just freaking Lovely

[deemabrouk 0]

well.. dont post much on here anymore due to my situation at home..

currently.. I am going to persue a divorce with my husband - after his physical, emotional and mental abuse to me and my kids..

my husband has only been in the country since July (sooo 4 months?) He has already lived out of the house for 2 of those months..

Not 100% positive it was Fraud.. BUT there has been this HUGE tie with bringing his family especially his mom into the country...

I contacted USCIS today.. asking what I can do...

APPARENTLY... nothing..

he has the K3 Visa.. and he can stay until it expires..

so i guess thats it.. I was his meal ticket into the country

he refuses to go home... and now rumor has it.. as soon as i divorce him.. He plans on moving to Philly and asap marrying again.

So another man will slip through the cracks... a person who talked SOOO much sh!t about america.. and still does.. will stay here.. and take all the benefits it can offer.

and I feel guilty for bringing this man into the country.. an abuser.. who could then subject another woman

####### kind of system is this? all these tax dollars going for?! Billions at this point POURED into Homeland Security.. for WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Caladan 19]

Oh, dee. I'm so sorry. I'm glad you're moving on.

[*JG* 2]

I'm so sorry.

I'm also sorry for the next woman this guy marries.

I hope you can make peace with it all and move on to a better future.

[deemabrouk 0]

but WHY is this allowed??

so many Americans Chirp about illegal immigrants.... AND I KNOW my husband is NOT gonna just leave when his visa is Done...

and what Immigration is just gonna give him another Visa when he marries another girl?@!

what the H#LL is this!!!!!!!!

when I was on the phone I was like " Ok.. my husband was abusive with me.. moved out within 2 months.. No longer living at my address.. We are getting a divorce.. And thats it? He can just Stay Here??!!!"

"yes mame... until his visa expires"

[JODO 2]

Sorry Dee . That's a damn shame.

[rebeccajo 14]

Dee,

I think 'they' are more interested in terrorists and people who have intention to do bodily harm to mass numbers of people.

IMO 'they' seem to have abandoned any former concern they may have had for us individually insofar as marriage fraud. If not, why would they be issuing greencards based upon marriage without even interviewing the couple?

It's my opinion the government now feels (in this day and age with a focus on national security) that we are grown-ups and it's not their job to 'protect' us from someone 'using' us for a greencard.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

but WHY is this allowed??

so many Americans Chirp about illegal immigrants.... AND I KNOW my husband is NOT gonna just leave when his visa is Done...

and what Immigration is just gonna give him another Visa when he marries another girl?@!

what the H#LL is this!!!!!!!!

when I was on the phone I was like " Ok.. my husband was abusive with me.. moved out within 2 months.. No longer living at my address.. We are getting a divorce.. And thats it? He can just Stay Here??!!!"

"yes mame... until his visa expires"

Ok, but deemabrouk, "what" did you offer as evidence of your concerns that he was fraudulent in his intentions? There are, unfortunately, many abusers in the world. Too many, but that doesn't mean that the abuser is also commiting fraud through marriage. The circumstances you have suffered may demonstrate that your husband was not commited to your marriage and that, in turn, might imply that this could have been an agenda from the beginning, but you must provide evidence to USCIS that the reason he wasn't is because he only ever looked to your marriage as a means to get here. It is not over yet. Be creative. If there is another person, get him to commit that to writing (if you can). USCIS needs to see that your husband viewed his marriage to you "as a means to an end". He never planned for it to last. If you have such evidence, present that to USCIS.

[Caladan 19]

but WHY is this allowed??

so many Americans Chirp about illegal immigrants.... AND I KNOW my husband is NOT gonna just leave when his visa is Done...

and what Immigration is just gonna give him another Visa when he marries another girl?@!

what the H#LL is this!!!!!!!!

when I was on the phone I was like " Ok.. my husband was abusive with me.. moved out within 2 months.. No longer living at my address.. We are getting a divorce.. And thats it? He can just Stay Here??!!!"

