Help not sure what to do???

[madpg 0]

I am a conditional GC holder, married to an USC and we have been having some severe marital problems. I have tried to get him to go to counseling however he refuses. My husband has an anger problem. He has been physically abusive ( a couple of times in the past). He is verbally and mentally abusive more then anything. I am fed up. I love him but I am tired of being a door mat. My question is will I be able to remove my conditions? I know there is something regarding abused spouses or children, however I dont have enough proof because most of it is verbal and mental.

I could go back home, but my life is here now and I really dont have anything to go back to. Will he have to file divorce first or would I? I really dont want it to go that far but I cant take much more of him tearing up the house and calling me names. I heard that there is a waiver as long as you are divorced. Does anyone know how that works or if one would be accepted to remove conditions on that basis?

[sjoefl01 1]

There is a program available for abused immigrants. I don't know much about it but I am sure you will get some advice here. You don't have to tolerate abuse to stay in the US. It is very unfortunate that you have become a victim of this serious problem.

How close are you to the time of adjustment?

Would it be possible to negotiate a separation?

[dmartmar 1]

I am a conditional GC holder, married to an USC and we have been having some severe marital problems. I have tried to get him to go to counseling however he refuses. My husband has an anger problem. He has been physically abusive ( a couple of times in the past). He is verbally and mentally abusive more then anything. I am fed up. I love him but I am tired of being a door mat. My question is will I be able to remove my conditions? I know there is something regarding abused spouses or children, however I dont have enough proof because most of it is verbal and mental.

I could go back home, but my life is here now and I really dont have anything to go back to. Will he have to file divorce first or would I? I really dont want it to go that far but I cant take much more of him tearing up the house and calling me names. I heard that there is a waiver as long as you are divorced. Does anyone know how that works or if one would be accepted to remove conditions on that basis?

Was he like this before you got your CGC or did he just recently become this way afterwards?

[Mina76 0]

hi madpg

Try to call this number and I'am sure that they can advice you on what to do

Victims of domestic violence should know that help is also available to them through the National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 [TDD] for information about shelters, mental health care, legal advice and other types of assistance, including information about self-petitioning for immigration status.

This is the rest of the link http://uscis.gov/graphics/howdoi/battered.htm

Good Luck to you and take care

Mina

[Jasman0717 9]

I strongly recommend you get out of an abusive situation, it will only get worse. The government has special considerations for this type of situation and can issue you a permanant card even if you do the I-751 by yourself. Most definitely get away from the abuse!

[madpg 0]

When we first met he was wonderful. It seems that when I moved down here shortly afterwards he started to show his true colors. I want to work things out but things have to change. I dont know if they will or not. I am so lost and confused. Part of me wants out and another part doesnt have anywhere to go. I know sticking it out and dealing with the abuse is not right but I feel my choices are limited.

[~*Dorothy*~ 2]

This is a dangerous situation that you have found yourself in...You should not tolerate the abuse as from experience I know that it only get worse with time...You should contact the Abuse Hotline that mina76 suggested...it is important that you will get help and I am sure that they will be able to advise you of your legal situation as well...Stay well...I hope that you will be ok soon...Keep us posted, Dorothy