Mother Feels Awkward Being Friends With-Stay-At-Home Dad

[one...two...tree 2,762]

DEAR ABBY: I am a stay-at-home mother with three young children. I have become friends with another stay-at-home parent. We share many things in common, and our children are great playmates. The problem is, my friend is a man.

Even though both of us are happily married, sometimes we feel awkward spending time together. Our spouses are not thrilled about us hanging out together, but they haven't forbidden it because they trust us to be faithful.

Is it appropriate for a man and a woman to spend time together while their spouses are at work? -- AT HOME WITH ANOTHER WOMAN'S HUSBAND

[chispas 0]

If they feel awkword, then there must be something going through their minds. Otherwise, they wouldn't have any "feelings" about the relationship.

[Alex+R 0]

Uh Oh. She better rent the movie "Little Children."

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

They should fukc once and get it out of their system.

[eric&gen 0]

All four of them do a get together and have group sex lol switch partners lol.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

They should fukc once and get it out of their system.

[jundp 191]

Three of my closest friends are guys. One I grew up with, one I've known since college, and one who dated one of my girlfriends for years. I don't feel awkward with any of them. I'd say this woman maybe feels a connection to him because he's home with the kids doing things that secretly she wishes her husband would do, but can't because he works so she can be a SAHM....

Right. Just so you know, still on meds from the oral surgery so if any of this is incoherent....

[sparkofcreation 0]

If they feel awkword, then there must be something going through their minds. Otherwise, they wouldn't have any "feelings" about the relationship.

I don't think that's true at all. Society has been jumping up and down and screaming at us all our lives that men and women can never be just friends, you should never be alone with a man because it might give him ideas, etc. So it can certainly be a little weird to find yourself alone with a member of the opposite sex if you haven't known them all your life. I mean, it's a situation most people don't often find themselves in.

[Sister Fracas 5]

They should fukc once and get it out of their system.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

They should fukc once and get it out of their system.

Seriously, though. Most likely one fukc and they'll both be over it and be able to be just friends

[Sister Fracas 5]

They should fukc once and get it out of their system.

Seriously, though. Most likely one fukc and they'll both be over it and be able to be just friends

Nah, I don't see that happening.... then there would the guilt awkwardness...

I think they feel awkward because their spouses are making them feel that way.

Edited December 7, 2007 by Sister Fracas

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

They should fukc once and get it out of their system.

Seriously, though. Most likely one fukc and they'll both be over it and be able to be just friends

Nah, I don't see that happening.... then there would the guilt awkwardness...

I think they feel awkward because their spouses are making them feel that way.

Damn cockblocking spouses

[Fandango 1,439]

This is an age old debate of me and D's...he's of the notion that men and women can't be close personal friends 1 on 1 without one of them having the hots for the other. I've always fought that notion tooth and nail because I've had loads of close male best friends.

Saying that:

1 of them grabbed me while I was in his car and tried to kiss me while I was drunk...he apold and said he just tried to 'take his shot' before I ran off into the sunset with D

The other stopped talking to me when I moved to England (he's English too, btw...AND married) He, his wife, and me & D went out to lunch and everything was great. When I got my first tick to the UK, he was all 'have a great life'

Another (my ex's best man whom I 'won' in the divorce which was strange as it was cos it's not like my ex was a b@stard or anything. In fact, this friend's mom was all 'I'm so happy you left him!') would only talk to me in England when David wasn't home. He'd call and we'd talk, but everytime D came home, I'd say 'wanna say hi?' and there'd always be an excuse that he had to go. Before I left for the UK, he gave me that song 'Drops of Jupiter' Now, we don't speak at all...

And the other (a bodybuilder w drug issues) refused to meet up with me and D when we went down to Lauderdale. I say cos he was going thru some strange drug issues, D swears it's because he just didn't wanna meet him. To this day, the jury's out, but he doesn't speak to me anymore either...

I had a male friend in the UK who D swore was up to no good. I thought he was harmless. One day, he says 'I've got the day off, wanna go shopping?' and I'm like 'sure'...then we come to learn he took a personal day at work (@ the council) to take me out shopping. D was livid. This friend also had this neat little puzzle ring that I'd always play with, and when I was leaving, he tried to give it to me. I didn't take it. Then he didn't come to my goodbye party that D threw me. It was in our club, and the guy was in the bar end...party was in the singing end. The guy refused to walk into my party to even say goodbye to me. Then later apold thru text and asked me to lunch, but by that time, I was too hurt to bother..

It's sad for me. I really valued each of their friendships, but now they're all gone. I don't see 'male/female'...if we're friends, that's all that matters....and it seems like everytime I have faith in a friendship, and stick my neck out by saying 'we're friends and that's that', each has done something to make me look so wrong....I consider it such a huge betrayal.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

It's sad for me. I really valued each of their friendships, but now they're all gone. I don't see 'male/female'...if we're friends, that's all that matters....and it seems like everytime I have faith in a friendship, and stick my neck out by saying 'we're friends and that's that', each has done something to make me look so wrong....I consider it such a huge betrayal.

men like their poontang. don't fight darwin.

[Fandango 1,439]

It's sad for me. I really valued each of their friendships, but now they're all gone. I don't see 'male/female'...if we're friends, that's all that matters....and it seems like everytime I have faith in a friendship, and stick my neck out by saying 'we're friends and that's that', each has done something to make me look so wrong....I consider it such a huge betrayal.

men like their poontang. don't fight darwin.

But are we really regressed to Kindergarten where its so gender based. 'Eww he's a boy!'