vacationing without your SO

[MissStacey 1]

If it is a trip of a lifetime and you didn't go because of your husband then I think you might end up resenting him and always wondering "what if?". Personally? If it was either myself or my husband in that situation I think both of us would say "go and enjoy yourself!"

Opportunities like this don't happen very often for the average person, so you should make the most of them when they do. Just bring back hubby a really nice pressie...or two.

Exactly- just bring them back a nice shooter glass or a T-Shirt that says "My wife/hubby went to -------- and all I got was this lousy T-Shirt."

[Sister Fracas 5]

If Bren had the chance to make a trip that would make him happy, by all means he should go! with or without me -- we believe that one of the keys to a happy life together is preserving an individual life -- we are partners who encourage each other to do what we want: this includes trips

now.... he'd better show up upon return with a little somethin' somethin' for this mamma, or else

ABSOLUTELY!!!!! I'll never understand why folks think it's necessary to give up all of the things they did before they were married so they can do every single thing with their spouse. Not seeing it so much in this thread, but I've seen it before on VJ often enough. *shrug*

and giftie... DANG STRAIGHT I'd better get a giftie when he returns from his vacations home (hehehe), so how could I NOT do the same if I were to go away without him.

[Jasman0717 9]

Only if I could take a travel companion with me.

The real doll......Howard Stern had one once

[MrsAmera 41]

Oh this one makes me kind of upset. My husband went to Morocco alone (home) for 3 weeks when our son was like 2 months old. I recently had the chance to go to Israel/Palestine for work for 10 days and had previously had a chance to go to Egypt for 2 weeks (again for work). However I couldn't go because he freaked out. I just don't think it's fair!!! But I guess kids throw a new angle on this.

[Jenn! 918]

ABSOLUTELY!!!!! I'll never understand why folks think it's necessary to give up all of the things they did before they were married so they can do every single thing with their spouse. Not seeing it so much in this thread, but I've seen it before on VJ often enough. *shrug*

I think some of that is just side effects of the LDR talking. You know, "When my SO gets here you'll never see me on VJ anymore because I'm going to spend EVERY MINUTE for the rest of my life with them, I'm gonna hug 'em and squeeze 'em and never let 'em go!!!!!" Life does become normal again, and....everybody needs a little time away, even lovers need a holiday, from each other.

[Alex+R 0]

ABSOLUTELY!!!!! I'll never understand why folks think it's necessary to give up all of the things they did before they were married so they can do every single thing with their spouse. Not seeing it so much in this thread, but I've seen it before on VJ often enough. *shrug*

I think some of that is just side effects of the LDR talking. You know, "When my SO gets here you'll never see me on VJ anymore because I'm going to spend EVERY MINUTE for the rest of my life with them, I'm gonna hug 'em and squeeze 'em and never let 'em go!!!!!" Life does become normal again, and....everybody needs a little time away, even lovers need a holiday, from each other.

Hehe, that's a good way to get my eyes rolling. Although I have to say the prospect of spending three months apart next summer doesn't look that enticing.

[doodlebugg 10]

I personally wouldn't do it but then again you are young and if I remember correctly you said that this was agreed upon before you got married, i.e. that you would want to do some traveling alone. If he is ok with it and you're sure of that (i.e. he's not just saying that 'cause he doesn't want to make waves) then by all means take the opportunity. Once you have kids you won't get this chance again so why not do it while you're young and don't have that many responsibilities!

[Cassie 8]

If Jerry pulled that in the first couple of months after moving here, I probably wouldn't have been very sympathetic to the situation, honestly. With that being said, if this is something you have discussed and have come to an agreement, then go for it.

[Sister Fracas 5]

ABSOLUTELY!!!!! I'll never understand why folks think it's necessary to give up all of the things they did before they were married so they can do every single thing with their spouse. Not seeing it so much in this thread, but I've seen it before on VJ often enough. *shrug*

I think some of that is just side effects of the LDR talking. You know, "When my SO gets here you'll never see me on VJ anymore because I'm going to spend EVERY MINUTE for the rest of my life with them, I'm gonna hug 'em and squeeze 'em and never let 'em go!!!!!" Life does become normal again, and....everybody needs a little time away, even lovers need a holiday, from each other.

hehehehehe....yeah, I get what you are saying, but also, reality DOES set in LOL

Hehe, that's a good way to get my eyes rolling. Although I have to say the prospect of spending three months apart next summer doesn't look that enticing.

I know how you feel, it was 10 weeks for me this past summer when hubster went home during his summer break. It was weird cuz it felt like before he was here....

[Nessa 23]

After spending all that time apart and finally being together I wouldn't choose to travel alone, but a lifetime opportunity like that oh well, I'd go. And if my hubby had the same opportunity I'd want him to go, I'd hate being left alone, but I'd want him to enjoy life, he deserves it.

[chri'stina 190]

If Jerry pulled that in the first couple of months after moving here, I probably wouldn't have been very sympathetic to the situation, honestly. With that being said, if this is something you have discussed and have come to an agreement, then go for it.

If it's something that was already discussed ahead of time, it seems it would be fine.

Sujeet has gone back to India twice since moving here, alone, for 2 weeks or so at a time. But that's not considered a "vacation", it's so he can see his family and it's expensive for both of us to go. If he was going on a cool vacation seeing places neither of us have ever seen, I'd be totally bummed if I couldn't go. If I had the chance to go on a trip like that, but he couldn't, it would not be that fun for me. I guess I'd still go if it was paid for, not if I had to pay for it, and my sister or mom could go with me. But not having him there would take a lot of the fun away for me. My dream trip right now is Europe, and it'd be so hard to go knowing he couldn't, since I just imagine going with him and seeing everything with him.

I have gone away for a couple days since he's arrived, to go to an out of state baby shower and he couldn't take off work, so it's not like we can never spend a day apart. I just wouldn't ever purposely plan a vacation without him, he's my best friend and I want to share the memories with him and not someone else.

[Ban Hammer 13,644]

After spending all that time apart and finally being together I wouldn't choose to travel alone, but a lifetime opportunity like that oh well, I'd go. And if my hubby had the same opportunity I'd want him to go, I'd hate being left alone, but I'd want him to enjoy life, he deserves it.

i travel enough with my job so i'd rather be at home with you.

unless, of course the lifetime opportunity trip was being the tanning oil applier to the swedish bikini team

[Nessa 23]

After spending all that time apart and finally being together I wouldn't choose to travel alone, but a lifetime opportunity like that oh well, I'd go. And if my hubby had the same opportunity I'd want him to go, I'd hate being left alone, but I'd want him to enjoy life, he deserves it.

i travel enough with my job so i'd rather be at home with you.

unless, of course the lifetime opportunity trip was being the tanning oil applier to the swedish bikini team

well i wouldn't blame you if you wanted that

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

If I need to take a separate holiday from my SO, I'm with the wrong woman. For me, a holiday is a time to get away from the stress of everyday living: work, traffic, the same co-workers, etc. It is is time to spend MORE time with my family not more time without them.

I agree - there is nothing wrong with taking separate vacations.

[Carlawarla 1]

If this happened to us, and one or the other couldn't go, I know that both of us would encourage the other to go and enjoy! When opportunities arise like this, I can't help but feel that if I couldn't go, I'd love for Gene to have the opportunity. Same goes either way.

I thought this question interesting. I imagined it was perhaps a prize from a contest! Why wouldn't I want my partner to enjoy time away at something I couldn't attend?

Carla