How Do You Handle Unsolicited Advice From Family?

[Saddle Bronc 124]

I actually had to put my foot down when my mother asked if I would allow her to advertise in NRI papers--I bluntly told her no, as the idea was absolutely anathema.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Does it happen often?

Have you ever had to put your foot down?

We're Indian. Of course it happens. Family, friends, friends of family, family of friends, perfect strangers (Indian) on the street who are disappointed that I drive what I drive or live where I live....

Do I put my foot down? I don't make a scene of it. It doesn't really bother me anymore, I'm numb by now.

[GeordieWife 1]

Steven, this can be very very delicate in some cases. With my family I listen intently usually. Thank them...sort through what I like and don't like, and do what I believe is right. I sometimes share with them what worked for me so they feel like they've contributed in a positive way. But I think most families do this because they have your best interest at heart...and not so much because they think you're not capable of doing the right thing.

The unfortunate thing is so often, belief systems can clash and what one person believes is right..is not what you may think is right. It doesn't mean that either is wrong, but in an in-law situation, it can be pure poison to a relationship if the couple is not in agreement (I say this from experience with ex in-laws....nothing I did would EVER please them and hubby never stood up for me. THAT is a marriage killer). So if it is the inlaws nagging at you..and your spouse just lets them, or sides with them...I'd put my foot down big time.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Does it happen often?

Have you ever had to put your foot down?

When it gets out of hand I say:

"Thank you for your concern, but when I need your advice...I will ask for it"

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Does it happen often?

Have you ever had to put your foot down?

We're Indian. Of course it happens. Family, friends, friends of family, family of friends, perfect strangers (Indian) on the street who are disappointed that I drive what I drive or live where I live....

There's just nothing quite like a tight knit community, is there?

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Does it happen often?

Have you ever had to put your foot down?

When it gets out of hand I say:

"Thank you for your concern, but when I need your advice...I will ask for it"

Not like that. Like this: "If I want your opinion, I'll give it to you."

Don't try that at home, though.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Does it happen often?

Have you ever had to put your foot down?

We're Indian. Of course it happens. Family, friends, friends of family, family of friends, perfect strangers (Indian) on the street who are disappointed that I drive what I drive or live where I live....

There's just nothing quite like a tight knit community, is there?

Oy, don't get me started.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Does it happen often?

Have you ever had to put your foot down?

We're Indian. Of course it happens. Family, friends, friends of family, family of friends, perfect strangers (Indian) on the street who are disappointed that I drive what I drive or live where I live....

There's just nothing quite like a tight knit community, is there?

Oy, don't get me started.

I see the almighty VJ Troll has a bit of a soft spot there.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

How To Handle Unsolicited Advice From Family

Out live them. That's what I did.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

How To Handle Unsolicited Advice From Family

Out live them. That's what I did.

You killed em???????

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Sometimes, it was a thought . . .

but, no.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

How To Handle Unsolicited Advice From Family

Out live them. That's what I did.

You killed em???????

Dude, some people die of old age.

G-e g ain't all that young.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

How To Handle Unsolicited Advice From Family

Out live them. That's what I did.

You killed em???????

Dude, some people die of old age.

G-e g ain't all that young.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

How To Handle Unsolicited Advice From Family

Out live them. That's what I did.

You killed em???????

Dude, some people die of old age.

G-e g ain't all that young.

Shoot! This is no easy feat. My grandma is 101.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I have this mental image of GEG as a hardazz cougar who could probably run her very own crime family.