Personal life at the office

[sarah and hicham 3]

My boss is N-U-T-S. She drives myself and every other employee up the wall every day of our lives. She doesn't know how to talk to people nicely, and we get complaints from clients who have to deal with her on a daily basis. She is hyperactive and runs around the office cursing people if they made a mistake. She is permanently stressed out and stresses everyone else out about nothing. That's just the beginning though...

For some reason I have been her new best friend since about April of this year. When I first started working here I thought it was kind of weird that she wanted to be friends and talk about personal things that she was going through. Now I can't take it anymore. Usually after the weekend everyone in the office says hello to eachother and asks if they had a nice weekend. It's gotten to the point where I never ask her about anything because I just don't care. It's hard to have to listen to someone's stories about their grandkids one minute, and having my name cursed the next for something that I didn't even do. It is impossible and pointless to try to show her that you didn't do something she is accusing you of.

This morning was just too much. I walked past her office, said goodmorning, went into my office and turned on the computer. Within 30 seconds she was in my office telling me about her new boyfriend that she met at a bar and how he is way better than the other guys she meets in the bars. Then she proceeded to talk in a baby voice about how her grandson "misses his nana" so he came to visit this weekend and it was just the best time of her life. That's when I threw up a little in my mouth. I just smiled and said "that's nice" until she left. Not once did she ask how anyone's weekend was or think to talk to anyone else besides herself.

I honestly couldn't care less about her personal life.

Do you guys talkabout your personal life at work or do you keep that separate?

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Sounds like you have a toxic boss.

I'd look for better work.

[Jenn! 918]

I speak very little about my personal life at work. Most people here are the same.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, but you have to be able to judge whether a person is a friend that you happen to work with, in which case I think talking about your personal life is natural. Obviously this woman thinks you are her friend, or doesn't understand the concept.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Personal life conversations at my workplace are mostly whining about the wives. My wife made me go to the mall waaaaah waaaah.

[JODO 2]

I try to keep it as professional as possible when working. I think in general it is good to keep things professional and private,but sometimes real friendships are formed at work. I try to only share after work or at outside get- togethers with friends from work. It can be tough though especially when she is your boss. I'd say that if it truly bothers you that much,maybe you could talk to her about keeping things on a professional level. Then again,you could always grin and suffer through it.

Good Luck

[almaty 19]

Personal life conversations at my workplace are mostly whining about the wives. My wife made me go to the mall waaaaah waaaah.

brother arijit, i am certain you are projecting ,....and you were at the mall last week-end

[sarah and hicham 3]

I speak very little about my personal life at work. Most people here are the same.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, but you have to be able to judge whether a person is a friend that you happen to work with, in which case I think talking about your personal life is natural. Obviously this woman thinks you are her friend, or doesn't understand the concept.

I don't even know how to describe her.

I often go back and forth text messaging co workers about how crazy she is. It brings us together.

Sounds like you have a toxic boss.

I'd look for better work.

I'm trying to stick it out for another year or so while I'm taking classes. This place is always flexible with my schedule when it changes often.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Personal life conversations at my workplace are mostly whining about the wives. My wife made me go to the mall waaaaah waaaah.

brother arijit, i am certain you are projecting ,....and you were at the mall last week-end

yes

[Nessa 23]

I don't talk about my personal life and it pisses me off when people ask me private questions. It's none of their business. I'm not their friend. I don't want to be their friend. I want to do my job and be left alone.

[ya falaha! 0]

The only co-worker who knows of my personal life is my friend, J, who I've known for 25 yrs. I prefer that my co-workers don't know my personal business.

There are some here that talk about their kids and husbands constantly. It's annoying as hell. We call that group, the mommies. I have kids and a husband, too, but don't feel the need to shove it down everyone's throat.

Edited December 10, 2007 by moody

[sarah and hicham 3]

The only co-worker who knows of my personal life is my friend, J, who I've known for 25 yrs. I prefer that my co-workers don't know my personal business.

There are some here that talk about their kids and husbands constantly. It's annoying as hell. We call that group, the mommies. I have kids and a husband, too, but don't feel the need to shove it down everyone's throat.

Amen to that.

[sereia 0]

when i was younger i didn't realize it was a bad idea to get too personal at work. i quickly learned to shut my trap.

[Alex+R 0]

I guess it depends on the environment. I'm not a very guarded person, but I have my limits. My last office was really really chatty and people were always talking about what they were up to on the weekends or whatever. It was seemingly expected that you knew the name of everyone's family etc. even though you wouldn't have met those people. I once got called into the office and told to be more open and conversational with my coworkers (and I'm a generally smiley and friendly-type person, so I don't think I've ever been told before to be more sociable), even though I was just trying to learn the job at that point...

[eric&gen 0]

Personal life conversations at my workplace are mostly whining about the wives. My wife made me go to the mall waaaaah waaaah.

brother arijit, i am certain you are projecting ,....and you were at the mall last week-end

yes

I saw brother arijit at the mall too trolling around like the xmas elfs lol.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

I consider if it makes the day go my quickly so what. Personally, I only talk about my personal life if I'm asked first and if I might be interested in the asker's story should they choose to share.

I've had some jobs with a lot of down time, without a little conversation the day would miserably drag. It was actually one of those work conversations that caused me to eventually find my fiancée!