How long the adjusting period was?

[JoeCanuk 3]

My wife and I are still adjusting to each other after being married almost four months. I think I am adjusting well to life in the United States. I'm not always thinking of moving back to Canada now. I miss my family but I love my wife and I am starting to enjoy life here.

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

My wife and I are still adjusting to each other after being married almost four months. I think I am adjusting well to life in the United States. I'm not always thinking of moving back to Canada now. I miss my family but I love my wife and I am starting to enjoy life here.

LOL I see you hate miles, gallons, all the words without u´s etc

[Udella&Wiz 325]

Here's my 2 cents

I've only been here less then a month and honestly, you'd think moving from Canada wouldn't be a big deal, but it is sometimes. I am a very independent woman and have lived alone with my daughter for almost 16 years. I also have a lot of pride in being able to support myself and get everything taken care of.

Funny thing though...I've only really realized this in the last few weeks . I felt like such a nerd to begin with, had to ask my husband to pay for everything because I didn't even have a bank card yet. I couldn't have my own anything (not yet at least) since I don't have a SSN. I've discovered too that the Suzy homemaker thing is so NOT for me. I love going to work and doing what I do.

I've had a few days where everything has made me cry - like yesterday for example...I had just finished printing off & completing all the AOS paperwork for me and my daughter and then i promptly dumped my lunch all over it.....every damn thing was covered in food, not to mention the keyboard and wall

But anyhoo...my husband is trying every way he can to get me out (I can't drive and I moved rom a big city to a slightly more rural area...little bit of a shock), but I know he feels a little discouraged at times. We both didn't anticipate that it would hit me this hard. I found the tiniest of things bugging me last week(why can't paying with debit be normal??) but I'm trying to be more positive....I was born a tad pessimistic/cynical so that contributes i suppose.

No - I would not give this up.....but I am very surprised at how the move has affected me and I've learned some new things about myself

[StillThePrettiest 3]

One thing which drives me crazy is that I sometimes simply don't know what is "appropriate" and what is "not appropriate" in the US.

I've learned that many things which are totally and completely ok in good ol' Germany are a TOTAL no-go in the US, and what I consider as being absolutely unacceptable is absolutely all-right in America....

ooo, like what?

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

ooo, like what?

seriously i have had the same problems...it´s hard to give an example...just something you´d normally say here is considered rude in translation or something like that...you might not have the problem since it´s not that difficult to "translate" from your language LOL

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

I think the easiest example to give is when in English you say Hey which is pretty common (and I like to use it)...but if you say it in Czech and the Czech word for it is Hej...its not so nice and I don´t call at people using Hej...cuz in English it´s mostly Hello and in Czech its more like you think someone is not so clever and you can start calling them names (I am lost in translation lol) ...although some teenagers like to use hej as one of their favourite words in part of their teenage speech which would be another lost in translation lol

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Here's my 2 cents

I've only been here less then a month and honestly, you'd think moving from Canada wouldn't be a big deal, but it is sometimes. I am a very independent woman and have lived alone with my daughter for almost 16 years. I also have a lot of pride in being able to support myself and get everything taken care of.

Funny thing though...I've only really realized this in the last few weeks . I felt like such a nerd to begin with, had to ask my husband to pay for everything because I didn't even have a bank card yet. I couldn't have my own anything (not yet at least) since I don't have a SSN. I've discovered too that the Suzy homemaker thing is so NOT for me. I love going to work and doing what I do.

I've had a few days where everything has made me cry - like yesterday for example...I had just finished printing off & completing all the AOS paperwork for me and my daughter and then i promptly dumped my lunch all over it.....every damn thing was covered in food, not to mention the keyboard and wall

But anyhoo...my husband is trying every way he can to get me out (I can't drive and I moved rom a big city to a slightly more rural area...little bit of a shock), but I know he feels a little discouraged at times. We both didn't anticipate that it would hit me this hard. I found the tiniest of things bugging me last week(why can't paying with debit be normal??) but I'm trying to be more positive....I was born a tad pessimistic/cynical so that contributes i suppose.

