncupcake 1]

He insisted he did not do it. I am not a person to strike up fights and I know if I keep pushing, he would threaten a divorce. I have left my country to be with him and I am establishing myself here hoping to be independent and it is not my intention or my preferred choice to give up my efforts right now. In case of a divorce, I assume I would get deported?

[Jenn! 918]

He insisted he did not do it. I am not a person to strike up fights and I know if I keep pushing, he would threaten a divorce. I have left my country to be with him and I am establishing myself here hoping to be independent and it is not my intention or my preferred choice to give up my efforts right now. In case of a divorce, I assume I would get deported?

Where are you in the process? Have you received your conditional green card? If so, as long as you can prove that you entered the marriage in good faith (which seems to be the case), you would be able to remove the conditions on your green card by yourself in the case that you got divorced.

[chiffoncupcake 1]

Yes, we did enter the marriage in good faith. We dated for 4 years before getting married. We married last December and I received my green card this June. I was told not to forget to remove conditions in two years...

[Nik+Heather 121]

I dunno, anyone can place Craig's List ads, you know? If I was an evil exgirlfriend and I wanted to break up a man and his wife this might be an option. You aren't saying you found the confirmations in his emails, just that you found the ads, correct? If he says he didn't post them, who does he think did post them? Did he say he didn't post them the first time around as well? If he actually did it himself the first time, I guess I'd be more inclined to think that he also posted them the second time.

On the other hand, if you frequently browse Craig's list personals to see if there is anything with your husband, I think it's over anyway...If you don't trust him, it doesn't matter if he did or didn't do it.

I'm sorry you and your husband are having a difficult time. As others have mentioned, you can remove conditions without his support if you are divorced, you just need to prove that the marriage was real when you entered into it.

[chiffoncupcake 1]

Thank you all for your inputs. They are email exchanges from his account and a credit card bill of subscription service to personals service with his personal ad.

[soniew910 0]

What's this got to do with immigration? ????

[chiffoncupcake 1]

I am an immigrant married to a USC.

[Jasman0717 9]

Run away and fast

[Mary Lou 681]

What's this got to do with immigration? ????

If you had read her post, it has everything to do with immigration, if her marriage, hence, legal status here in the USA is in jeopardy.

[Nina~ 431]

Thank you all for your inputs. They are email exchanges from his account and a credit card bill of subscription service to personals service with his personal ad.

From personal experience, I know that people like him do not change... There will be tears & apologies & promises that they'll change and everything will be different from now onwards. However it will keep happening time & time again.

As another person suggested, run as fast as you can without looking back. You dont need to be married to lift conditions.

Goodluck!

P.S: Get tested for STDS

[Chica Yeyé 41]

What's this got to do with immigration? ????

If you have nothing to contribute to the OP's questions, say nothing. Reported.

To the OP: make sure gather evidence of all this. If you do leave your husband, make sure to carry such evidence with you, so you can remove conditions on your own. If you manage to work thingso ut with him, good for you. Best of luck.

[pakman 0]

You should have responded to the ad and surprised him in the hotel room.