Am I Overreacting??

[CanGal 1]

some people are kind of being disrespectful of the topic on here or am I the only one. The bikini pics and divorce jokes. I already feel kind of humilated by this and just wanted some honest conversation with some people. Does that make me bad or my feelings wrong on how the situation played out or affected me, women being in bikinis or butt naked for all i care.

[Veiled Princess 1]

Nope not overreacting at all. Looking leads to thinking about it, thinking about it leads to talking about it, talking about it leads to actually doing something. I'd flip out too if I caught my man looking at smut!

[CanGal 1]

someone told me this once: Watch your thoughts, they become your words, watch your words they become your actions, watch your actions they become your character, watch your character because it becomes your destiny.

Oh pretty close to what you said veiledprincesslayla

[gimygirl 0]

Nope not overreacting at all. Looking leads to thinking about it, thinking about it leads to talking about it, talking about it leads to actually doing something. I'd flip out too if I caught my man looking at smut!

completely not true .... that's like saying pot is the segue drug to hard drugs. it's simply not the case ..... not saying that it CAN"T happen but that is a HUGE over-generalization.

[jordanianprincess 0]

Cangal - I don't think anyone is meaning to be disrespectful to you, and if I have been, then I apologize. I think this is has turned into a discussion about if porn is ok or not.

[CanGal 1]

all i know is that i don't like it, and i know i'm not the only girl on the planet that doesn't so that says something to me. Just because our society makes it ok and we are told it's ok doesn't always make it ok. Man i just realized now i'm exhausted, really tired.

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

some people are kind of being disrespectful of the topic on here or am I the only one. The bikini pics and divorce jokes. I already feel kind of humilated by this and just wanted some honest conversation with some people. Does that make me bad or my feelings wrong on how the situation played out or affected me, women being in bikinis or butt naked for all i care.

No one knows you (I mean the internet is anonymous). This can be good or bad. Take it either way.

#1 ... communicate with your husband

[rebeccajo 14]

some people are kind of being disrespectful of the topic on here or am I the only one....

I think you're taking yourself a little too seriously here. My opinion - this is a pretty enlightened thread.

I know this is a serious matter to you, but try to see all sides if you can - and allow for some berevity too.

Edited April 19, 2006 by rebeccajo

[jordanianprincess 0]

some people are kind of being disrespectful of the topic on here or am I the only one....

I think you're taking yourself a little too seriously here. My opinion - this is a pretty enlightened thread.

I'd have to agree No poo flinging here.

[MrMrsKnight 0]

all i know is that i don't like it, and i know i'm not the only girl on the planet that doesn't so that says something to me. Just because our society makes it ok and we are told it's ok doesn't always make it ok. Man i just realized now i'm exhausted, really tired.

So if you don't like it..... talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. Getting married and sharing your life with someone means compromising..... and you'll both have to do that from time to time.

I'm sorry if earlier I helped turning this thread into a "is it or is it not okay to masturbate" thead but I just wanted to share our experience on this subject.

[CanGal 1]

ya i guess so huh. lol

[mercuryroad 0]

Is it possible that this is spyware from previous searching?

[Ladylethal 12]

None of my comments were meant to offend the OP.

[chri'stina 190]

cangal,

I haven't read every page(seems like a good thing I haven't!) but read when you first were asking.

I think if you are uncomfortable about it, then that in itself is enough that you need to talk about it and say you don't want it in your marriage. Ask him to work on it, or see if he refuses. As pax mentioned also pages and pages ago, I don't buy into the whole "men are wired to be perverts(to paraphrase)" idea. Humans also seem to be wired to be selfish, greedy, and money hungry and yet most of those qualities are not considered good to have. I'm also a christian and Sujeet is as well, and we discussed that this kind of thing would have no place in our marriage.

When a pretty girl goes by he does not look, and I don't look at men. That's how we feel and we are thrilled being this way. Neither of us are "weird" because of that in our opinions, no matter what others may think.

You have to stick to your convictions. You can't really care what others think. It matters what you feel in your heart. I'm sorry you are facing this difficult situation! I pray it all works out for the best.

all i know is that i don't like it, and i know i'm not the only girl on the planet that doesn't so that says something to me. Just because our society makes it ok and we are told it's ok doesn't always make it ok.

very true

Edited April 19, 2006 by stina&suj

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

some people are kind of being disrespectful of the topic on here or am I the only one. The bikini pics...

So you saw the bikini pic I posted. Good. Now tell me, if your husband was looking at that would you have minded so much?

No, of course not. And why not? Because the woman in that picture is not attractive.

So what exactly is the real issue here? A woman in a partial state of undress or a beautiful woman in a partial state of undress?