DEPRESSION

[Welshcookie 17]

You both should be mindful that you are violating TOS with being so rude to Laura. Keep it up and you will be reported.

Agreed....everyone is here for the same reason, let's keep that in mind.

[jrmach1 0]

hi

My husband and I just had a week together ,last week celebrating thanksgiving and we tried to not talk about how miserable we are when we are not together but it was impossible the subject kept coming up so the last two days I couldn't stop crying for everything and anything I just couldn't picture myself at the airport leaving him again without not knowing when he is coming back .We thought by this time we would be closer to the end of this nightmare but no we haven't been farther away USCIS just threw us into a black whole with this security extension bullsh*** believe me when you think you can't be more depressed this people comes up with something new .

I hope this experience just makes me stronger otherwise is seriously going to kill me .Thanks again for making me realize I am not alone in this and there is more people as screw up as I am.

Thank and God luck .I still have hope this is going to be better someday and I will be just laughing about all this bad memories.

Edited November 26, 2007 by jrmach1

[deb and ali 0]

hi

My husband and I just had a week together ,last week celebrating thanksgiving and we tried to not talk about how miserable we are when we are not together but it was impossible the subject kept coming up so the last two days I couldn't stop crying for everything and anything I just couldn't picture myself at the airport leaving him again without not knowing when he is coming back .We thought by this time we would be closer to the end of this nightmare but no we haven't been farther away USCIS just threw us into a black whole with this security extension bullsh*** believe me when you think you can't be more depressed this people comes up with something new .

I hope this experience just makes me stronger otherwise is seriously going to kill me .Thanks again for making me realize I am not alone in this and there is more people as screw up as I am.

Thank and God luck .I still have hope this is going to be better someday and I will be just laughing about all this bad memories.

THANKS FOR YOUR WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT. YOUR WEEK WITH YOUR LOVED ONE REMINDS ME OF JUNE 07 WHICH WAS THE LAST TIME WE WERE TOGETHER. IT WAS BITTER SWEET. SWEET TO HAVE TIME TOGETHER. BITTER BECAUSE OF LEAVING HIM AGAIN. I CANT AFFORD TO VISIT FOR SOME TIME. HOW MUCH I DONT KNOW. BUT MY REAL WORRY WILL BE , WILL I BE ABLE TO LEAVE HIM ONCE AGAIN IF I DO RETURN. I'M NOT SURE OF THE ANSWER. IT HAS BEEN ONE OF THE HARDEST THING I'V DONE.OF COURSE A VISA WOULD FREEE ME FROM THAT WORRY. BUT I DONT HOLD OUT MUCH HOPE FOR THAT TO OCCUR.

[JenAlex 0]

It is incredibly hard and this time of year doesn't make it any easier. I have felt like crying non-stop every day for the last 6 weeks and I get to spend Christmas with him. That's a lot more than some are getting.

The only thing I can say is just to keep your head up and the mantra "It's one day closer to being together." has been helping.

[MelindaandTarek 0]

I understand your struggle and have felt overwhelmed with this process...and I haven't quite reached AP yet...I know that it is a difficult time and extremely stressful....I pray that your wait is close to an end.......and when you are posting that VISA IN HAND thread....all this wait shall be worth it for you and ur SO.....

[HannahP 119]

I was hospitalized three times on a psychiatric ward after we started the K1 process. Ninety-eight stitches in my right arm. Do I win an award for being the most depressed, despite marrying a dirty Canuck?

[Jamie76 0]

I was hospitalized three times on a psychiatric ward after we started the K1 process. Ninety-eight stitches in my right arm. Do I win an award for being the most depressed, despite marrying a dirty Canuck?

Stitches in your arm for what?

[deb and ali 0]

I understand your struggle and have felt overwhelmed with this process...and I haven't quite reached AP yet...I know that it is a difficult time and extremely stressful....I pray that your wait is close to an end.......and when you are posting that VISA IN HAND thread....all this wait shall be worth it for you and ur SO.....

MELINDA, JUST READING THE WORDS " VISA IN HAND." GIVES MY HEART AN UP LIFT. SOME A/P"S ARE QUICKER THEN OTHERS. HOPE YOURS IS SHORT.IF VISA IS THE END RESULTS IT WILL IN DEED BE WORTH IT.

[HannahP 119]

I was hospitalized three times on a psychiatric ward after we started the K1 process. Ninety-eight stitches in my right arm. Do I win an award for being the most depressed, despite marrying a dirty Canuck?

Stitches in your arm for what?

Intentionally cutting myself.

[Alt name 1]

Your friend "laura" has no timeline, no eligibility for a visa, and nothing filed. When "laura" gets her divorce, files her paperwork, and waits for months apart then perhaps she can maybe express believable sympathy. At this time, anything else from "laura" will seem shallow to me, and to anyone else who is going through this hellish process (with a REAL application filed and REAL separation and REAL pain from that) Report that. But dont expect me to not express empathy for someone who's situation I that I do completely understand.

You are very welcome, and we will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

Regards,

David and Nitadyah

Flippant shallow words from a married Kanook waiting for a K1. Wow, just what we need here. You have NO IDEA what waiting in limbo is like. Enjoy your journey, and don't apply your shallow experience to people who wait from across the world to be with the one they love.

To the one who posted: Yes, the frustration, waiting, and limbo take you down, some days more than others. I remember when we thought we would be done or almost done by now, when we filed the approval process only took 3-4 months, with another couple months to get through State. Now, we don't know when we will see each other again. I wish you and the ones like you the best, especially during the holidays. I know this, that the waiting and the distance and the uncertainty have somehow made us grow closer and stronger. When we get through this, I don't believe there is a more difficult experience or greater test of a marriage relationship.

