This is simply an inhuman process

[Linguere 0]

Greetings VJ Family. I don't post much, but read often. I have been silently waiting and trying to accept that my husband and I may wait a year or more to begin our life together. It makes me wonder about those of us who do things the right and legal way. I understand the need for security checks and the like, but with the prices that we pay, I would certainly expect better services. Because we are so depedent, our very lives are dependent upon approvals, we don't protest, we don't cause any waves and we silently wait. We vent in private anonymous forums to maintain our sanity. If this were for any other service and a company was run so inefficiently as to separate families for sometimes years, there would be massive protests in the street, at the embassies, all around the world. But again, we are prisoners of our love of a non-citizen who choses to do things legally and righteous, despite the costs.

I found out that I was pregnant (a miracle, i had been told that i could not conceive) just a few weeks after my husband left to return to his country. I was going through a terrible crisis at the time and could not sleep or do much of anything. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I pulled myself together and quickly moved into survival mode. I start planning and figuring out how the heck I would do this by myself until Homeland Security decided that the man that I married could enter the country legally. Unfortunately, on top of everything that I was going through, the baby passed away during the first week of March. It was an emotional trauma like no other. I requested a review for expedited processing since I still had to undergo surgery and I do not have any family in this city. I came here simply to study. They reviewed my request and requested proof. I faxed everything. They sent me an email yesterday saying that it is not an emergency. I called and inquired as to the criteria for an emergency. Did they need to see that I attempted suicide or what? I mean, really, aren't people sometimes let out of jail for funerals? My law-abiding husband cannot come here in the loss of our unborn child and aid me in recovery from surgery? Are they serious? My call was elevated to another representative who informed me that when I petitioned for my husband I stated that I can support HIM in every way, NOT just financially. So, I should not need HIM for anything. I asked the lady if she could imagine being in my position. I said my husband will not be a public charge, but I may if you allow me to suffer here alone through this horrible trauma. She said that I could send everything again and hope that a different human will read the paperwork. WOW. I spoke to my congressman's office and sent everything to his office in hopes that they may look into it. I'm considering writing an article and posting it everywhere. USCIS is a big mess and now Gonzalez has stepped down. Where does that leave such an unorganized, backed up and overloaded with rookie employees organization? I was told, though, by someone else that the only emergencies that are considered now are those of national security. That confuses me a bit because anyone who wanted to do something to the U.S. certainly could not wait this long. They'd do it illegally. This process is way too frustrating, even for criminals.

If I ever become that disconnected from the people that I serve on my job, I will quit. There is more at work in the universe than myself. I am sending out a hope and a prayer for all of those who are suffering through this inhuman, disorganized and ridiculously non-transparent process.

Peace and blessings,

A.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Dear Aisha,

I can't even pretend I know how you feel; but know that you will be in my prayers.

L.

[greeneyedgirlfl 0]

My heart goes out to you...you will be in my thoughts and I pray that your burden be lightened...

[Kathryn41 3,205]

I am so very sorry for your loss and how difficult it must be for you to go through this without your husband by your side to support you. You are right, this can indeed be an inhumane process. Keep strong and keep fighting, and hopefully something positive will happen soon.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Go thru a higher up, Senator etc, and get letters from your dr giving their opinion that u need help, its worth a try, and so very sorry , take care of yourself

[Army_Wife 2]

AishaandMusa ..... That is one of the most heart wrenching things I've read in a very long time .... this is truly horrifying.

If/when you have the strength, I would certainly consult a journalist ..... and maybe a lawyer! Someone should get sued for this personal anguish which you have suffered.

I'm sure there's a torts lawyer out the with big enough balls to take on a government agency.

The more posts that I see on this site, which are simply annonymous plights of pain, the more I'm surprised that some legal hotshot hasn't decided to to go for a mass claim. This is a disgrace, and whoever it was that refused your expedite request should be more than ashamed.

You are in my prayers, and I hope that someone will have the intuition to pull your file and approve it randomly.

[Army_Wife 2]

Try these guys ..... they sue the government, and it looks like they're not far from D.C.

It's definately worth a consultation when you're up to it.

http://www.fedclaim.com/

If I find another, I will post it ..... there's got to be someone out there who will sort this out.

X

[Nutty 2]

Dear Aisha,

I am sooo sorry to hear of your loss and also that the USCIS has not been helpful in anyway.

I certainly do feel you could (we all could) write about our experiences dealing with USCIS, NVC and Department of State (Consulate/Embassy) personnel.

We should just make a web-page devoted to voicing our stories. Not for advice (like this board). Just for stories of the bad (and the sometimes good) people we deal with.

Take Care.

Tina

[raymaga 25]

I can't imagine the loss of a child without my husband by my side. I am sorry for your loss and for your sadness.

I hope that you get your approval soon and that you can be together with your husband for the rest of your lives soon.

Best wishes to you both.

[sara..... 371]

I am so very sorry i can not even pretend to know the pain that you are feeling.......i will keep u in my prayers.........i hope that you are able to get the help that you so badly need right now from your congressman or senator.....my wish for u is happiness, peace, and good health my God bless you

sara

[Peggy 1]

[john & jean 37]

Aisha: You are in our prayers... john&jean

[Zee Bee 61]

We are praying for you

[hyd617 1]

heyy..

I am so sory for your loss.. may you be given patience and support... I know this is the time you need your husband to be by your side...

your are in our prayers.. i saw your apprval the other day and was so hapy for you... keep your faith and i pray that USCIS steps up to bring your spouse to you fast...

[MrsCat 6]

Aisha,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. If there was any greater reason to have a loved one's case expedited, I cannot think of it. I wish for you that your husband will arrive shortly, so that you can mourn together and begin to heal together.

Cat