what could be the best answer for this question in the interview?

[pechez 0]

I had a 4 year old daughter from my past boyfriend. Her name was in the application although my hubby and I haven't talk of petitioning her, maybe when I get adjusted with the place and get a stable job, that's when the time, But for now, Its only me. My hubby knew everything about her, my past etc. My question is, what could be the best answer if the consul ask why my daughter is not coming with me. Plus my daughter and hubby don't have pictures together.

Would it be a problem? or a lot of people do that?

Coz I'm thnking its really hard to moving from one country to another> I need to adjust first with the country and with my hubby. We want to enjoy each other's company, and I want to work.

[cjthel 0]

If you have adjusted to your new life with your husband after K1, do you think he will petition for your daughter? or shall I ask, don't you think it will be probable that he will just convince you to just send her money to support her anyway it's his say after all... just some thoughts that you might want to consider... may you decide for what's for the best to both you and your daughter...btw, how come your daughter don't have any pics with your fiance?

[pechez 0]

My daughter is a shy type of girl, she's not that close to my hubby. and btw, I'm into k3 visa. thanks cjthel, but you haven't answered my question.

Edited December 7, 2007 by pechez

[rjp44 1]

I had a 4 year old daughter from my past boyfriend. Her name was in the application although my hubby and I haven't talk of petitioning her, maybe when I get adjusted with the place and get a stable job, that's when the time, But for now, Its only me. My hubby knew everything about her, my past etc. My question is, what could be the best answer if the consul ask why my daughter is not coming with me. Plus my daughter and hubby don't have pictures together.

Would it be a problem? or a lot of people do that?

Coz I'm thnking its really hard to moving from one country to another> I need to adjust first with the country and with my hubby. We want to enjoy each other's company, and I want to work.

Maybe this thread will http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...topic=99293help you since it sounds similar:

[irene 0]

Hello , Im the same visa category as u are , I have3 kids from my 1st marriage and i am married now with a 26 yrs old american guy , which i am lucky coz from the start of our relationship i also told him i have 3 kids and i make myself clear that they are part of me and i cant left them behind , so he must decide if he still want to continue the talking and go further to the relationship , I just want to say I agree with what cjthel tell u , what if ur already adjusted and settled there how sure u are ur hubby will petitioned her ? i dont want to be rude but a single kid that age 4 yrs old is not very hard to bring on with u and start the life there with ur daughter, i do understand u want first to make sure wat life u will be have there , but also make sure that u will not be force to leave ur daughter behind in the long run , as for ur question the consul will surely ask why u will leave behind ur 4yr old since she is derivative to ur petition i think the best is that u will have to wait until ur settled there but u will make sure that within 1yr when ur visa approved u will get her. And by the way all my kids are coming same time with me on the 12th of this month.

[raquel_1208 1]

i agree with irene, she is your daughter and she is still a part of your family. 4 year olds can adjust easily to a new environment compared to when they get older. my husband was the one who demanded that i bring my 10 year old daughter from my first marriage to US with me so he can easily established the role of being a father to her as early as he can. i hope you will reconsider getting her a visa and then she can follow within one year. kids needs their parents.

[pechez 0]

yeah, for that I agree. But thank you guys for understanding. Let me clarify, I'am not married with the father of my daughter., and you definitely got it right Irene, I'm not sure what kind of life I will be facing there,plus I love my husband so much. But you haven't answered my question yet, what could be the best answer when the consul ask me why my daughter is not coming with me?

[raquel_1208 1]

i cant give you a definite answer but i can give you my opinion. if i am in your shoes, i will tell the consul the reasons you have posted here. telling something other than the truth is kinda hard to muster if you are nervous and everything.

Edited December 7, 2007 by raquel_1208

[Ken & Marife 0]

I had a 4 year old daughter from my past boyfriend. Her name was in the application although my hubby and I haven't talk of petitioning her, maybe when I get adjusted with the place and get a stable job, that's when the time, But for now, Its only me. My hubby knew everything about her, my past etc. My question is, what could be the best answer if the consul ask why my daughter is not coming with me. Plus my daughter and hubby don't have pictures together.

Would it be a problem? or a lot of people do that?

Coz I'm thnking its really hard to moving from one country to another> I need to adjust first with the country and with my hubby. We want to enjoy each other's company, and I want to work.

MY eldest is government scholar..my 2nd child is first year high school..I told the pre-screener that I dont like them to move bec it will be hard for them to adjust ..and besides its cheaper here in PI to study..I told that they will follow me when they finish college..my eldest will be first year college nxt year...just think what will be the best answer..on my case im surprised wth the questions but im quick to answer for 6 months reading evryday on VJ it helps me a lot but the best thing we did is our constant communication wth my Fiance..means evryday talking on phone and chatting so I know all whats there on my documents and its easy for me to answer.good luck

[irene 0]

yeah, for that I agree. But thank you guys for understanding. Let me clarify, I'am not married with the father of my daughter., and you definitely got it right Irene, I'm not sure what kind of life I will be facing there,plus I love my husband so much. But you haven't answered my question yet, what could be the best answer when the consul ask me why my daughter is not coming with me?

the answer is definitely , u want to adjust first and be settled there , but before the visa of ur daughter expired u will definitely getting her and thats within 1yr , coz if u will answer u want to spend time with ur husband it will look like u and husband dont want to involve that 4 yr old girl of urs , u know sometime in the interview they are tricky , so always answer fast and concrete dont give them any idea about negative thing , but again for me its good that u bring along ur daughter with u same time , coz me i have 8 , 7 and 5 yrs old , the 5 yrs old is a girl also and she is very excited to see her new dady now. And raquel is right its easier to adjust when young age rather than older age .

[NavarreMan 10]

The best answer is the truth. Does that answer your question?

[Jimmy and Angela 0]

My wife is also not bringing her son to the US and honestly, I think for the same reasons you are. I was actually quite relieved to read your post because we are now not alone in the choice. I think you are doing the right thing for you if that is your choice. My wife also wants to work when she gets here and even though she never said it to me., it must be scary to leave your world behind and come to a new country. I can appreciate that she might want to make sure it is safe before she brings her son to live there. All I can say to you is that when she decides he is coming I am going to petition for him. He is a part of our family.

As far as answering the question, tell them the truth. You want to work when you come.

[Passing.star 0]

I had a 4 year old daughter from my past boyfriend. Her name was in the application although my hubby and I haven't talk of petitioning her, maybe when I get adjusted with the place and get a stable job, that's when the time, But for now, Its only me. My hubby knew everything about her, my past etc. My question is, what could be the best answer if the consul ask why my daughter is not coming with me. Plus my daughter and hubby don't have pictures together.

Would it be a problem? or a lot of people do that?

Coz I'm thnking its really hard to moving from one country to another> I need to adjust first with the country and with my hubby. We want to enjoy each other's company, and I want to work.

hello pechez,

I have two kids too. I think all you have to tell to the consul is what really in your heart. Tell them the truth why they are not going with you. Like you, I will also go first and see what my life is in the US. I also wanted to work too. If you think its best for her/him not to go with you or follow you later on, go for it.

Goodluck!!!

[Jasman0717 9]

If it were my choice I would want to bring the child with me. Look at the opportunities that can be given to her and she would also not be away from her Mom.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

For me, the best answer to any question is simply state the truth. If you feel your daughter should come later down the road while you adjust to life with your new husband, just say so! Telling the truth is really easy. Telling stories and trying to say what someone else "wants to hear" only make you look less than honest.