Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)

[Jengles 0]

??? Ladies,

I'm looking for help for a friend, their both jamaican, but he's only been here for around 4 years. problem is his buying habits for his kids in J.a.

background: their married and she's 7 months pregnant

i.e. he and the baby mother in j.a. bought a pair of clarks for his daughter. my friend thinks, his kids should get payless or cheaper shoes because the ground/road in j.a. is hard and the shoes aren't going to last long. he then caught her looking at a pair of baby Gucci sneakers and things went downhill from there. I told her to be careful of how she says things because she doesn't want it to look like she only wants him to buy cheap things for his children.

I told her that if he and the baby mother want to buy clarks for the girl (pre-teen) then that is their business. It is up to her to steer him to a more affordable way. i.e. buying them when they are on sale. he says he wants to do for his kids because he's not there and yada yada yada.

any advice??? same experiences??

Girl I know what u mean...His wife should NEVER make him feel that HIS other kids are not important enough to buy expensive stuff for...If he can STILL contribute to his life here and buy all that stuff for his kids why not ? I often think it's the fact that "they r not my kids" makes things so difficult and also "u had them with someone else" It's tough b/c my husband have kids we have to support as well but I never show resent or anything like that..Has she ever met the kids in JA ? if not maybe it's a good time to try..and even to talk with the kids mom cause now I am apart of their lives if u like it or not..and maybe one day these kids will end up at my house and I NEED to know that they will be taken care of and not pushed to the side b/c they are the "other" kids

No she's never met them, she just doesn't think they need brand name things, because she says they aren't going anywhere, she's from j.a. they do need the money up here, which is why i'm suggesting letting him buy on sale. she doesn't resent them, just thinks that their kids and they will wear their stuff hard, i.e. the little girl now needs a new pair of clarks because she has worn them out.

I don't even think this is a J.a. issue but an issue where there are step-children involved.

[nannygirl82 0]

kimmy..i feel a little better today...i went to bed at 9:30...got up at 9am and i still feel SO TIRED...like i could sleep for 2 more hours or something....my stomach still feels kinda upset...maybe it is cause the baby is taking up so much room that there is not enough room for the food to down...and can i tell you how my back is killing me....i think i have been a good trooper...but now it is kinda getting old....

how you feeling....

[Jengles 0]

good morning everyone!

JENGS...mi deh yah a wait pon u fi come and start trouble. How u do and how u feeling?

Mawnin everybadi, mi ago start do something new. If you want to join in, please feel free to do so. UNU BOW UNU HEAD...

Heavenly Father,

Please watch over my VJ sisters and brothers who are going through the immigration process. Please hold them close to you dear Lord and as we bond together as a family, please guide us and give us STRENGTH to look forward to a new day and to face the new challenges in our lives (whatever they may be) HEAD-on. We ask in your name dear Lord, AMEN.

Unu can git up now.

I an I BUN di bowing ting

now u sound like a yard man

[SupportOAFJF 0]

No didn't think it was JA issue either just used that cause they r in JA

If she buys payless they will need shoes and clothes more often..she has to remember that in JA people have to walk..to get on the bus get stepped on..walk from to bus school in the rain...Yes i agree they can buy on sale or in dept stores ..don't think they have to get cheap stuff just cause they're in JA..that's not fair in my opinion..if she was in their shoes wouldn't she but expensive stuff ?

kimmy..i feel a little better today...i went to bed at 9:30...got up at 9am and i still feel SO TIRED...like i could sleep for 2 more hours or something....my stomach still feels kinda upset...maybe it is cause the baby is taking up so much room that there is not enough room for the food to down...and can i tell you how my back is killing me....i think i have been a good trooper...but now it is kinda getting old....

how you feeling....

girl when ur preggo u don't have to proove ur any kind of trooper ..it takes a toll on ur entire self...only went once today ...praying it won't be a repeat of yesterday...

[*JG* 2]

Most of the genetic test have no standard no how u fi a test mi pon something u have nothing to compare it to ? cho

Lawny..wah u did a do fi drop off a di blasted chair..? wah u doc seh ?

Gilli how it a go wid u folder ? notice u seh u quietfrom wah day

Jengs u feel better..how it a go wid Mr.Jengs ?

YArds how u doing ?

Shauna u feel better today ?

Jomo u fully recover now ?

Kim u a eat ? try mek sure and u do what ur heart and God tells u no mek no doc mek u do nuttin u no know ar want do

Tonya wah gwaan

Tricia mi deh yah same way..big up yuh self

Classy u fi post a likkle more regular..get in di groove

English mi love how u pop in wid yuh 2cents every now and den...

Den u gone a wuk ?

Clairey u no tired...yuh always a do extra huh..but a doan blame my gurl

Shem...u just alwasy roll wid the convo

ok mitired no knoa weh dat come from..if mi lef out nobody..hush..di brain need FOOD so it nah wuk so right

Not fully recovered; but getting there slowly. So dang tired and sore this week.

