vacationing without your SO

[one...two...tree 2,762]

...everybody needs a little time away, even lovers need a holiday, from each other.

Thank you for enjoying my music. - Peter

That didn't escape me, I was just trying to suppress it because now it's going to be in my head all day.....aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrgh!

[Sister Fracas 5]

...everybody needs a little time away, even lovers need a holiday, from each other.

Thank you for enjoying my music. - Peter

That didn't escape me, I was just trying to suppress it because now it's going to be in my head all day.....aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrgh!

wonder how much a USCIS rep would charge to give me your telephone number....

[*JG* 2]

I do not think I would yet. Now, if it happened a few years down the road, maybe. It's just too soon since his arrival. There are so many places we still need to explore together.

I had a business trip to Washington, D.C. last year.....all expenses paid. I choose to pay his part and take him with me just for the experience.

[Sister Fracas 5]

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

I would never go on any "all-guys" trip. A testosterone filled pile of extreme boredom. "Let's go to another titty bar, hah, hah!"

There is nothing wrong with going away separately for a weekend on a craft outing if you are in to that sort of thing. But this thread is about a "trip of a lifetime". That is huge and 100% worthy of being shared with my spouse.

Some trips are better shared with other people, though, even if your SO COULD go. For example, an all-guys trip to Vegas. Or an art tour of Italy if your SO isn't into that sort of thing. You shouldn't be deprived of the trips you like to go on or have always wanted to go on just because you're married. You're not going to have 100% the same interests and there is a whole world out there waiting to be explored.

[Alex+R 0]

I would never go on any "all-guys" trip. A testosterone filled pile of extreme boredom. "Let's go to another titty bar, hah, hah!"

There is nothing wrong with going away separately for a weekend on a craft outing if you are in to that sort of thing. But this thread is about a "trip of a lifetime". That is huge and 100% worthy of being shared with my spouse.

Some trips are better shared with other people, though, even if your SO COULD go. For example, an all-guys trip to Vegas. Or an art tour of Italy if your SO isn't into that sort of thing. You shouldn't be deprived of the trips you like to go on or have always wanted to go on just because you're married. You're not going to have 100% the same interests and there is a whole world out there waiting to be explored.

If my trip of a lifetime is not something my SO is interested in, I wouldn't want to bring him because I'd just feel guilty. I can tell him about it later.

Also, not all guys just enjoy going to strip clubs. (Where are you meeting your friends??)

Some trips could be enjoyed by women too, but it's nice to be all one gender. Women do the same thing.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Awww, that was a joke. There are a lot of movies showing guys on "male only" trips to Vegas and all they do is go to strip clubs, hire hookers and promise neither will rat the other out to their spouses.

I have no interest in gender biased outings. Takes the enjoyment out of it. Two sexes make the world go around. My fiancée feels the same way. She has zero interest in going out with the girls.

If my trip of a lifetime is not something my SO is interested in, I wouldn't want to bring him because I'd just feel guilty. I can tell him about it later.

Also, not all guys just enjoy going to strip clubs. (Where are you meeting your friends??)

Some trips could be enjoyed by women too, but it's nice to be all one gender. Women do the same thing.

[Peikko 1,575]

Spouses don't have to be joined at the hip, but they can be if that makes them happy. Float your own boat, that's what I say.

[sereia 0]

I would never go on any "all-guys" trip. A testosterone filled pile of extreme boredom. "Let's go to another titty bar, hah, hah!"

There is nothing wrong with going away separately for a weekend on a craft outing if you are in to that sort of thing. But this thread is about a "trip of a lifetime". That is huge and 100% worthy of being shared with my spouse.

Some trips are better shared with other people, though, even if your SO COULD go. For example, an all-guys trip to Vegas. Or an art tour of Italy if your SO isn't into that sort of thing. You shouldn't be deprived of the trips you like to go on or have always wanted to go on just because you're married. You're not going to have 100% the same interests and there is a whole world out there waiting to be explored.

If my trip of a lifetime is not something my SO is interested in, I wouldn't want to bring him because I'd just feel guilty. I can tell him about it later.

Also, not all guys just enjoy going to strip clubs. (Where are you meeting your friends??)