"yes mame... until his visa expires"

I hate to say it, but USCIS rightly doesn't want to get involved without proof of fraud. Everyone knows how bitter a divorce can get; the last thing USCIS needs to be is another weapon in the custody battle. And how many people would try to get their spouses deported over a spat during a rough adjustment and then reconcile a week later?

They don't care if you have a happy marriage. Which works to our benefit, most of the time, since we only have to prove we've met once in person and talk to each other to secure the visa.

He won't be able to adjust status by marriage to any one else, which means if he doesn't leave, he will end up being here illegally. If you have proof of fraudulent intent, give them that.

[JenT 0]

Can you press charges for the abuse?

I'm so sorry this is happening to you dee...

[Nutty 2]

well.. dont post much on here anymore due to my situation at home..

currently.. I am going to persue a divorce with my husband - after his physical, emotional and mental abuse to me and my kids..

my husband has only been in the country since July (sooo 4 months?) He has already lived out of the house for 2 of those months..

Not 100% positive it was Fraud.. BUT there has been this HUGE tie with bringing his family especially his mom into the country...

I contacted USCIS today.. asking what I can do...

APPARENTLY... nothing..

he has the K3 Visa.. and he can stay until it expires..

so i guess thats it.. I was his meal ticket into the country

he refuses to go home... and now rumor has it.. as soon as i divorce him.. He plans on moving to Philly and asap marrying again.

So another man will slip through the cracks... a person who talked SOOO much sh!t about america.. and still does.. will stay here.. and take all the benefits it can offer.

and I feel guilty for bringing this man into the country.. an abuser.. who could then subject another woman

####### kind of system is this? all these tax dollars going for?! Billions at this point POURED into Homeland Security.. for WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am sorry for your situation.

In a way, you really shouldn't be so critical of the government on this. They relied primarily on your proof the relationship was not a fraud.

I believe the government is more focused on the idea of catching terrorists than perpatrators of marriage fraud. I would prefer my tax dollars to be focused on catching terrorists than people who commit marriage fraud.

However, I do think that if you can prove he married you for the express purpose of getting a visa, it can be denied by the government.

Get some form of documentation going...Emails, letters or anything that he says he used you for getting a visa.

He will be denied adjustment of status then.

[Mags 112]

Did you call the police during any altercations with your husband? If so this does work in your favour as evidence.

[Ahmed & Sue 0]

Dee,

I am so sorry for all you are going through. Unfortunately it is men like this that make it hard for others who really want to be here. This is sad to think about.

Now, unfortunately, I am gonna ask........on the affidavit of support I signed, it stated that I would be financially responsible for the immigrant for 3 years reguardless of divorice. You might want to re-read this. I am not suggesting you don't file divorice papers. However, I am suggesting you might need a lawyer to see what you can do to get around this. Whatever you do, I would not bring this to your husband's attention. You have already been through so much. Just try to protect yourself from any other misery that might come from this.

Best of luck,

Sue

[desert_fox 32]

I assume he never adjusted status.

His immigration will e his problem and not yours.

He cannot adjust status based upon marriage with another persom, but only the original petitioner.

The govt didnt exactly what you wanted them to do, and now they are to blame??

[Jenn! 918]

DM et al.: Has something changed? Won't he lose his K3 status after divorce if he hasn't adjusted yet? And can't he not adjust status unless through the original petitioner?

[Kez/JWolf 6]

If he entered on a K3 and then gets divorced before his K3 expires he can marry someone else and file for AOS + I-130..... this is what my best friend did.... she came on her K3 and once she was here discovered that her husband had been cheating on her the whole time she had been waiting in Scotland.... she had 2 kids that she had settled into school and did not want to disrupt them again so she decieded to stay at least until her K3 expired 1 1/2 years later....

She met someone through her work and they started dating... just after her K3 expired her now husband asked her to marry him and she accepted... they were married in the summer of 2006... they got advice from a lawyer and were told she could not adjust her status based on her original K3 but she could file for AOS based on the fact that she was now married to a USC and that is what they did. She had her interview in Boston back in June and was approved with no problems at all...

Kez