WHAT HAVE I DONE!

[butterflygirl 0]

Greetings All,

I just found this website (how wonderful) and wish I had found this early. I have a situation I would like to share with you all and would like any information regarding the proper direction I should take.

I petitioned my then fiancé from Mexico back in 2006 he arrived early this year. We married 2 months after he arrived into the states. It was 3 months afterwards I found out that he was involved with another women from his home country. When I found out it was really bad between us. He kept trying to convience me that he was flirting. I begged him to end what ever it was between them two. He left the house with all his things two months ago and went to California. I don’t know where other than Los Angeles. In a few emails he has sent me he told me in other for us to work on the marriage I would have to move to California. I haven’t heard anything since. I have decided to cut my lose and move on. The question is now what do I do. What can I do to stop the adjustment of status and have him picked up and deported and returned to his home country. ANY advise is gladly appreciated. Thank you

FYI:

I have tried to work on what I thought was a marriage and bring him home-he refuses. I have looked everything and there is nothing that stood out or stands out this man would have used me the way he has done. I am afraid we will try to claim the relationship was verbally abusive to remain in the states. I have a lot of documentation esp. between him and the other women.

[Shub 78]

While it's not my place to determine whether you have or have not been scammed, it does sound that way.

I would suggest you schedule an InfoPass appointment with your local USCIS office and explain all there is to explain; if you don't know his whereabouts other than that he's in LA, then that's what you should tell USCIS. If he has a cell phone, he can be located rather accurately that way (and picked up, arrested, and sent home). If you've been exchanging emails and he's using a home-based connection, he could also be located that way, but ultimately that's the problem of USCIS, not yours.

Edited December 3, 2007 by Shub

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Greetings All,

I just found this website (how wonderful) and wish I had found this early. I have a situation I would like to share with you all and would like any information regarding the proper direction I should take.

I petitioned my then fiancé from Mexico back in 2006 he arrived early this year. We married 2 months after he arrived into the states. It was 3 months afterwards I found out that he was involved with another women from his home country. When I found out it was really bad between us. He kept trying to convience me that he was flirting. I begged him to end what ever it was between them two. He left the house with all his things two months ago and went to California. I don’t know where other than Los Angeles. In a few emails he has sent me he told me in other for us to work on the marriage I would have to move to California. I haven’t heard anything since. I have decided to cut my lose and move on. The question is now what do I do. What can I do to stop the adjustment of status and have him picked up and deported and returned to his home country. ANY advise is gladly appreciated. Thank you

FYI:

I have tried to work on what I thought was a marriage and bring him home-he refuses. I have looked everything and there is nothing that stood out or stands out this man would have used me the way he has done. I am afraid we will try to claim the relationship was verbally abusive to remain in the states. I have a lot of documentation esp. between him and the other women.

If his adjustment of status application is pending, and you are headed towards divorce, simply inform USCSI that the marriage is no longer viable and request that your endorsement be withdrawn. If his AOS has not been adjudicated, he will have to overcome that hurdle alone. He would have to have documentation that indicates abuse for USCIS to determine that he qualifies for VAWA relief.

[zqt3344 21]

Sorry sounds like you were getting scammed by Mr Mexico Loverboy in order for him to get a green card. But now it is time to deport him! That is sad what happened to you.

Contact USCIS and withdraw your application for the Green Card(he will have fun trying to show up all by himself on interview with USCIS and explain why he should receive a green card without you being there or unwilling to sponsor him anymore), also contact local USCIS office and set up Infopass meeting and take everything with you to explain what has happened. I would also contact ICE(check their website for contact numbers and emails) and definitely let them know what is going on. Give ICE and USCIS his cell phone number, email address, mailing address and any other relatives or contacts he may have had or be using in LA, this guy deserves to be kicked out of USA and deported pronto and banned for life from USA. And it is people like him that make it harder on everyone else that is honest and truly in love, I feel for you, that is not right what he did to you, hang in there, no one deserves that.

Greetings All,

I just found this website (how wonderful) and wish I had found this early. I have a situation I would like to share with you all and would like any information regarding the proper direction I should take.

I petitioned my then fiancé from Mexico back in 2006 he arrived early this year. We married 2 months after he arrived into the states. It was 3 months afterwards I found out that he was involved with another women from his home country. When I found out it was really bad between us. He kept trying to convience me that he was flirting. I begged him to end what ever it was between them two. He left the house with all his things two months ago and went to California. I don’t know where other than Los Angeles. In a few emails he has sent me he told me in other for us to work on the marriage I would have to move to California. I haven’t heard anything since. I have decided to cut my lose and move on. The question is now what do I do. What can I do to stop the adjustment of status and have him picked up and deported and returned to his home country. ANY advise is gladly appreciated. Thank you

FYI:

I have tried to work on what I thought was a marriage and bring him home-he refuses. I have looked everything and there is nothing that stood out or stands out this man would have used me the way he has done. I am afraid we will try to claim the relationship was verbally abusive to remain in the states. I have a lot of documentation esp. between him and the other women.

[*JG* 2]

I'm so sorry.

I agree....if you applied for AOS, withdrawl that petition. Calling for an infopass appointment is a great idea.

If you have not applied for AOS, don't.....no matter how much nicer he will become when he needs something from you. Don't fall for that.

Verbal abuse is going to be pretty hard for him to prove. I'd almost say impossible.

I would also suggest you write down dates of anything you can remember that would prove he was unfaithful....from calls to e-mails to things he said to you. Keep an ongoing record. I'd also keep track of anytime you talk to him now that he is not living with you.....just brief recounts of the conversations work. It never hurts to have all your ducks in a row should you ever need any of that evidence in the future.

[Aussielad 37]

wow, such hate and revenge from all the other members on here.....come on now, two sides to every coin.

Best advice, call and inform them that the relationship is not on-going, and withdraw your affidavit of support.

Immigration is his problem now, getting on with your life is yours.

[*JG* 2]

wow, such hate and revenge from all the other members on here.....come on now, two sides to every coin.

Best advice, call and inform them that the relationship is not on-going, and withdraw your affidavit of support.

Immigration is his problem now, getting on with your life is yours.

I wouldn't call it hate. I would call it strong feelings. Having gone through the process, I can imagine the feelings of anyone who feels them may have been used.

Some people just express those feelings. It's a sort of support.

[Alt name 1]

I have to agree with the earlier post. Bring your story down to your local office, pull his AOS, get his name on a list, and try to gather everything you know about him. Location, friends, numbers, worksites and give it all to them. If you can cancel his AOS (he came over on a K1, right?) then he'll no longer be pending and he will have prove he has a right to stay in the country. If the world is right, he'll be picked up eventually and sent home (sent home is code for being loaded on a bus with no AC, driven to the border, and drop-kicked back across) to live out his days in a squalid hut with his true love. <sigh> how romantic (imagining that life)

Good luck to you, I am very sorry to hear your story

[JODO 2]

wow, such hate and revenge from all the other members on here.....come on now, two sides to every coin.

Best advice, call and inform them that the relationship is not on-going, and withdraw your affidavit of support.

Immigration is his problem now, getting on with your life is yours.

I wouldn't call it hate. I would call it strong feelings. Having gone through the process, I can imagine the feelings of anyone who feels them may have been used.

Some people just express those feelings. It's a sort of support.

Yep.