How long the adjusting period was?

[ED*Riza 0]

I would like to share here my new life for six months now. With my husband I am adjusting very well. We have not argued or anything . My only adjustment is the getting around and being stuck at home most of the time while he is working. I am not confident to drive yet and so I enrolled in a Driver's Ed for a week and will have my behind the wheels this coming Monday through Wednesday. Since we live from the school and my husband has to work the next day we stayed in a motel nearby . My husband asked me to take a taxi to go to school but I tried not to by simply walking across a two way lane with all those cars running so fast.. It was really scary so the next day I finally took a taxi I was having fun in school with all 15-17 yrs old kids and I was the only filipina there and old as well .. Anyway, I just wish that I have learned to drive earlier it would have been different. I am also looking for a job and was considering teaching but being with those kids for 5 days ... i don't know if I will..

One thing I am looking forward for now is my driving behind the wheels and our Florida vacation next week.

God bless to us all..

RIZa

[crys22 0]

Can't believe i just read through all 9 pages of posts! all of this stuff is so interesting.. and i will definately keep a lot of this in mind when we move.. i am the usc.. my husband from the uk.. and we're moving back to the US.. he isn't worried at all about the differencesin culture and strongly believes he should have been born an american after spending 3 weeks or so on 5 or so different occasions.. lol.. so we dont think that part will be hard for him.. but i still worry.. I know i am not 100% happy over here...he knows it.. so its almost as if this is our last place to try! lol.. i hope it all goes well.. and that he is going to adjust to it as well as he thinks he is.. everything is so rush rush hurry hurry over here.. back at home where we will be going is more laid back.. go at your own pace.. obviously not if you're at work.. but like.. sometimes you have the whole grocery store to yourself kind of thing.. lol.. where as here you're lucky if you find a parking spot! we're just waiting on an interview date! can't wait.. (i've rambled but i think thats okay! lol)

Crystal

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Hi Crystal Where abouts do you live there? London or countryside? I never thought of UK being a rush rush hurry hurry country. Except the capital perhaps. But capital cities are capital cities...they are usually rush rush hurry hurry Good luck with your interview Then let us know how your husband is doing in USA after you move

[~krakatoa~ 27]

I've been here for a year now and I can honestly say that I am still adjusting to a lot of things.

I have had very good and bad experiences but one thing that really gets me is having to work for mean, verbally abusive superiors!! To think that they have their master's degree and PhD's...

I think I'd just vented.. Thanks

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Better stay away from those people...it´s never fun spending days around those (F)

[*JG* 2]

How long is the adjustment process.....Well, let's see, today is DAY #700...........

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

How long is the adjustment process.....Well, let's see, today is DAY #700...........

I think your husband´s day is somewhere around number 682 since his POE was in June But maybe I´m just counting it wrong

[~krakatoa~ 27]

I've been here for a year now and I can honestly say that I am still adjusting to a lot of things.

I have had very good and bad experiences but one thing that really gets me is having to work for mean, verbally abusive superiors!! To think that they have their master's degree and PhD's...

I think I'd just vented.. Thanks

It's been a year and a month now. Not too long ago I posted the above. Well, things seem to change drastically since then.

Those abusive co-workers, most especially the big boss, start to treat me with great respect. So much respect that he is mentoring me closely but this time, with kind words and praises. He even shares his lunch with me which I am not comfortable about.

This is totally a shock. A person could not change overnight, could they?

Anyway, with all other things, I can say I am finally out of my shell enjoying my american life. If that's how you'd call it.

I think I finally found myself comfortable living in the US, for the first time. It feels like my eyes are re-opened and I start to appreciate what life has to offer at the moment. I complain less and less everyday. I can now easily accept that it's okay to make mistakes once in a while. After all, I have a good excuse-I'm new to the country. I can now confidently do things or transact without my husband's help. I'm more happy with the growing confidence in my decision-making. People seem to respond better to me and I am starting to make really good friends. I don't struggle too much in conversations. Even my thinking process changed.

Adjusting is an everday struggle and I'm not sure what tomorrow will bring but the difference now is that I am more open to the changes, and more understanding why things have to happen in the first place.

Edited May 17, 2008 by krakatoa

[Dr. Obvious 49]

he isn't worried at all about the differencesin culture and strongly believes he should have been born an american after spending 3 weeks or so on 5 or so different occasions.. lol..

Crystal

I don´t have to be the one to tell you that vacations are not the same as actually living somewhere. Hopefully, it goes well anyway.

It seems we are at the end of US bureaucracy road for a bit. My husband takes his drive test the day after Memorial Day. He has been trying to get a license since November (thanks, CVP), so it is a big event. Of course, where one ends, another begins. My husband´s passport is up for renewal and because of changes in the law, he actually has to be present at the German embassy to do this for biometrics. No more mail-in, tsk. Closest is in Chicago, so this passport is going to cost a lot more than the 80 or whatever euros quoted on the website. As soon as that is done some time next month, I guess that is it from either government until early 2010.

My husband recently was offered a paid position at the place he has been volunteering at for the past 6 months, recycling and rebuilding computers and high end electronics for donation, sale, or scrap. That is supposed to start next week. I think the next thing he wants to do is get an N+, Server+, and MCP certification in addition to the A+ he got back in February. It turns out that CompTIA decided not to get rid of N+. Got me.

Besides the fact that our cars are garbage and public transport is a joke here, it is going alright for now.

Those abusive co-workers, most especially the big boss, start to treat me with great respect. So much respect that he is mentoring me closely but this time, with kind words and praises. He even shares his lunch with me which I am not comfortable about.

That is good to hear! I am glad things are going better for you.

[crys22 0]

he isn't worried at all about the differencesin culture and strongly believes he should have been born an american after spending 3 weeks or so on 5 or so different occasions.. lol..

Crystal

I don´t have to be the one to tell you that vacations are not the same as actually living somewhere. Hopefully, it goes well anyway.

lol.. Yes he is very aware it is going to be different! But he is convinced that he is going to like it better over there.. The only thing he is worried about is working in a different country.. But honestly.. considering i'm from a small town.. the accent will give him a head up on everyone else! lol.. and he's very intelligent so its just all him getting used to it.. i'm sure he'll be fine.. but we'll see :-)