How long the adjusting period was?

[Dr. Obvious 49]

Ask me in 3 years.

At the moment, it is going OK. Our situation is a little odd and unstable, so my husband stays at home right now with our daughter and I work full time. However, he doesn't really dig the SAHD thing and figured it would be best if he at least got some practice and references even if he didn't get a real job right this instant. He started quasi-volunteering a few hours a week at a computer recycler/resaler, disassembling and reassembling computers and servers, loading and programming them. He likes it and they like him. Hopefully, the week after next he can apply for an operator's permit and he'll be taking the A+ exam. Finally we will be all done with the last of the loose ends with him and can move in February.

There has also been an adjustment for me coming back here. I definitely don't see Indianapolis the way I used to and don't think it meets our needs, wants, or lifestyle well. I'd like to move elsewhere.

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

I suppose I will start writing all my new embarassing stories pretty soon LOL

[Marilyn. 340]

I am still adjusting living here in the US though and I have been here for 2 and a half years already...

Hehe so what troubles are you having after such a let´s say "long" time?

I don't really have any friends here yet.... and I don't have a car to get around so I am basically stuck at home...

[*JG* 2]

Ask me in 3 years.

At the moment, it is going OK. Our situation is a little odd and unstable, so my husband stays at home right now with our daughter and I work full time. However, he doesn't really dig the SAHD thing and figured it would be best if he at least got some practice and references even if he didn't get a real job right this instant. He started quasi-volunteering a few hours a week at a computer recycler/resaler, disassembling and reassembling computers and servers, loading and programming them. He likes it and they like him. Hopefully, the week after next he can apply for an operator's permit and he'll be taking the A+ exam. Finally we will be all done with the last of the loose ends with him and can move in February.

There has also been an adjustment for me coming back here. I definitely don't see Indianapolis the way I used to and don't think it meets our needs, wants, or lifestyle well. I'd like to move elsewhere.

I remember saying the same thing.....I look at St. Louis a lot differently now. Funny, cause I've been here all my life.

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

I am still adjusting living here in the US though and I have been here for 2 and a half years already...

Hehe so what troubles are you having after such a let´s say "long" time?

I don't really have any friends here yet.... and I don't have a car to get around so I am basically stuck at home...

That´s no fun...I hope you are not too sad and that you find new friends soon...you could get a bicycle to get around or something if you don´t have a car . But since you have lived here for so long already, don´t you wanna go do something out of the house? Like job or some hobby or something where you could also meet some new people? (F)

[Jeraly 4]

How are you settling in Marta?

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Very well thank you for asking I have no problems whatsoever. I guess I used last year for settling in and now this year when I came over in January nothing crazy surprised me I just feel great

[Jeraly 4]

That's so good! So you have a job yet? Did you get the EAD stamp or? What do you do all day?

[sweetpink 1]

I've been here in the US for 10 months now and I would say I have been adjusting pretty well except for some few things like I have to learn to drive and maybe reality would start to sink in once I start working. My first week was really fun cause I had to learn to do the diswasher, washing machine/dryer( it was pretty easy though) but I miss my mom's cooking. Both me and my husband were single before we met, so he was used to not keeping his things up and I'm a very organize person...but everything went smooth so far and he's adapting the way I run things in the house.

[Jeraly 4]

I've been here in the US for 10 months now and I would say I have been adjusting pretty well except for some few things like I have to learn to drive and maybe reality would start to sink in once I start working. My first week was really fun cause I had to learn to do the diswasher, washing machine/dryer( it was pretty easy though) but I miss my mom's cooking. Both me and my husband were single before we met, so he was used to not keeping his things up and I'm a very organize person...but everything went smooth so far and he's adapting the way I run things in the house.

You go girl!! I am sure I am going to have to do the same thing when I move as well - Jeremy is not the tidiest of people!! Neither am I but I am very organised and everything has its place

[StillThePrettiest 3]

I feel really awful and like I'm betraying my feminist instincts, but I really like looking after the house

I mean, I don't think it's my job, and I CERTAINLY don't like going round tidying up after someone who's a pig, but I like having systems, and keeping things clean and tidy, and making sure there's enough of everything, and it's all in the right place, and so on... I even like ironing

which is SO lucky since, according to the list, it's my duty to keep my husband all crackly with starch

[Jeraly 4]

Hahaha I was only thinking about how we were going to dish up the chores when I move over... I think we are going to have to invest in a dishwasher though - we bother prefer drying

[Marilyn. 340]

I am still adjusting living here in the US though and I have been here for 2 and a half years already...

Hehe so what troubles are you having after such a let´s say "long" time?

I don't really have any friends here yet.... and I don't have a car to get around so I am basically stuck at home...

That´s no fun...I hope you are not too sad and that you find new friends soon...you could get a bicycle to get around or something if you don´t have a car . But since you have lived here for so long already, don´t you wanna go do something out of the house? Like job or some hobby or something where you could also meet some new people? (F)

well, the plan was that I would be a stay at home mommy but that didn't work out so well...

right now I am in the middle of searching for a job... I have one possibly lined up I am just waiting to hear from them...

also we possibly have another car lined up too...

[Cassie 8]

Settling in to living with J wasn't hard at all, which surprised me because I like my alone time and I wasn't sure how having someone else around all the time would be like. But we do well together.

It took me a long time to get used to living here. I like it better now (except for the summers, which are ungodly hot) but I don't think I will ever consider this my home 100%, and that's ok.

[Candace 2]

I've enjoyed reading this thread too

I've been here just over four months now (I was on a US Military Base in Germany for a couple of years prior) and things are going well. All the better because I was lucky to find a job I love after being here only a few weeks.

I originally had a problem with the way people in the US refer to a third person as 'him' or 'her' when they are in the room. When I was first referred to as 'she' by a friend of my husband's ("did she go sign up for her driver's license yet?") I was so incredibly offended. We have this saying in the UK which I am reminded of every time I hear that going on, "who's she, the cat's mother??".. funny.

Like someone who posted earlier, I found it odd to say 'uh huh' after someone thanks me, instead of 'you're welcome' or 'my pleasure'... but I've started doing it now. I also found it odd to say excuse me to ask someone to excuse me for walking in front of them. In England I'd only use 'excuse me' to ask someone to get out of my way.

I know someone wanted to know about the embarrassments! This was more funny than embarrassing really, but I thought I would share. I have a whiteboard outside my office at work where I keep track of orders next to ship. Someone in the main office yelled through that there was a duplicate on my board, and I asked him (at the top of my voice, albeit very politely) if he would mind rubbing one out.... lol.