How Do You Handle Unsolicited Advice From Family?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Does it happen often?

Have you ever had to put your foot down?

[JODO 2]

Politely and diplomatically decline the advice.

[Alex+R 0]

It doesn't matter what the advice is; it's just a nosy, unwelcome way of saying "I love you." I tell them once to stop bringing it up, and if that doesn't work, just grin and bear it.

[no name 1]

You're a big boy, with your own place & family - what's to handle?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

You're a big boy, with your own place & family - what's to handle?

What would you say to them (family member) if they did? Would you be rude to them?

[no name 1]

You're a big boy, with your own place & family - what's to handle?

What would you say to them (family member) if they did? Would you be rude to them?

I guess I need to know what kind of advice they are giving to answer that.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

You're a big boy, with your own place & family - what's to handle?

What would you say to them (family member) if they did? Would you be rude to them?

I guess I need to know what kind of advice they are giving to answer that.

In general though, what would be your typical response? Get lost? Thank them but let them know you'll ask next time you want advice? Ignore them?

[no name 1]

You're a big boy, with your own place & family - what's to handle?

What would you say to them (family member) if they did? Would you be rude to them?

I guess I need to know what kind of advice they are giving to answer that.

In general though, what would be your typical response? Get lost? Thank them but let them know you'll ask next time you want advice? Ignore them?

Like I said, if I didn't know what it was, I can't say!....Is it, 'you shouldn't eat that?' or 'you should raise your kids like this?' Is ti from your Mom or a second cousin? All these things make a difference.

Edited December 4, 2007 by devilette

[Jasman0717 9]

I ignore them and they usually give up

[raphael7546 0]

Thank Them and tell them you'll take their advice into consideration.

No point being rude or else hurt feelings may occur.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Family is 4500 and 8000 miles away, respectively.

While this often sucks, in this regard it helps.

[~krakatoa~ 27]

Does it happen often?

Have you ever had to put your foot down?

We tried ignoring them at first (not my own family but my husband's), but they got more upset, to the point of coming over to our place and nagging us and imposing their own rules. I was surprised of course, hurt definitely but I have to let them know we can handle things on our own. How? I had an open talk with them (and not in my normal tone of voice to get my point across, funny but it worked). Then I asked them what they expect of me as their son's wife and as thei daughter-in-law. They never believed in me, or totally I had felt that. I accepted the fact that they will meddle at times but I am not going to let them dictate our choices in life and make decisions for us. And about respect, I also realize that I have to earn my way into their hearts by making them feel "needed" and important.

My family, on the other hand, only gives advices when solicited. My husband couldn't be happier with that.

It is a lot of hard work.

[Marilyn. 340]

my sis-in-law likes to give advice once in awhile but I just let it in one ear and out the other...

Edited December 4, 2007 by MarilynP

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Does it happen often?

Have you ever had to put your foot down?

We tried ignoring them at first (not my own family but my husband's), but they got more upset, to the point of coming over to our place and nagging us and imposing their own rules. I was surprised of course, hurt definitely but I have to let them know we can handle things on our own. How? I had an open talk with them (and not in my normal tone of voice to get my point across, funny but it worked). Then I asked them what they expect of me as their son's wife and as thei daughter-in-law. They never believed in me, or totally I had felt that. I accepted the fact that they will meddle at times but I am not going to let them dictate our choices in life and make decisions for us. And about respect, I also realize that I have to earn my way into their hearts by making them feel "needed" and important.

My family, on the other hand, only gives advices when solicited. My husband couldn't be happier with that.

It is a lot of hard work.

You are a very understanding person...that's great....phew ...it is a lot of hard work because you can't change them but you also shouldn't have to put up with it either.

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

Thank Them and tell them you'll take their advice into consideration.

No point being rude or else hurt feelings may occur.

word!!