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Hello Everyone,

I haven't been here in MONTHS. It is because I've been going through a LOT of pain and disappointment. I have had my husband here since October, '05. To cut to the chase, he has bailed in less than the 8 months he was here. He is under the impression that if he divorces me, he'll have to leave, but if I do it, he can stay. I know he's been advised by some of his buddies..... but I honestly have no idea.

I am so hurt by all the lies that I absolutely am of no mind to look it up right now. It took them so damned long to get him here (17 months), that they sent him a permanent resident card good for ten years, even though we were only married two years as of March of this year. I need to know consequences for myself. I need to know if he can stay? I need to know LOTS of stuff!!

I gave him all the opportunities to "fess up". My suspicions were based on his behavior and statements. However, I still gave him the benefit of the doubt. Anyone would like to keep believing that the person who keeps professing his love, really DOES love them. :( I know FOR SURE NOW, due to his confessions to my "ex" (daughter's father), made freely...... that his plan was to come and make me tired of him, so I would send him away or divorce him. However, it didn't work quite that way. He finally just told me (from Las Vegas) that he "wants to just be alone"..... I am in Missouri.

Well kids, that's the summary........ I will fill in details as needed (asked). Is there anyone who just already has some knowledge on this subject, either from experience or having read it here?? I am soooooooo sick of this heartache. I know I shouldn't feel foolish, but I do. I was completely honest. I always am..... I am most disappointed when others are not. Especially when the "others" use someone's heart/kindness in the process.

Thank you all. I am sorry I've been missing so long...... crises take MUCH attention.

Jen :cry:

TOTAL STORY FROM THE BEGINNING IN PROFILE!

06/15/06 - Now ..... he wants to be alone. What a coincidence, being as he just got here 10/05. He used me to get a visa. He's confided in two others here that his intentions were to get here and make me tired of him. He never intended to stay married, from the beginning of his PLAN. He's here with a 10 year residency (mistake on gov't part). He did well. Now let's see if I can do as well. You never know, [they] may correct the problem they made. ;D

His name is Mohamed Abdalla Abd El Samie Youssef, (aka AMIR), from Helwan (15 May City), Cairo, Egypt. He is currently residing in Henderson, NV ..... working as a cook in a large resort hotel. He is redheaded, fair, hazel eyes, 5'8", 160#. If anyone knows him or his family or anyone about to be involved with him, be warned that he is NOT a "man" of good character.

Jen

I HAVE LEFT MY STORY INTACT AND UNCHANGED IN MY PROFILE FOR THE BENEFIT OF OTHERS TO SEE HOW IT ("THE GAME") CAN END, FROM THE INNOCENT AND (LOVING) BEGINNINGS OF DECEPTION.

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MichelleandCraig Experienced

MichelleandCraig   1

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awwww Jen...just wanted to say sorry you're going through all of this. Afraid there's not much that can be done if he has his 10 year green card already, as far as that goes. Just concentrate on feeling better. Thinking of you. (F) M.

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Oh Jen,

I have no words of advice for you but just wanted to let you know I am so sorry that this has happened to you and to let you know that you are in my prayers. I hope you will find some easier way through this to a happier time and am so very very sorry for what you are going through this right now.

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So sorry to hear about what's going on. Hope things turn around for you. (F)

K-1 Timeline

11-29-05: Mailed I-129F Petition to CSC

12-06-05: NOA1

03-02-06: NOA2

03-23-06: Interview Date May 16

05-17-06: K-1 Visa Issued

05-20-06: Arrived at POE, Honolulu

07-17-06: Married

AOS Timeline

08-14-06: Mailed I-485 to Chicago

08-24-06: NOA for I-485

09-08-06: Biometrics Appointment

09-25-06: I-485 transferred to CSC

09-28-06: I-485 received at CSC

10-18-06: AOS Approved

10-21-06: Approval notice mailed

10-23-06: Received "Welcome Letter"

10-27-06: Received 2 yr Green Card

I-751 Timeline

07-21-08: Mailed I-751 to VSC

07-25-08: NOA for I-751

08-27-08: Biometrics Appointment

02-25-09: I-751 transferred to CSC

04-17-09: I-751 Approved

06-22-09: Received 10 yr Green Card

N-400 Timeline

07-20-09: Mailed N-400 to Lewisville, TX

07-23-09: NOA for N-400

08-14-09: Biometrics Appointment

09-08-09: Interview Date Oct 07

10-30-09: Oath Ceremony

11-20-09: Received Passport!!!

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Oh Jen,

I have no words of advice for you but just wanted to let you know I am so sorry that this has happened to you and to let you know that you are in my prayers. I hope you will find some easier way through this to a happier time and am so very very sorry for what you are going through this right now.

“...Isn't it splendid to think of all the things there are to find out about? It just makes me feel glad to be alive--it's such an interesting world. It wouldn't be half so interesting if we knew all about everything, would it? There'd be no scope for imagination then, would there?”

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Damn, girl that's a harsh thing to happen :(

What do YOU want to do? How do YOU want things to proceed?

Other than hire a hitman I mean - and who could blame you? (F)

Applied for K1

Met online 2001 - just aquaintances

Sept 2002 - 1st US visit - everything goes perfectly.

Dec 20th - Forms recev'd at CSC

Dec 27th - NOA1 received by snail mail!

Dec 29th - 'Touched'

March 10 2006 - NOA2!

