DEPRESSION

[Carolyn 1]

OP,

Come on over to the Middle East/North Africa forum if you haven't yet--there are LOTS of supportive people going through your same painful experience.

Hang in there, it may be slow, but you will get resolution,

Carolyn

[oggle1 0]

Good grief, people.

I have been going through a real rollercoaster ride myself with my baby also. I have not suffered as long as many..My heart goes out to them. I wish you strength and peace on your visa journey. Remember that as we all wait for our loved ones to arrive, please tell them that you love them. Let them know that they are loved and remember that you are loved by them.

Please communicate, and try to see their heart. Remember what made you want to be together in the begining.

Peace to you all.

Good grief, people.

I have been going through a real rollercoaster ride myself with my baby also. I have not suffered as long as many..My heart goes out to them. I wish you strength and peace on your visa journey. Remember that as we all wait for our loved ones to arrive, please tell them that you love them. Let them know that they are loved and remember that you are loved by them.

Please communicate, and try to see their heart. Remember what made you want to be together in the begining.

Peace to you all.

[oggle1 0]

Good grief, people.

Edited November 26, 2007 by al_and_lola

[deb and ali 0]

OP,

Come on over to the Middle East/North Africa forum if you haven't yet--there are LOTS of supportive people going through your same painful experience.

Hang in there, it may be slow, but you will get resolution,

Carolyn

THANKS FOR THE UNDERSTANDING. I'M NEW HERE AS WELL. WHAT DOSE OP MEAN?

[no name 1]

OP,

Come on over to the Middle East/North Africa forum if you haven't yet--there are LOTS of supportive people going through your same painful experience.

Hang in there, it may be slow, but you will get resolution,

Carolyn

THANKS FOR THE UNDERSTANDING. I'M NEW HERE AS WELL. WHAT DOSE OP MEAN?

original poster!

[*julez* 124]

Your friend "laura" has no timeline, no eligibility for a visa, and nothing filed. When "laura" gets her divorce, files her paperwork, and waits for months apart then perhaps she can maybe express believable sympathy. At this time, anything else from "laura" will seem shallow to me, and to anyone else who is going through this hellish process (with a REAL application filed and REAL separation and REAL pain from that) Report that. But dont expect me to not express empathy for someone who's situation I that I do completely understand.

Laura is a real person with real feelings and you'd do well to remember that. She has been waiting for months to begin her journey. You have no idea what the cause of her circumstances are and I find it offensive for you to judge her so harshly. Having an application filed does not make your pain of separation more real. All of us who engage in a long distance experience the pain of separation. Its not easier for those whao haven't filed. Its wrong for you to diminish her feelings. In her initial reply, her intentions were good, and in the same spirit of many longstanding members. I find it sad that you couldn't just offer empathy to the OP without lashing out at another member. You may not have empathy for Laura's situation, but you could show sympathy, which is what Laura tried to do in posting a reply to the OP. In responding to Laura, your intentions were clear - to hurt another member. That IS a violation of TOS. And I'm pretty sure that calling someone a "Kanook" in a derogatory manner is also a violation of TOS.

Edited November 26, 2007 by julezabelle

[JenAlex 0]

I was hospitalized three times on a psychiatric ward after we started the K1 process. Ninety-eight stitches in my right arm. Do I win an award for being the most depressed, despite marrying a dirty Canuck?

I will only give you sympathy if he hasn't taken you to a hockey game yet. Or if you haven't had a Molson.

[HannahP 119]

I was hospitalized three times on a psychiatric ward after we started the K1 process. Ninety-eight stitches in my right arm. Do I win an award for being the most depressed, despite marrying a dirty Canuck?

I will only give you sympathy if he hasn't taken you to a hockey game yet. Or if you haven't had a Molson.

St. Louis is the closest city with a hockey team and he's been planning a trip to a hockey game down there for months. I'm just, like, noooooo because Six Flags isn't open in the winter!

He's really gotten into football here 'tho (Chiefs and Jayhawks) and he drinks American beer now, too. Like Miller Lite piss-beer. *cry*

[JenAlex 0]

My hubby is Scottish and his favorite beer is Budweiser. Can you believe that?

I took him to a hockey game but he's more interested in futball. I guess they all can't be perfect.

[JanaknJanet 0]

Your friend "laura" has no timeline, no eligibility for a visa, and nothing filed. When "laura" gets her divorce, files her paperwork, and waits for months apart then perhaps she can maybe express believable sympathy. At this time, anything else from "laura" will seem shallow to me, and to anyone else who is going through this hellish process (with a REAL application filed and REAL separation and REAL pain from that) Report that. But dont expect me to not express empathy for someone who's situation I that I do completely understand.

