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Hi, Help

Just got married 1 month now. K1 My wife doesn't like to have sex or approach me for sex ?

Don't know what the problem is don't know what to do. I cant live like this some days I don't know if I should go home

she is piss off at what I don't know.

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Hi, Help

Just got married 1 month now. K1 My wife doesn't like to have sex or approach me for sex ?

Don't know what the problem is don't know what to do. I cant live like this some days I don't know if I should go home

she is piss off at what I don't know.

Is she like that always or its only some days? Did you discuss this issue with your wife?

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not really a k-1 forum topic - moved from k-1 to off topic.

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maybe she is Gay?

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Maybe its deformed? ####### seriously. Ask her why she does not want to go there, and tell her from me that if she no blow it youz will find someone to do itz for ya....... Learn to likey or say good bye :P

Could be hormones.. my ex had pre menapause... her sex drive was in park. and there were several other side effects.. a trip to the doc and she is getting better now... cost us our marriage... a trip[ to a doc, a counselor and communication.. or you end up divorced...

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Maybe its deformed? ####### seriously. Ask her why she does not want to go there, and tell her from me that if she no blow it youz will find someone to do itz for ya....... Learn to likey or say good bye :P

Could be hormones.. my ex had pre menapause... her sex drive was in park. and there were several other side effects.. a trip to the doc and she is getting better now... cost us our marriage... a trip[ to a doc, a counselor and communication.. or you end up divorced...

:o maybe, brother Scott... never mind :lol:;)

I understand Len.. thanks for going easy on me.. I feel sorry for the guy and his wife if it aint a troll..

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1. This is a serious issue for me and yes I do shower twice a day.

2. She is currently taking MICROGYNON ED fe Birth control pill could this be the cause maybe some women can

Address this issue

3. Thanks to all who gave a positive reply on this issue?

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Bummer. So, did your sexual relationship change after marriage? Was she more open to sexual activities prior to marriage? Or, has she been this way as long as you two have been together? If she has always been this way, that's one thing. If she behaved one way and has recently changed, that's something different.

Have you asked her how comfortable she is with sex? Sex and intimacy, at the root, requires honest and open communication. What are her cultural beliefs about sex? Some cultures see sex as a duty and obligation, not as a method of romance, intimacy and joy. If it's cultural for her, you will have more of a battle to get her to open up with you.

I would recommend you setting up a romantic scene, get some candles, prepare a nice dinner, dim the lights, share a glass of wine and talk about casual topics. Slip some jokes in to make her laugh. Laughter releases endorphines and other happy-happy, joy-joy feelings. When you are both comfortable and relaxed, bring up your physical relationship. Tell her that physical intimacy is important to you and that you have noticed a loss in that area, and would she be comfortable talking to you about it. It's important not to seem aggressive or critical. Sometimes women are uncomfortable talking about sex and if they feel they are being "attacked" they will tighten up and be even more uncomfortable. See if you can get her to start talking to you about, tell her the things she does that you like... for instance, does she hug you and kiss your cheek when you come home from work? You could tell her that it fills you with joy and love for her when she touches you like that.

Bottom line, keep it open, positive and non-confrontational. Find out what it is that is making her uncomfortable and then see if you can find ways to help open her up to new experiences. Help her embrace your physical relationship and find joy and excitement with it.

Know that you might have to be the proactive one, you will have to show her the fun of it, you will have to surprise and delight her if you really want her to change.

Unless of course she has changed her behavior and she isn't interested in your relationship.

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My birth control has messed with me in that aspect before.

She should talk to her doctor about it and maybe switch brands.

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