Hitting and Swearing

[Uthar 0]

Yesterday my filipina wife started hiting me several times, once in the mouth just slightly off camera when she was chatting with her family back home. I swore and said "ah, what the f..." and then she would not stop swearing or hitting me. When we were going to bed she slapped my face so I slapped her back, not as hard and told her to stop because its not nice and hurts. She then hit me some more times and swore some more and now will not talk to me..

Is this sime weird philippine custom that I never heard about? Did I break some custom by hitting back and telling her to stop?

[Mike's Lucy 14]

Definitely not a Filipina trait. Maybe you provoked her or something? But still it's not an excuse to hit someone.

Yesterday my filipina wife started hiting me several times, once in the mouth just slightly off camera when she was chatting with her family back home. I swore and said "ah, what the f..." and then she would not stop swearing or hitting me. When we were going to bed she slapped my face so I slapped her back, not as hard and told her to stop because its not nice and hurts. She then hit me some more times and swore some more and now will not talk to me..

Is this sime weird philippine custom that I never heard about? Did I break some custom by hitting back and telling her to stop?

Edited June 18, 2009 by MikeeLucyForever

[john & jean 37]

sound like a ploy, next you will get reported for spousal abuse. then she can divorce you, and get a gc!!!

[Kikibearylala 2]

Yesterday my filipina wife started hiting me several times, once in the mouth just slightly off camera when she was chatting with her family back home. I swore and said "ah, what the f..." and then she would not stop swearing or hitting me. When we were going to bed she slapped my face so I slapped her back, not as hard and told her to stop because its not nice and hurts. She then hit me some more times and swore some more and now will not talk to me..

Is this sime weird philippine custom that I never heard about? Did I break some custom by hitting back and telling her to stop?

not a trait of a filipina.why not talk about the mess radther than hurtin each other.why she hitted u in the first place?there must be a reason why she did that.

[borednad2 0]

Yesterday my filipina wife started hiting me several times, once in the mouth just slightly off camera when she was chatting with her family back home. I swore and said "ah, what the f..." and then she would not stop swearing or hitting me. When we were going to bed she slapped my face so I slapped her back, not as hard and told her to stop because its not nice and hurts. She then hit me some more times and swore some more and now will not talk to me..

Is this sime weird philippine custom that I never heard about? Did I break some custom by hitting back and telling her to stop?

is there a reason why she hit u?if there's no reason then there might be a problem with her (psychological prhaps?)

and where was she from in the philippines?not that matters but i just wana know from which region she from.how 's ur age difference?i asked bec maybe (i really hope not) she just scammed u so she can get her gc.

i suggest the next time she slaps u or hit u then call the police.,if u dont she will

[=FoxyBLUE= 2]

Yesterday my filipina wife started hiting me several times, once in the mouth just slightly off camera when she was chatting with her family back home. I swore and said "ah, what the f..." and then she would not stop swearing or hitting me. When we were going to bed she slapped my face so I slapped her back, not as hard and told her to stop because its not nice and hurts. She then hit me some more times and swore some more and now will not talk to me..

Is this sime weird philippine custom that I never heard about? Did I break some custom by hitting back and telling her to stop?

She just hit you?!!! be specific dear. Like what others say..i think there is really a reason behind those hitting or provoke her to.

PINAYS are known to be affectionate, sweet (malambing)......not unless, she is really a warfreak person or her famiyl didnt teach her of good manners...

One reason of provoking a Pinay to hit you...is when you say something not really nice about her family....Filipinos are very family-oriented....

Go talk to her..and talk about this issue....and isnt it nice to sleep when you there's nothing bothering you?

[RVIANE♛ 5]

Yesterday my filipina wife started hiting me several times, once in the mouth just slightly off camera when she was chatting with her family back home. I swore and said "ah, what the f..." and then she would not stop swearing or hitting me. When we were going to bed she slapped my face so I slapped her back, not as hard and told her to stop because its not nice and hurts. She then hit me some more times and swore some more and now will not talk to me..

Is this sime weird philippine custom that I never heard about? Did I break some custom by hitting back and telling her to stop?

if she did hit you with no apparent reason and u didn't even provoke her well maybe your wife is war freak next time she hit u again dont hit her back and call the police

[David-and-Mae 15]

Was she always that way even when you were visiting her back in the Philippines? It is not very common for us Filipina to hit and swear (I have never used the F word here in the US even when I was in Pinas). We would lightly pinch as another form of affection but none hurtful... not unless you married a war freak. Be careful now, you may want to explain to her the consequences of doing such. I know a Filipina who spent the night in jail for hitting her Filipino husband.

