Interview and Age Difference

[newUSC 1]

From my experience 4 years ago with HCM City Consulate (strictest one regarding K-1 cases), age difference DID NOT matter but concrete evidences of the relationship did...My wife was just turned 18.5 yrs old at the time of the interview and I was 40....She got the K-1 visa without any problem!

I advised my relatives and friends about the way I did the paperwork for my wife and they followed....All four cases (most current is only 2 months ago) got K-1 visa on the interview dates..

So age difference DID NOT matter but concrete evidences DOES!

Good luck!

[jamesandannalou 0]

i think age difference doesnt matter bcoz just like me and my fiance i am only 18 going to 19 this august,and he is 39 and going to be 40 this coming october.so i think that will be ok....but sometimes they just ask you that to make you think deeper and you can ask yourself why you want him while his older than you......so tell them the truth and everything will be ok.........

[Karen_L 1]

It probably won't matter, but just in case, try and think of a good way to respond to a question regarding the age difference. Ask yourself something like: "if many people think a large age difference DOES matter in a relationship, why doesn't it for us? What about our relationship makes our ages irrelevent?" This way, if you're asked that question, you're prepared and you can respond with something really thoughtful.

Good luck!

[Turboguy 6]

That is really not that much age difference. Sometimes they look a little closer at a couple with a bigger age difference but they can not refuse it for that reason.

I had a much bigger one last year. My (former) fiancee was 27 and I was 63. I have heard of cases where the only question they asked the fiancee in the interview was "How are you today" Mine got a pretty good grilling and she had a bit of an attitude which was normal for her anyway. We got a 221G (intent to deny) but got the visa a few weeks later with a fair amount of effort. My gal missed a couple of questions which was the reason for the 221G I would recommend you spend a little time reviewing anything they might ask. Someone advised me not to do that so she would be relaxed. If I had not followed that advice I would have been much better off.

Just for the record my gal kept her attitude and ended up going home after 89 days in the USA. I will likely be filing a new K-1 with my new gal here in a few weeks. Still a big age difference but not quite as much. This one is 37.

Good luck. Check down on the regional discussion here for Russia and you might find more info.

Turboguy,

What questions did she miss?

She never did tell me what one was other than she missed it. The one I know about is they asked her the name of my kids. She knew I had two grown kids but it was not something we spent much time talking about. Actaully she could have picked any two american sounding names and the interviewer would not have known. It is not on the information they have anywhere as far as I know. I have a feeling my current gal could not answer that and she met them two weeks ago. Now that it has come up, maybe just for the fun of it I will ask her and see if she gets it right.

[mark_ira 0]

ness and charles.

thanks, the perfect ages,

karenL, good advice.

turbo guy, lol, my fiancee knows my son's name so have that one covered.

So we continue gathering the evidence....

[vicki/bala 0]

That is really not that much age difference. Sometimes they look a little closer at a couple with a bigger age difference but they can not refuse it for that reason.

I had a much bigger one last year. My (former) fiancee was 27 and I was 63. I have heard of cases where the only question they asked the fiancee in the interview was "How are you today" Mine got a pretty good grilling and she had a bit of an attitude which was normal for her anyway. We got a 221G (intent to deny) but got the visa a few weeks later with a fair amount of effort. My gal missed a couple of questions which was the reason for the 221G I would recommend you spend a little time reviewing anything they might ask. Someone advised me not to do that so she would be relaxed. If I had not followed that advice I would have been much better off.

Just for the record my gal kept her attitude and ended up going home after 89 days in the USA. I will likely be filing a new K-1 with my new gal here in a few weeks. Still a big age difference but not quite as much. This one is 37.

Good luck. Check down on the regional discussion here for Russia and you might find more info.

Turboguy,

What questions did she miss?

She never did tell me what one was other than she missed it. The one I know about is they asked her the name of my kids. She knew I had two grown kids but it was not something we spent much time talking about. Actaully she could have picked any two american sounding names and the interviewer would not have known. It is not on the information they have anywhere as far as I know. I have a feeling my current gal could not answer that and she met them two weeks ago. Now that it has come up, maybe just for the fun of it I will ask her and see if she gets it right.

Not true!!! My fiance was grilled for nearly half a day,,,,,,and the the interviewer called me at 5 in the morning and asked me the same identical questions. There were a couple I didnt know one being what was the name of Bala's college. I told him, "I dont know and I can barely repeat your names anyway. If you ask me who his college buddies were, and what he studied , and even to tell some funny things that happened at that time, I can tell you.....But I dont know the name of the school. " That satisfied him

When dealing with Immigration the best rule of thumb is to be totally honest, if they discover one lie, they can deny you on that grounds alone.

What I cant understand is why do they assume if you dont know a family members name then your not in love??? What the heck does that have to do with love??? I was married to my ex husband for 7 years, and I dont even know his mothers name. (honestly)

Best of luck to everyone

Vicki/Bala

[selfie 0]

My fiance is 24 and I am 32(and I am a girl) they did asked me about our age difference at my interview but they have been respectful and really nice about it. They just asked what we had in comon and what impact it had on our relationship.

[ariel_2005 0]

i was 18 when i had my interview in 2004 and hubby was 43 but there was no problem and plus the lady who interviewed me wasnt more older than 26 or 27 .... it depends a lot about their moods too... good luck mark.... Iulia

[mark_ira 0]

Iulia,

Thanks, cute pics of ur baby girl too. Enjoying the nature in the great northwest?

Edited June 4, 2006 by mark_ira

[LastSurvivor 0]

As mentioned by almost everyone I don't think age is as important as evidence of a relationship. I am 40 and my wife is 20. We sailed through the interview with only two questions: How many times did I visit her last year (5) and When do you leave for America? No questions about age at all. I also heard from my lawyer that they had processed a K-1 for a couple with a 61 year age difference. She was 17 and he was 78. That's the biggest and I can't imagine it being any more. I fugure he lived about a year after the marriage. haha

LS

Edited June 4, 2006 by LastSurvivor

[Turboguy 6]

The life expectancy for a 78 year old man should be about 10 or 12 years. I would think that is give or take a few and a honeymoon night with an 18 year old could about 10 or 12 years off that.

[mark_ira 0]

TG, LS,

Not so much a matter of his age at death but the size of his smile releasing that last ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

[Qiao - 108 days 0]

I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for posting in this thread. My fiance and I are about 11 years apart (I am 34 she is 23), so I was really interested to read people's experiences. I think I will not worry about this issue anymore!

[mark_ira 0]

I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for posting in this thread. My fiance and I are about 11 years apart (I am 34 she is 23), so I was really interested to read people's experiences. I think I will not worry about this issue anymore!

qiao,

I agree, my fiancee and I feel more comfortable on the age diff now too . If only this IMBRA becomes clearer .