Thanks alot for making me feel more like ####### than I already do..

JUST CAUSE ONE DOESN'T HAVE A APPLICATION FILED>>> IN NO DAMN WAY MEANS WE HAVE NO RELATIONSHIP....

MY GOD.. .. Janak and I have been through hell and back.. much of which I CHOOSE not to speak of here... does that make us any less justifiable in our feelings or validation of our relationship?

HOW DARE ANYONE here .. speak so unkindly to anyone... .. each of us walk in our own shoes.. carry our own crosses. or dig our own holes.. what ever you choose to say..

IS it any different .. for us.. that are NOT ABEL TO all apply.. to those who are gifted with the chance to get together...

NOT all here are young.. nor never married...

With LIFE is.. luggage... .. for some.. that case if fuller than others.. ..

it is the faith to know that .. no matter what. or how.. or when.. that will get us through ..

I have no more tears to cry.. and am so tired of being jealous of others for their celebrations..

the day will come... when all I can think of is.. looking in my babies eyes.. touching him.. holding him close.. and know.. it is for always.. that is the part that NO ONE can ever take away..

FOR now.. .. the only thing that is taken from us is a moment in time... .. our HEARTS.. cannot be touched.. ..

TO THE OP........ think of the days you were with your loved one... not the amount of time that has passed.. think of each day spent.. as not one more day gone.. but.. simply one more day closer to your life together..

hugssss..

[Welshcookie 17]

To the bossy ones - one person MAY have violated TOS (altho I see no personal attack, just facts), Good grief.

I thought it was a very personal attack actually.....rude and uncalled for. And pointing out someone's rudeness is not being "bossy" imo.

[Nearly Done 8]

Flippant shallow words from a married Kanook waiting for a K1. Wow, just what we need here. You have NO IDEA what waiting in limbo is like. Enjoy your journey, and don't apply your shallow experience to people who wait from across the world to be with the one they love.

Is there any need for that! Where does it say that Laura is called Kanook? or was that a jab at her?

I can not see shallow words either, some people may answer at a greater length, but Laura did offer sympathy.She told the OP to hang in there.

To the OP as Laura said hang in there, it will be worth it in the end as hard as it is now

I might not of waited as long as others to get here, but 18months of fighting in court added time for me. I do know how frustrating it can be, there was days when I thought we would never get there. It also always seemed harder when it was getting closer to Christmas cos ths is a time when one should be with their loved ones. My thoughts are with you.

Margy

[C and J 1]

I suffered from depression for 6 months of last year due to being separated from Josh... and that was even before we married and before we applied for my visa. Applying for a visa does not make the pain and separation more valid. It does not make the suffering of being apart more real. The only change it makes is that, rather than looking forward to your next visit, you are looking foward to your final trip.... but that final trip has a moving goalpost (just as you think you are getting closer, there's another hiccup that moves that date further away again).

It is up to each couple when they think they are ready to begin this process... for us it was 2 years after we first met (a year after our first meeting). Some would have done it sooner, some would have done it later but the time was right for us.

To have a go at Laura for not being in the process yet, when she CAN'T start the process yet is uncalled for. Do you think for one moment that she wouldn't file this very second if she could? Her journey is being delayed by however long it takes for her divorce to come through.

I am happy for those people that have shorter journey's, sad and hopeful for people who have longer journeys, and am just enduring my own journey.

To the original poster, I hope your time in additional checks will be coming to an end.

[Sinergy 3]

Your friend "laura" has no timeline, no eligibility for a visa, and nothing filed. When "laura" gets her divorce, files her paperwork, and waits for months apart then perhaps she can maybe express believable sympathy. At this time, anything else from "laura" will seem shallow to me, and to anyone else who is going through this hellish process (with a REAL application filed and REAL separation and REAL pain from that) Report that. But dont expect me to not express empathy for someone who's situation I that I do completely understand.

I really think you shouldnt be passing judgment on ANYONE. back up the bandwagon and look outside the box. get off the high horse and if you dont like when ppl are sympathetic to someone else, then maybe this is the wrong forum for you. Whether she has begun her paperwork or not, she is still seperated from her loved one, therefore she is going thru the h3ll already.

And yes, the OP also violated TOS, when she also rudely passed judement on Laura, just to agree with D&N

Edited November 26, 2007 by Ionescu

[LoriLawless 0]

Laura, you're one of the sweetest people on here IMO. Nobody had any right to attack you.

I can't file either and the comment about having no sympathy for people that haven't filed yet p*sses me off!

Did you ever stop to think how hard it is that we CAN'T file yet? How much MORE time we have to wait to be together??

Anyway, to the OP, I hope things move fast for you, and you can be with your loved one soon.

I hope that for everyone here that's going through the same thing.