LEAVING MARITAL HOME FOR WORK AFTER GREEN CARD?

[Kindheart 0]

I just got my permanent residency card (green card) this May 1, 2008 this year. They granted me permanent residency from June 3, 2005 and will expire on April 4, 2018. So the effectivity will be on June 3, 2008.

On June 5, 2008; next month, I want to work in other State and leave marital home (Detroit) for work in California and will stay with my relatives. My husband and I we already agreed upon it and he approved me to work in other State.

My husband and I we married 2004; we have a lot of arguments I'm not happy with our relationship and so he is. He had 5 grown children, we don't have children together. I do understand that his priority are his children. "Blood is thickier than water" and whatever I do he will never appreciate it whether I cook, I clean, I serve him I know he will never appreciate it because his happiness are for his first family. I noticed my husband never really love me. He still love his ex-wife whom he had five grown children ages 30 to 35.

I'm 34 years old and my husband is 54 years old. He is twice divorced while me; he is my first boyfriend and my first husband. I got pregnant but ectopic since that I don't want to plan having a child with him because he never care about me. I was in the hospital alone don't want to watch me even with my regular check-up he dont want to help me.

I know he cannot love me because he still want his first family back. Him and his ex-wife got divorced 20 years ago. His ex-wife got the custody of his children and they lived in other State (Florida) now she came back in Detroit. So for him as if this is the first time he really misses his children and his ex-wife whom he saw only for few times. Of course, as a newly married couple; you are expecting your husband to plan for his new wife; but I never did saw him. We always pretending seeing his grown children in his ex-wife's house but I know he just want to see his ex-wife. He miss his ex-wife. He even cried and teary because he still remember when they got divorced. His ex-wife divorced him; he didn't like but the ex-wife is greedy for money and exchange him for rich man that's how my husband really hurt until now. I never felt love from him. He always shouted at me; he is confuse also. Eventhough how much care, love and act I show my husband I know he cannot love me. He just using me so that he can loans big amount of money because he filed bankruptcy before. He availed a lot of life insurances, accidental life insurances for me and I feared my life because his children had so many criminal records. My husband wants me to drive anywhere and I know they might plan for my accident so they can get rich. I sensed that my husband got jealous because his ex-wife new husband is a rich white jew man whom he got his money when his father (A doctor) died and got an inheritance. Now there's no way for my husband to get rich so he thought of having a wife from third world country and avail life insurances. I'm not foolish and damn. He said that mostly black people don't have a good life here on earth. That's why my husband wants his children to be secured before he died; he don't care for me. he cared about his grown children. He always say that this house where we live is not for me. That's why I filed for post nuptial agreement, everything will be for his grown children when he died. I don't like his house I don't like his money I know I' married to him and want to start a life; but for him his intention is not marrying me and start a new life and having a children; his intention is for companion and hoping I will have an accident outside so he can get rich.

Im from Detroit, Michigan, I want to work in California where my relatives are. For me I want to find my own future, I don't have future with my husband, I have no support from him, he always say that when he died his house will be for his children, he bought a land for his children and grandchildren. I don't have anything even money or bank savings account from my husband. I cook, I clean his house, I serve him I feel like I'm a maid with no salary.

My intention is to work far away from another State because I don't want to live here in his house where his grown children are. We live in Detroit and Im afraid to go out. For four years I've been in this house I don't go out becuase I fear my life. My husband's grown children have a criminal record. Robbery and less murder, their relatives always leave a message through the phone that his sons were hit by a gun on the head. How many times they've been in and out of the jail. Some of his relatives too are drug dealer in and out of the jail. For four years, I didn't went out of this house alone by myself I always locked the door; I cannot sleep I always look on the windows because how many times I called 911 somebody wants to get inside this house. I don't know them. I'm afraid that's why I decided to live apart from my husband and work in another State to be away from them. If I'll tell my husband for divorce I know he won't agree with it and I'm afraid he will do something harm to me. If I call Social welfare I don't want any trouble because my husband's family and relative are from here and they might know it and get angry with me. I live in a black community and my husband is black.

My question is what grounds will my husband can do against me. Can he sue me for leaving him or can the Immigration take away my green card. I have no intention of cheating with my husband. I'm thinking of my future and working?

[diadromous mermaid 36]

My question is what grounds will my husband can do against me. Can he sue me for leaving him or can the Immigration take away my green card. I have no intention of cheating with my husband. I'm thinking of my future and working?

You can leave your husband and end the relationship if you wish, as it should have no bearing on your permanent residency.

[*JG* 2]

I think if he has grounds to prove and proof that you used him for the green card, you could have some issues.

