Mother Feels Awkward Being Friends With-Stay-At-Home Dad

[Caladan 19]

It's not that I don't like your opinion. I just don't like the combination of sweeping generalization plus 'but I just mean for me no gimmes no touchbacks!'

If you wouldn't want to work, and you wouldn't be happy with D. as a stay at home dad, that's fine! But I'm sure if I said 'all women who want to be stay at home moms are just lazy gold diggers who want to watch daytime TV and eat chocolates, I can't fathom being such a lazy ###' and then said 'oh, I just meant me'... well, I think you'd be right to think I would be overgeneralizing.

[Sister Fracas 5]

It's not that I don't like your opinion. I just don't like the combination of sweeping generalization plus 'but I just mean for me no gimmes no touchbacks!'

If you wouldn't want to work, and you wouldn't be happy with D. as a stay at home dad, that's fine! But I'm sure if I said 'all women who want to be stay at home moms are just lazy gold diggers who want to watch daytime TV and eat chocolates, I can't fathom being such a lazy ###' and then said 'oh, I just meant me'... well, I think you'd be right to think I would be overgeneralizing.

I wanna be a SAHM... do kitties count... ?

sorry, I'll get my hat and coat....

carry on...

Edited December 7, 2007 by Sister Fracas

[JVKn'CVO 11]

In theory, I support man/woman friendships, and I've enjoyed having guy friends. In reality, they all ended up making a move on me, and I had to end the friendship.

Saludos,

Caro

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Nooo. I never used the phrase "romantic feelings" nor did I say she wanted to "screw"him. Read my posts. I am agreeing that something else is going on in this lady's head or she would not be feeling "awkward."

No, I'm disagreeing with you. You were agreeing with someone who was talking about romantic feelings. People can feel awkward without wanting to screw.

[Caladan 19]

Nooo. I never used the phrase "romantic feelings" nor did I say she wanted to "screw"him. Read my posts. I am agreeing that something else is going on in this lady's head or she would not be feeling "awkward."

No, I'm disagreeing with you. You were agreeing with someone who was talking about romantic feelings. People can feel awkward without wanting to screw.

I read who you quoted. But I agree with you. Something's going on in her head; I just don't think she's necessarily feeling romantic.

[Fandango 1,439]

It's not that I don't like your opinion. I just don't like the combination of sweeping generalization plus 'but I just mean for me no gimmes no touchbacks!'

If you wouldn't want to work, and you wouldn't be happy with D. as a stay at home dad, that's fine! But I'm sure if I said 'all women who want to be stay at home moms are just lazy gold diggers who want to watch daytime TV and eat chocolates, I can't fathom being such a lazy ###' and then said 'oh, I just meant me'... well, I think you'd be right to think I would be overgeneralizing.

Again, I don't see where the confusion is as I've already admitted it was a sweeping generalization.

So what exactly are you after here?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

With respect, that's not what I asked. It's possible - indeed, seems highly likely - that you don't know any SAHDs that aren't losers. That doesn't make all SAHDs losers, of course.

I only told that story to give insight as to what's forming my opinion. I'm sure not every SAHD is a loser, and of course my initial controversial statement was indeed a sweeping generality. However, I have met no one who proves it wrong.

What's the purpose in forming any definitive opinion about SAHD's? There's nothing wrong with not making a generalized judgment about their choice, especially since couples make that choice together.

It's called an opinion, Steven....people make them everyday. It's funny that the word 'judgmental' has become so bad, but at the end of the day, we all form opinions every single day. I would hate to meet a person who had no opinion on anything, or who lived a lifetime and didn't use those experiences to form at least the most preliminary of opinions.

I'd hate to meet someone who feels they need to have an opinion about everybody and everything....two sides of the same coin when you think about it.

[Fandango 1,439]

With respect, that's not what I asked. It's possible - indeed, seems highly likely - that you don't know any SAHDs that aren't losers. That doesn't make all SAHDs losers, of course.

I only told that story to give insight as to what's forming my opinion. I'm sure not every SAHD is a loser, and of course my initial controversial statement was indeed a sweeping generality. However, I have met no one who proves it wrong.

What's the purpose in forming any definitive opinion about SAHD's? There's nothing wrong with not making a generalized judgment about their choice, especially since couples make that choice together.

It's called an opinion, Steven....people make them everyday. It's funny that the word 'judgmental' has become so bad, but at the end of the day, we all form opinions every single day. I would hate to meet a person who had no opinion on anything, or who lived a lifetime and didn't use those experiences to form at least the most preliminary of opinions.

I'd hate to meet someone who feels they need to have an opinion about everybody and everything....two sides of the same coin when you think about it.

Well that's good for you! Congrats!

[LoriLawless 0]

I don't have an opinoin.

[Ban Hammer 13,346]

I don't have an opinoin.

don't those go pretty good with steak?

[jundp 191]

I couldn't be friends with a SAHD cos I'd be all 'take your b@lls out of the wife's purse and get back to work and be the flipping breadwinner for cryin out loud!'

Are you serious?

Yep.

I'd like to think that it's poss, but as I said before, in my experience, it's been disheartening.

I couldn't be friends with a SAHD cos I'd be all 'take your b@lls out of the wife's purse and get back to work and be the flipping breadwinner for cryin out loud!'

Even if he's staying home to support her dream career?

I've met a few SAHDs & every one of them has been a loser riding on the coattails of his wife. TO ME, I couldn't respect a man that couldn't earn enough to support his family. There's no way that I would get pregnant, give birth, then go back to work and miss out on the honor of bonding with my child. I somewhat believe in traditional societal roles, obviously.

I cannot fathom putting a 'dream career' before your own child, but maybe that's just me.

Yet men do it all the time....