[luckymom 0]

If out of nowhere she hits you there is a big problem in her attitude or she may be psychologically disturbed as what the other lady said here. A typical filipino wife will not hurt a husband especially in an unfamiliar place like the US. This post is not clear at all, there should be some reasons why these things are happening. Can you elaborate more on this issue because I for one is lost somewhere here. You just post that problem without any surrounding facts. Be more accurate and specific if not detailed in your statements. Hurting is not justifiable whether it's the wife or the husband is doing it. No one has the right to physically hurt or abuse anyone unless it is for self-defense purposes. Need more info here.

[Uthar 0]

She was chatting with her family and I was next to her. She then started started talking about lice for some reason to me, it must have been a topic with her family. She then grabbed my head saying this is what they do and hit the top of my head relly hard with her fingernails. Thats when I swore, what the F. She then hit me in the mouth. After ending the chat with her family she started saying things like F you! You want to F me? and hit me a few more times slapping my face etc. Through all this I did nothing to retaliate and told her to stop.

The rest of the night was fine. We looked at houses online to make a list of what to send to our agent. Later when we went to bed I lay down next to her cuddling up to her back and put my arm around her waist like I always do. She then turned around and hit me a few more times and swore some more and then slapped my face hard. and thats when I slapped her back and told her to stop.

She now says I'm a violent person and saying things like its over, we will live together but not be together and says that I hate her and dont love her. No matter what I do to try and convince her otherwise. She hit me 7+ times before I hit her back once.

Edited June 18, 2009 by Uthar

[jom 4]

Very very strange behaviour for a Filipina. She may have some psychological problems .Be prepared for the worst and talk to her about her behaviour.

Goodluck.

[MikenKyhen 0]

Wow..I don't know man. Sounds like she may have some kind of alterior motive. Hope I'm wrong and you guys can work this mess out. Good luck. Mike

[RonMay 1]

She was chatting with her family and I was next to her. She then started started talking about lice for some reason to me, it must have been a topic with her family. She then grabbed my head saying this is what they do and hit the top of my head relly hard with her fingernails. Thats when I swore, what the F. She then hit me in the mouth. After ending the chat with her family she started saying things like F you! You want to F me? and hit me a few more times slapping my face etc. Through all this I did nothing to retaliate and told her to stop.

The rest of the night was fine. We looked at houses online to make a list of what to send to our agent. Later when we went to bed I lay down next to her cuddling up to her back and put my arm around her waist like I always do. She then turned around and hit me a few more times and swore some more and then slapped my face hard. and thats when I slapped her back and told her to stop.

She now says I'm a violent person and saying things like its over, we will live together but not be together and says that I hate her and dont love her. No matter what I do to try and convince her otherwise. She hit me 7+ times before I hit her back once.

it says in your timeline your AOS is approved already... when was its approved if you dont mind me asking. just trying to figure things out coz the way you explain the whole thing, there's no basis why she would hit you and all... not sure if she's planning all along or if she's got a problem psychologically

[Uthar 0]

In the past we have had a few yelling fights because of something I apprently did or did not do, but she won't tell me what. She sometimes would say she asked me to do something when she didn't. Even threatening to leave me durring some of these verbal jousts. She never talks to me about what is wrong saying that it is not their custom to talk about problems. Apparently ignoring them is the norm.

Yet, when she got into a messaging fight with her aunt on a myspace type site, she would not stop talking about it and asking me for help with wording her replies. All her friends talk to her about what is going on with that but when we have our own issues its "shut up, we dont talk about it" or "leave me alone don't talk to me." A day later, usually after a day at work, she is back to normal and everything is fine, thou I still have no idea what happened.

Never before have I hit her or she hit me thou she has in the past durring the verbal battles said things like "do you want to hit me now?"

To the person who told me to tell her the consequences of hitting, she apparently already knows as she commented last night that I should call the cops on her.

When I have asked her if this is how her parents raised her or it this is how they treat each other or her sister treats her husband I am told not to bring them up and not to talk about them.

We have been married for over a year now. Last year around this time was when we got into our first verbal fight. We had a rough patch for a few months off and on. We then went for 8+ months with no issues. Some of the fights have been around her time of month.. I attributed them to mood swings and they would blow over the fastest. But this one right now puzzles me the most. I havent done anything wrong other than hitting back the other day. Everything has been going fine. She passed her learners permit finally and I have been teaching her to drive. I have yelled at her a few times because she came close to hitting things. Amazingly enough not other motorists but stationary objects are what she tends to almost hit. She gets mad at me at times for that too but thats a brief thing and its over once we get to our destination.

We got married last may and her aos was approved in February of this year.

Edited June 18, 2009 by Uthar

[luckymom 0]

I am a true bloodied filipina but I am not aware that there is a custom in our country that problems should not be discussed or talked about. I'm so puzzled by her attitude to be honest with you. Something is not right in her attitude. You should stop the hurting and hitting at the earliest possible time because if she got used to it, it would be a usual scenario in your home. I wonder why these attitudes of hers didn't came out in the open for the last year that you've been together. You have to be prepared because she's kinda weird and you don't know if there will be worse incidents that will happen in the future.