All Americans marrying Arabs from Morrocco, Tunisia, Egypt, etc...

[Nutty 2]

Now don't be too hard on the original poster. I am sure her intentions are good. And let's not forget there are scammers out there.

But nothing is a 100%.

As mentioned in a previous post...I have one dear friend of mine (american woman) married to a Libyan man for over 20 years, three children. Doing fine in the US.

Another two female friends (one French, the other American) married to Iranians and living in Iran.

Also a few young girls married to Kashmiris.

Maybe the original poster comes from a culture where "traditional, old fashioned" values of marrying someone from a similiar background prevails.

I know I have met muslims where the family would never consider their sons marrying "an outsider." I have also met my fair share of smooth talkers... Trying to woo me with their looks and charms.

Maybe you should see how your beloved's family treats you? Are you welcomed and loved as "one of the family" right away? Are you encouraged to stay and live with the family?

Does your significant other introduce you to his friends and collegues as his wife or soon to be wife? Do you do a lot of socializing with your significant others friends and families?

I think these are good ways to get a feel of how things are.

Edited December 7, 2007 by Nutty

[ya falaha! 0]

^^^^^^Even these aren't fool proof.

Keep your eyes and ears open. Be cautious and think with your head, not your heart.

Edited December 7, 2007 by moody

[yassmine2878 1]

I work with a lebanese.......oh no...that's lesbian.. my bad.

Jackie

LMFAO

I can honestly say 85% of american women who are married with arabs or muslim men they are getting used and within 2 years they will be divorced becausee thats how long it takes for their husbands to obtain citzenship.

Ohhhh my husband will be delighted to hear this! The wait won't be as long as we thought.

Hells Bells, mine too!

Edited December 7, 2007 by yassmine2878

[Ban Hammer 13,538]

Me either. What is this world coming to? 85%? From where did you come up with this number?

Jackie

hey share that popcorn

[Nutty 2]

PS...It definately matters about the local culture...

I found Indians and Kashmiris, Pakistanis to be "family centric" about marriage matters. Especially if they are still living in "the old country." Heck, I met Kashmiri mothers who wouldn't even let their sons marry south indian muslim girls from Kerala. The girl had to be from Kashmir.

Iranians seemed different and more open minded. Maybe because they have zoastrians, christians, living amongst them.

Edited December 7, 2007 by Nutty

[slbois 0]

Guess the op thinks that she is in the 15% who is with a man with good intentions. Notice how Algeria wasn't included in the headline...maybe she doesn't realize that Algeria is a MENA country.

[sandinista! 1,816]

Now don't be too hard on the original poster. I am sure her intentions are good. And let's not forget there are scammers out there.

But nothing is a 100%.

As mentioned in a previous post...I have one dear friend of mine (american woman) married to a Libyan man for over 20 years, three children. Doing fine in the US.

Another two female friends (one French, the other American) married to Iranians and living in Iran.

Maybe the original poster comes from a culture where "traditional, old fashioned" values of marrying someone from a similiar background prevails.

I know I have met muslims where the family would never consider their sons marrying "an outsider."

Maybe you should see how your beloved's family treats you? Are you welcomed and loved as "one of the family" right away? Are you encouraged to stay and live with the family?

Does your significant other introduce you to his friends and collegues as his wife or soon to be wife? Do you do a lot of socializing with your significant others friends and families?

I think these are good ways to get a feel of how things are.

there have been many stimulating, thought-provoking discussions about this topic on this site. the original post in this thread isn't one of them.

[sandinista! 1,816]

^^^^^^Even these aren't fool proof.

Keep your eyes and ears open. Be cautious and think with your head, not your heart.

i liked the original poster's suggestions. as long as yr SO called you from his country, at his expense, yr in the clear. trying to chat with yr SO on a fake id and making him swear he's given you all his passwords are great tips too!

[slbois 0]

Ohhh... I just read that she is Algerian origin...

I guess I have to get rid of my husband after all... and he's so cute, I really wanted to keep him. Who am I to argue with those well calculated odds.

[caybee 21]

^^^^^^Even these aren't fool proof.