March 23 - recv'd at NVC

March 24 - petition sent to London

April 9th - Pkt 3 rec'd!

May 17th - Pkt 3 signed for at London Embassy

May 24th - Medical

May24th - Pkt 4

June 14th - Interview 10am - APPROVED 1pm!!

June 16th - Visas received in my hot little hands 1pm :)

July 19th - flying to US!

July 27th - Married!! :-)

Aug 7th - Applied for SSN in married name

Aug 9th - SSN received

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Jen I am so sorry to hear of this. I also was going thru this long process and kept up with your case. My family will be praying for you and wishing you all the best.

Hugs, (F)

Mary

Everything I respond to is from personal knowledge, research or experience and I am in no means a lawyer or do I claim to be one. Everyone should read, research and be responsible for your own journey.

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I wish I had something helpful to offer...I'm sorry you are going through this. pm me if you ever want to chat - or vent or anything

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Hatem & Dawn

Dec 09, 2004 I130 sent to USCIS

Mar 02, 2006 Arrives in US

15 months start to finish for cr-1 from Amman with no RFEs, ARs or other bonus hang-ups

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Nov 27, 2007 Three year Annivrsary. Two more and I can apply for a Jordanian Passport, and then we're going to Cuba (Just because I can). can't wait...

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Very sorry to hear that as well. Unfortunately I do not have any good advice but I will hope for wisdom and strength for you.

12/5/05 Sent I129F Petition to Nebraska via Express Mail

12/6/05 Packaged received at 10:38 am in Nebraska

12/9/05 Check cashed (Never been so happy to have money leave my account)

12/12/05 Receive NOA1 snail mail - 30-60 day processing estimate

01/04/06 Receive NOA2 via e-mail

1/20/06 NVC letter in mail...will ship within a week.

2/1/06 Packet 3 and 4 in the mail

3/15/06 Interview - neither approved nor declined need to send in Migratory Movement Certificate AP

3/20/06 Migratory Movement Certificate for myself and fiancee sent to US Embassy in Lima

3/23/06 Visa Approved

5/19/06 I leave for Peru to pick up mi amor

5/25/06 Lucia and I arrive in Chicago

7/01/06 Legal Marriage

9/09/06 Religious Wedding

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jen ...

sorry, but i'm just another post to say that i'm really sorry to hear that. like michelle, i'm under the impression that since he has a 10yr GC there's not much that can be done at this point.

again, so sorry to hear but do not feel foolish ... this could happen to anyone. i'm sure that there are people right now going through the visa process here with a fiance that has other intentions. unfortunately, you don't know this until they are already here. it's a sad fact, but many men & women WILL patiently wait out the visa process JUST to get to america ... so there are no signs to pick up on. :(

please take care of yourself at this point. we're here for support when you need it! :thumbs:

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Gosh, that is a horribe thing to happen to somebody... And the cruelty of it all just makes me sick....

I am sorry to hear what has happened and hope that you will get to feel a bit better...

I think there's not much you can do if he has been given the 10 year GC... Maybe if you call USCIS and explain the situation? But still not sure there is something that can be done...

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Hello Everyone,

I haven't been here in MONTHS. It is because I've been going through a LOT of pain and disappointment. I have had my husband here since October, '05. To cut to the chase, he has bailed in less than the 8 months he was here. He is under the impression that if he divorces me, he'll have to leave, but if I do it, he can stay. I know he's been advised by some of his buddies..... but I honestly have no idea.

I am so hurt by all the lies that I absolutely am of no mind to look it up right now. It took them so damned long to get him here (17 months), that they sent him a permanent resident card good for ten years, even though we were only married two years as of March of this year. I need to know consequences for myself. I need to know if he can stay? I need to know LOTS of stuff!!

I gave him all the opportunities to "fess up". My suspicions were based on his behavior and statements. However, I still gave him the benefit of the doubt. Anyone would like to keep believing that the person who keeps professing his love, really DOES love them. :( I know FOR SURE NOW, due to his confessions to my "ex" (daughter's father), made freely...... that his plan was to come and make me tired of him, so I would send him away or divorce him. However, it didn't work quite that way. He finally just told me (from Las Vegas) that he "wants to just be alone"..... I am in Missouri.

Well kids, that's the summary........ I will fill in details as needed (asked). Is there anyone who just already has some knowledge on this subject, either from experience or having read it here?? I am soooooooo sick of this heartache. I know I shouldn't feel foolish, but I do. I was completely honest. I always am..... I am most disappointed when others are not. Especially when the "others" use someone's heart/kindness in the process.

Thank you all. I am sorry I've been missing so long...... crises take MUCH attention.

Jen :cry:

Sorry to hear of the trouble. If your ex-husband witnessed a confession, from your current husband, of manipulating you to gain immigration benefit, you could enclose an affidavit from him to report it to USCIS. Are you concerned about the I-864? There's no difference if the alien or the USC petitions for divorce, other than that if the USC suspects the marriage was only entered into for immigrant benefit and was induced into marriage fraudulently, then usually he/she would be the first to dissolve the marriage.

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that is so bad on his part. best wishes and hope you feel better soon. (F)

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Jen, I'm very troubled to hear this :(

Are you certain there's nothing that can be done??? Surely if he obtained the GC illegally, there should be some revocation process.

I don't have any answers for you, but I am sorry to hear of your predicament.

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