You say just got your green card on May 1st......We will need more of a timeline to make any kind of suggestions.

[pushbrk 13,076]

My question is what grounds will my husband can do against me. Can he sue me for leaving him or can the Immigration take away my green card. I have no intention of cheating with my husband. I'm thinking of my future and working?

You can leave your husband and end the relationship if you wish, as it should have no bearing on your permanent residency.

Right, no immigration worries for you at this point.

[nane1104 146]

I would say, go to California and then file for divorce when you are with your relatives.

[morocco4ever 63]

Why did you want to tell us this entire story anyway?

[nane1104 146]

Why did you want to tell us this entire story anyway?

Probably because she wanted to give backgroundinformation regarding her question!?!?

Some people just get more into details than others, what's the big deal?

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I would say, go to California and then file for divorce when you are with your relatives.

......after meeting any residency requirements there are in California, prior to filing a divorce, of course!

[nane1104 146]

I would say, go to California and then file for divorce when you are with your relatives.

......after meeting any residency requirements there are in California, prior to filing a divorce, of course!

Of course.

I always forget that California usually has some special rules and requirements...I would still go there first to have support of my family there.

[morocco4ever 63]

Why did you want to tell us this entire story anyway?

Probably because she wanted to give backgroundinformation regarding her question!?!?

Some people just get more into details than others, what's the big deal?

Background yes, but wayyyy more info than needed to give assistance. I believe there is more than one side of the story, and to go on about how she fears for her life because her husband bought life insurance? That is a pretty serious accusation, so shouldn't she go to the police, not VJ? Shouldn't that be the advice here if that is the case? I bought some insurance for my hubby as well, so should he fear for his life?

She is pretty anonomous here, so why so detailed?

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Why did you want to tell us this entire story anyway?

Probably because she wanted to give backgroundinformation regarding her question!?!?

Some people just get more into details than others, what's the big deal?

Background yes, but wayyyy more info than needed to give assistance. I believe there is more than one side of the story, and to go on about how she fears for her life because her husband bought life insurance? That is a pretty serious accusation, so shouldn't she go to the police, not VJ? Shouldn't that be the advice here if that is the case? I bought some insurance for my hubby as well, so should he fear for his life?

She is pretty anonomous here, so why so detailed?

Cut her a break! If you don't care to read the details, don't. Let's bear in mind she's a newcomer to the US, and might not know the ropes. Besides, I would tend to agree with her apprehension.

[nane1104 146]

Why did you want to tell us this entire story anyway?

Probably because she wanted to give backgroundinformation regarding her question!?!?

Some people just get more into details than others, what's the big deal?

Background yes, but wayyyy more info than needed to give assistance. I believe there is more than one side of the story, and to go on about how she fears for her life because her husband bought life insurance? That is a pretty serious accusation, so shouldn't she go to the police, not VJ? Shouldn't that be the advice here if that is the case? I bought some insurance for my hubby as well, so should he fear for his life?

She is pretty anonomous here, so why so detailed?

Maybe she just wanted to get it off her chest, maybe she felt she needed to share that information for us to understand the seriousness of her situation.

I don't know why she did and yes, if that is all true then VJ won't be able to help her with THAT issue, but who said she isn't going to take other actions against him?

I think it is understandable that you just want to get out of that house and the relationship, why are you so persistant that it was inappropriate to share this info.

If you read other topics in this forum, many share very personal and often very bad experiences. Yes, often some details aren't needed share in order to get appropriate advice regarding their immigration status, but if you are so offended by it, stay away from this forum.

Or get some sympathy skills.

[ikyang 1]

Why did you want to tell us this entire story anyway?

i think this is a free forum! so she can tell us whatever she wants to. So, you better turn off your PC and don't read her story.

[bhajishah 4]

GOod Job hangin on until you got your permanent residency..GO to California and find your GOld!!!!!

[playnice 0]

Why did you want to tell us this entire story anyway?

Probably because she wanted to give backgroundinformation regarding her question!?!?

Some people just get more into details than others, what's the big deal?

Background yes, but wayyyy more info than needed to give assistance. I believe there is more than one side of the story, and to go on about how she fears for her life because her husband bought life insurance? That is a pretty serious accusation, so shouldn't she go to the police, not VJ? Shouldn't that be the advice here if that is the case? I bought some insurance for my hubby as well, so should he fear for his life?

She is pretty anonomous here, so why so detailed?

Cut her a break! If you don't care to read the details, don't. Let's bear in mind she's a newcomer to the US, and might not know the ropes. Besides, I would tend to agree with her apprehension.