Keep your eyes and ears open. Be cautious and think with your head, not your heart.

i liked the original poster's suggestions. as long as yr SO called you from his country, at his expense, yr in the clear. trying to chat with yr SO on a fake id and making him swear he's given you all his passwords are great tips too!

Making him swear on his mom and dad's life, no less. If my husband came home and suggested something like that, the temperature in here would drop right real quick.

[Nutty 2]

I think she is Algerian American. Not of European descent.

[JODO 2]

Now don't be too hard on the original poster. I am sure her intentions are good. And let's not forget there are scammers out there.

But nothing is a 100%.

As mentioned in a previous post...I have one dear friend of mine (american woman) married to a Libyan man for over 20 years, three children. Doing fine in the US.

Another two female friends (one French, the other American) married to Iranians and living in Iran.

Maybe the original poster comes from a culture where "traditional, old fashioned" values of marrying someone from a similiar background prevails.

I know I have met muslims where the family would never consider their sons marrying "an outsider."

Maybe you should see how your beloved's family treats you? Are you welcomed and loved as "one of the family" right away? Are you encouraged to stay and live with the family?

Does your significant other introduce you to his friends and collegues as his wife or soon to be wife? Do you do a lot of socializing with your significant others friends and families?

I think these are good ways to get a feel of how things are.

there have been many stimulating, thought-provoking discussions about this topic on this site. the original post in this thread isn't one of them.

^^^^^^Even these aren't fool proof.

Keep your eyes and ears open. Be cautious and think with your head, not your heart.

i liked the original poster's suggestions. as long as yr SO called you from his country, at his expense, yr in the clear. trying to chat with yr SO on a fake id and making him swear he's given you all his passwords are great tips too!

Yep, I think there's a sage among us

[~~~water~~~ 0]

ok listen. all women who are american who are english who are canadian uk if you are white in skin color american western looking im telling u 100% these arabs are you using you for a green card. i know im gonna get alot of hate responses but this is fact and only time will show u the truth to all you american ladies out there. its commonly happened with overweight females and arab males. im telling u right now the arab will use you for the green card and take whatever sexual or whatnot experiences with u then he will marry again back home or find an arab girl in the states. THEY ALL WANT women from their own countries. if ur an american converting from christianity to islam lol i promise you it wont make him respect u or love u ITS IN THE QURAN TO CONVERT THE WOMEN AND MEN by marriage or whatever the option is. goodluck to the women who posted this. he wont get to stay in america

Funny how in this post you went from your original 100 percent down to 85.... I feel you are being racist and over simplifying things. Every case is unique and though you actually believe you are trying to give advice I find it inaccurate,offensive and rude.

[morocco4ever 63]

Thats it!! I want a divorce now!

Da*# I love you guys, you sure make me laugh1

[sarah and hicham 3]

Now don't be too hard on the original poster. I am sure her intentions are good. And let's not forget there are scammers out there.

But nothing is a 100%.

As mentioned in a previous post...I have one dear friend of mine (american woman) married to a Libyan man for over 20 years, three children. Doing fine in the US.

Another two female friends (one French, the other American) married to Iranians and living in Iran.

Also a few young girls married to Kashmiris.

Maybe the original poster comes from a culture where "traditional, old fashioned" values of marrying someone from a similiar background prevails.

I know I have met muslims where the family would never consider their sons marrying "an outsider." I have also met my fair share of smooth talkers... Trying to woo me with their looks and charms.

Maybe you should see how your beloved's family treats you? Are you welcomed and loved as "one of the family" right away? Are you encouraged to stay and live with the family?

Does your significant other introduce you to his friends and collegues as his wife or soon to be wife? Do you do a lot of socializing with your significant others friends and families?

I think these are good ways to get a feel of how things are.

You have yet to impress me with your "find out if he's using you" tests. If a man wants to come here and get a greencard, his family will love you and shower you with gifts. Those are definitely not very good ways to get a feel of how things are. Whether or not his family likes your personality isn't going to prove or disprove that a man is using a woman for a greencard.

yawn.