Some trips could be enjoyed by women too, but it's nice to be all one gender. Women do the same thing.

agreed 100% alex! although my husband and i have many things in common, we aren't clones. there are places i'm DYING to go to that he would rather stay home and watch tv. there are trips better left for mother and daughter, brother and sister, two girlfriends, father daughter, etc. and some trips that would be terrible to go without my husband. the trip coming up is something someone offered to pay for me and is not necessarily a trip that is perfect for husband/wife.

i've already passed up a trip i've been wanting to do for years because i felt he hadn't been here long enough to be without me. i felt it was cruel and i believe i did the right thing by not going. but this time (or if i choose not to go this time but another time in the future) i would consider accepting the trip.

as bridget said, i already had this discussion with my husband long before we were married. travel is extremely important to me and i made sure he was okay with me going sometimes without him if the need be. i hope he wasn't just saying that, but we've discussed it many times and i've heard his opinions and requests (like not going to a singles club med or something. HA!)

anyway i was just curious what everyone else here would do. thanks for all the input!

[Sister Fracas 5]

the trip coming up is something someone offered to pay for me and is not necessarily a trip that is perfect for husband/wife.

soooooooooo, where ya (possibly) going?????

[sereia 0]

well the trip isn't a definite. it was something thrown out there and asked if i would even consider going. nothing has been booked or put on hold or anything. but it would be to fly to moscow, travel around russia, then take the trans siberian railroad through either siberia or mongolia, and end up in beijing.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Arrrggggh! No one is really saying a trip or getaway, as you describe, is bad separate from your spouse. We aren't talking about a "Barbie Doll" convention with your mother as you both collect them and hubby would find it boring. I would certainly support my fiancée if she wanted to go on such an event without me!

But this thread is about a "Trip of a Lifetime." Think about all that could entail. If it is that good and wonderful, I would only want to share it with my spouse.

I start thinking about the movie "What Dreams May Come" The main character was willing to give up Heaven to live in Hell because his wife was sent there. I would do the same.

agreed 100% alex! although my husband and i have many things in common, we aren't clones. there are places i'm DYING to go to that he would rather stay home and watch tv. there are trips better left for mother and daughter, brother and sister, two girlfriends, father daughter, etc. and some trips that would be terrible to go without my husband. the trip coming up is something someone offered to pay for me and is not necessarily a trip that is perfect for husband/wife.

i've already passed up a trip i've been wanting to do for years because i felt he hadn't been here long enough to be without me. i felt it was cruel and i believe i did the right thing by not going. but this time (or if i choose not to go this time but another time in the future) i would consider accepting the trip.

as bridget said, i already had this discussion with my husband long before we were married. travel is extremely important to me and i made sure he was okay with me going sometimes without him if the need be. i hope he wasn't just saying that, but we've discussed it many times and i've heard his opinions and requests (like not going to a singles club med or something. HA!)

anyway i was just curious what everyone else here would do. thanks for all the input!

[sereia 0]

barbie doll convention HAHA!!! my husband can definitely go without me to that one

[Sister Fracas 5]

well the trip isn't a definite. it was something thrown out there and asked if i would even consider going. nothing has been booked or put on hold or anything. but it would be to fly to moscow, travel around russia, then take the trans siberian railroad through either siberia or mongolia, and end up in beijing.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That sounds AMAZING... it's something hubster and I have actually talked about doing (erm, together though... heheheh).

[Nutty 2]

If you (the USC) had the chance to go on an all expenses paid trip of a lifetime and could only go now, and your SO either:

1. couldn't go because they don't have their greencard/AP yet.

or

2. couldn't leave because of work or other obligations.

would you go anyway? even if that meant they were alone for a few weeks (only having a friend or two they could be with while you were gone)? This is really a question of what you would do assuming they didn't mind if you went. I'm sure there are many couples here who's SO went back to visit their home country without their USC spouse after receiving their GC. But my question is really about USC's who had an opportunity to go somewhere.

hmmmmmmm...

Well, that I am a gypsy and my husband knows I am a gypsy. Really, a gypsy. We have discussed this issue before marriage even and he realizes I need to be free to journey and explore. He would love to come with I am sure...but if the trip was only for one, he would not deny me the opportunity to go.

So, I would go...