Regards, and best to you

David and Nitadyah

Yep, we are all going through this...hang in there

btw, this should be in the off topic forum

DEAR DAVID THANK YOU FOR YOUR REPLY. I THOUGHT THE KANOOK WAS SHALLOW TOO. BUT I'M SO DEPRESSED I THOUGHT IT WAS MAYBE ME BEING SENSITIVE. I SEE YOU ARE IN THE SAME BOAT AS ME. THERE IS COMFORT IN MISERY WHEN YOU FELL SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.I WROTE MY POST WITHOUT READING THE TOPIC OF TODAY. THEREA ARE MANY DEPRESSED TODAY. I GUESS ITS BECAUSE THE BUSY TIMES OF THIS HOLIDAY ARE PAST NOW. AND NOW WE HAVE TIME TO THINK ABOUT HOW MUCH OUR LOVED ONES ARE MISSED. I PRAY YOUR WAIT IS SHORTER THEN MINE. BY THE WAY THE KANOOK NEVER BOTHERED TO TELL ME WHAT A OFF TOPIC IS OR HOW TO FIND THEM.THANKS AGAIN. DEBBIE

You both should be mindful that you are violating TOS with being so rude to Laura. Keep it up and you will be reported.

[MelindaandTarek 0]

I understand your struggle and have felt overwhelmed with this process...and I haven't quite reached AP yet...I know that it is a difficult time and extremely stressful....I pray that your wait is close to an end.......and when you are posting that VISA IN HAND thread....all this wait shall be worth it for you and ur SO.....

MELINDA, JUST READING THE WORDS " VISA IN HAND." GIVES MY HEART AN UP LIFT. SOME A/P"S ARE QUICKER THEN OTHERS. HOPE YOURS IS SHORT.IF VISA IS THE END RESULTS IT WILL IN DEED BE WORTH IT.

I TRY - - I HAVE ALWAYS TRIED TO LOOK AT THE POSITIVE SIDE OF THINGS...AND AT THE SAME TIME..THIS WHOLE PROCESS CERTAINLY TESTS MY ABILITY TO DO SO...FOR ME....I AM STRESSED WHEN I THINK OF THE WAIT I HAVE LEFT TO ENCOUNTER...CONSIDERING..I AM STILL A FEW STEPS BEHIND...WISH YOU ALL THE BEST..AND PRAY THAT I SEE UR THREAD VISA IN HAND SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[bgreed 0]

I fully understand what the waiting is like and just how much pain the waiting can cause. I saw my wife for the first time in eight months in September. In November she had our baby boy. I will not get to see her or him again until the end of January or middle of February.

Yeah it's painful emotionally to the point of nearly physical. Times are lonely and there are lots of times that you just plain lose hope that it's ever going to change. BUt you have to look that there is an end to it all. Yes it might take months longer that you ever imagined that it could, but the reward will be worth it that is the two of you together. And because you were able to weather this storm it will only make you appreciate eachother all the more which will make your relationship even stronger.

Lena and I look at it this way we are setting an example for our kids. When they might complain that something is too hard or the wait is too long, we can tell them the story about two people that fell in love who lived a long way apart. Who percervered through the difficulties and gave eachother strength and in the end were able to be together and to have had a great acheivement in their lives that not many others ever experienced.

So continue to be strong and to perserver it will all be worth it in the end.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

You are very welcome, and we will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

Regards,

David and Nitadyah

Flippant shallow words from a married Kanook waiting for a K1. Wow, just what we need here. You have NO IDEA what waiting in limbo is like. Enjoy your journey, and don't apply your shallow experience to people who wait from across the world to be with the one they love.

To the one who posted: Yes, the frustration, waiting, and limbo take you down, some days more than others. I remember when we thought we would be done or almost done by now, when we filed the approval process only took 3-4 months, with another couple months to get through State. Now, we don't know when we will see each other again. I wish you and the ones like you the best, especially during the holidays. I know this, that the waiting and the distance and the uncertainty have somehow made us grow closer and stronger. When we get through this, I don't believe there is a more difficult experience or greater test of a marriage relationship.

Regards, and best to you

David and Nitadyah

Yep, we are all going through this...hang in there

btw, this should be in the off topic forum

DEAR DAVID THANK YOU FOR YOUR REPLY. I THOUGHT THE KANOOK WAS SHALLOW TOO. BUT I'M SO DEPRESSED I THOUGHT IT WAS MAYBE ME BEING SENSITIVE. I SEE YOU ARE IN THE SAME BOAT AS ME. THERE IS COMFORT IN MISERY WHEN YOU FELL SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.I WROTE MY POST WITHOUT READING THE TOPIC OF TODAY. THEREA ARE MANY DEPRESSED TODAY. I GUESS ITS BECAUSE THE BUSY TIMES OF THIS HOLIDAY ARE PAST NOW. AND NOW WE HAVE TIME TO THINK ABOUT HOW MUCH OUR LOVED ONES ARE MISSED. I PRAY YOUR WAIT IS SHORTER THEN MINE. BY THE WAY THE KANOOK NEVER BOTHERED TO TELL ME WHAT A OFF TOPIC IS OR HOW TO FIND THEM.THANKS AGAIN. DEBBIE

You both should be mindful that you are violating TOS with being so rude to Laura. Keep it up and you will be reported.

Done.

[Nagishkaw 510]

D&N,

Who are you to cast judgement? If you can't extend compassion and mercy to the OP, why even post in this thread?

[no name 1]

OP - I cannot imagine what AP feels like. I do know waiting for the K1 approval is painful, I have done that.

To the bossy ones - one person MAY have violated TOS (altho I see no personal attack, just facts), the OP did not. Good grief.

Edited November 26, 2007 by devilette