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[sassasdave 0]

Hi all,

I know this is the wrong site to be posting this kind of thing but i dont know where else to go. I originally entered the US on a K-1 visa in November 2004 after selling my house and quitting my job. I got married to my USC wife in February 2006 but not long after following a huge fallout between her and her mother(whom I was to be employed by) she told me I should return to the UK to work until she was sure she could be married to me.

I did not have AP and eventually my wife filed the I-130 in September 05. We are now only a week away from the K-3 interview and my wife has told be she does not want to be married. She has always had insecurities about being married and the responsibilities that go along with it and even had some counselling about her anxiety.

I do not want to lose her but at the moment it sounds like I have no chance. I have been living with my sister in the UK for the past 13 months working temporary jobs every now and then to keep money coming in. I do not have a lot left and now have no house. She is now talking about divorce and I would like to know what the process is in America if she does file??

Thank you

[Ladylethal 12]

I can't help you there but it looks like it really won't work out, as she had you went back to UK and now is uncertain. Why didn't she let you know before?

[Jenn! 918]

From your other post it sounds as the the main issue your wife has may have to do with signing the affidavit of support. Have you considered maybe trying to find a co-sponsor so that the burden wouldn't all be on your wife?

[sassasdave 0]

I dont know why it has taken her so long to eventually come to this decision. I can only guess she feels guilty that I gave up so much for her and she couldnt bring herself to finally end it...I'll probably never find out.

I will definitely suggest a co-sponsor, it could only be her mother so I'm not sure if that will work. I'm not going to give up easily though, but the affidavit wasnt a problem when going through K1.

Edited April 18, 2006 by sassasdave

[Jaylen Brit 0]

When you say 'wondering what the process is in America when she does file' do you mean 'files for divorce'?

Forgive me if I'm acting to type (blonde) but Im not sure what angle your question is coming from...are you worried she will take more cash from you? Or worried about something else entirely?

[sassasdave 0]

Because of the past, ie moving there last year(selling up etc.) i dont have anything, I have some savings but not a lot.

When we spoke on the phone she said she would be filing and I wont have to do anything? I dont really want to be difficult but I have to think of myself and I gave up a lot for her.

[*Robert* 2]

It will depend on the laws of the state she's filling for divorce in. For example, whether it is a community property state or not. You won't have to do anything if you want to just sign the divorce papers. You don't even have to go to the court house if the case is unprotested. If you want to get some sort of settlement, prepare to spend a lot more money, and make an appearance in the court room.

Sorry about your situation.

[sassasdave 0]

The state is Ohio and Im not sure how I could appear in a US court room when I doubt I can get past POE.

[faith 0]

If you have a summons to appear in court it will hold more water to get you past the POE.