No - I would not give this up.....but I am very surprised at how the move has affected me and I've learned some new things about myself

LOL did the microwave explode or something? Sounds like it But seriously I also don´t get all the credit card thing...I have been using a debit all my life and am pretty happy with it...lotsa things need getting used to I guess. Wish you to get everything sorted out soon so you can start working, find some friends and live a nice life with your husband

[mnieto 2]

I think the easiest example to give is when in English you say Hey which is pretty common (and I like to use it)...but if you say it in Czech and the Czech word for it is Hej...its not so nice and I don´t call at people using Hej...cuz in English it´s mostly Hello and in Czech its more like you think someone is not so clever and you can start calling them names (I am lost in translation lol) ...although some teenagers like to use hej as one of their favourite words in part of their teenage speech which would be another lost in translation lol

Here's another example:

In German language, when you "ask" somebody to do something, you "tell" him to do something,and it doesn't sound mean at all

.....but when you "tell" somebody to do something in English language is sounds rude and bossy and you get weird glances, right? You have to "ask" somebody to do something,right?

My point is that even if your English is ok enough, you keep thinking in your own language and your brain can't help but translating your language into English, and then you end up with stuff mentioned above and you get one of these glances from others....

Or:

in the beginning I found it kind of awkward when a cashier-lady at Wal-Mart or a waitress at Denny's would say "Thanks Honey" to me upon cash collection...until it popped into my head that they were just being nice and friendly!

If they did that in Germany they would get one of those:

[StillThePrettiest 3]

ah yes, I see and sympathise... I speak German, so I know that example

however, I was sort of hoping for more stories of mortification... anyone got any of those?

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

ah yes, I see and sympathise... I speak German, so I know that example

however, I was sort of hoping for more stories of mortification... anyone got any of those?

you just wanna hear how everyone else gets embarassed LOL well sofar I don´t have any of those cuz mostly we came across such things with Scott while talking so then when I met his family I already knew some manners LOL

[StillThePrettiest 3]

of COURSE I want to hear tales of embarrassment; anyone who says differently is selling something

(or something like that )

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

of COURSE I want to hear tales of embarrassment; anyone who says differently is selling something

(or something like that )

Now you got everyone shy

[Mononoke28 135]

It hasn't been as wonderful and beautiful and we both dreamed it would be. The whole entire time we kept saying that nothing mattered as long as we were together and that life would be great. Not so. Don't get me wrong I love my husband and love the fact that he's here with me, but it just isn't like in the movies. My husband has had a hard time adjusting to a new country and lifestyle and it hasn't been easy. He misses his family and friends very much, a lot less now thank God but it makes me uncomfortable since there is nothing I can do. He is having a hard time with the language barrier and still not having a job. I, on the other hand am having a hard time adjusting to living with someone else since I hadn't done it for over 8 years and also trying to understand him being so homesick.

The good thing is that the situation is 10 times better than it was that first week and even the first month. And we're happier with each other as time goes by.

Diana

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Glad it´s getting better for both of you I am sure sooner or later you will reach pure happiness and it will be worth it

[bora bora 1]

I'd say that both my husband I would agree that he is adjusting pretty well. He likes living in the U.S. and does not want to return to Brazil to live. He does miss his family and friends but not too much - he was pretty much on his own since he was young. I know that there are certain things he misses, however he prefers to be in the U.S. - knowing if you work hard you can accomplish so much.

He has adjusted to the food quite well.

His first few months were hard because he was frustrated with English (still is!), but it was worse because he's learning more now and because he had to wait for his EAD - spending a lof of time at home. He HATED being at home watching me work and not being able to.

Now he doesn't like his boss that much (we're looking for a new job) but he's grateful and works hard.

He's having a good time here and is happy. It was an adjustment for us because we were both so independent before, but we love each other very much and are putting so much effort into our marriage. It's wonderful, although at times a struggle.

The language is a barrier for my hubby too, and not feeling that he always understands the American lifesyle. But we'll get there. If it takes at least 7 years that's ok - it's an experience for us. He's been here almost 9 months (wow, time flies) so we'll be ok.