[Jengles 0]

No didn't think it was JA issue either just used that cause they r in JA

If she buys payless they will need shoes and clothes more often..she has to remember that in JA people have to walk..to get on the bus get stepped on..walk from to bus school in the rain...Yes i agree they can buy on sale or in dept stores ..don't think they have to get cheap stuff just cause they're in JA..that's not fair in my opinion..if she was in their shoes wouldn't she but expensive stuff ?

i know what u meant, and that is a good point, but how do I get it across?? the kids are in MoBay, so i told her maybe that's why, they are so up to date. and my point was if they mother and the father are putting together to buy, then that is a good thing. it's not like the mother is calling saying u muss buy this for her.

[sus 70]

she might want to try shoebuy.com - They have great sale specials with free shipping - My sister buys shoes for my nephews on there and has paid almost half the cost for Clarks -

[SupportOAFJF 0]

by the way..u have to know how to take care of clarks....why not by hush puppies and teacj her to take care ofthem.."when u can take care of ur stuff you can get an "upgrade" something liek that...some kids b/c they kow they WILl get it they show no effort in taking care of their stuff...he should not spoil her in JA cause then she will not learn the value of he stuff..He and his wife needs to come to a common ground...and again sales are great buy off season for them and stuff like that...one thing she doesn't want him to start thinking is that his other kids don't deserve the best...

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

good morning everyone!

JENGS...mi deh yah a wait pon u fi come and start trouble. How u do and how u feeling?

Mawnin everybadi, mi ago start do something new. If you want to join in, please feel free to do so. UNU BOW UNU HEAD...

Heavenly Father,

Please watch over my VJ sisters and brothers who are going through the immigration process. Please hold them close to you dear Lord and as we bond together as a family, please guide us and give us STRENGTH to look forward to a new day and to face the new challenges in our lives (whatever they may be) HEAD-on. We ask in your name dear Lord, AMEN.

Unu can git up now.

I an I BUN di bowing ting

now u sound like a yard man

Unu is outah oadah

[*JG* 2]

??? Ladies,

I'm looking for help for a friend, their both jamaican, but he's only been here for around 4 years. problem is his buying habits for his kids in J.a.

background: their married and she's 7 months pregnant

i.e. he and the baby mother in j.a. bought a pair of clarks for his daughter. my friend thinks, his kids should get payless or cheaper shoes because the ground/road in j.a. is hard and the shoes aren't going to last long. he then caught her looking at a pair of baby Gucci sneakers and things went downhill from there. I told her to be careful of how she says things because she doesn't want it to look like she only wants him to buy cheap things for his children.

I told her that if he and the baby mother want to buy clarks for the girl (pre-teen) then that is their business. It is up to her to steer him to a more affordable way. i.e. buying them when they are on sale. he says he wants to do for his kids because he's not there and yada yada yada.

any advice??? same experiences??

I believe in paying more for quality items like shoes, purses, and some clothing items. But, I have my limits. When my kids were babies and growing so quickly, they only got brand names if I found them at a good second hand shop. Otherwise, they got the payless kind. Once they got into school, I did splurge on the better namebrand tennis shoes for school because they were just too rough on them....3 pairs of Payless or 1 pair of Nike.....same difference; but less hassle on my part to just buy one good pair. Now, that their feet are more stable, I always buy the name brands. However, that being said, I do not think Gucci makes shoes any better then Nike. I wouldn't buy the Gucci sneakers just to have them say Gucci on them. Now, little Tim's are a different story (ha ha).

Seriously, you have to weigh the value of the shoes against the money spent. If they are going to get lots of wear and tear on them, then, yes, I believe they are worth it. Let's face it, babies do not wear out shoes. They grow much too fast.

Edited February 28, 2008 by Jomo's girl

[Jengles 0]

by the way..u have to know how to take care of clarks....why not by hush puppies and teacj her to take care ofthem.."when u can take care of ur stuff you can get an "upgrade" something liek that...some kids b/c they kow they WILl get it they show no effort in taking care of their stuff...he should not spoil her in JA cause then she will not learn the value of he stuff..He and his wife needs to come to a common ground...and again sales are great buy off season for them and stuff like that...one thing she doesn't want him to start thinking is that his other kids don't deserve the best...

my point exactly cause men don't like that. and good point about her taking care of things, sus thanks for the tip.

good morning everyone!

JENGS...mi deh yah a wait pon u fi come and start trouble. How u do and how u feeling?

Mawnin everybadi, mi ago start do something new. If you want to join in, please feel free to do so. UNU BOW UNU HEAD...

Heavenly Father,

Please watch over my VJ sisters and brothers who are going through the immigration process. Please hold them close to you dear Lord and as we bond together as a family, please guide us and give us STRENGTH to look forward to a new day and to face the new challenges in our lives (whatever they may be) HEAD-on. We ask in your name dear Lord, AMEN.

Unu can git up now.

I an I BUN di bowing ting

now u sound like a yard man

Unu is outah oadah

wid what lol

[SupportOAFJF 0]

No didn't think it was JA issue either just used that cause they r in JA

If she buys payless they will need shoes and clothes more often..she has to remember that in JA people have to walk..to get on the bus get stepped on..walk from to bus school in the rain...Yes i agree they can buy on sale or in dept stores ..don't think they have to get cheap stuff just cause they're in JA..that's not fair in my opinion..if she was in their shoes wouldn't she but expensive stuff ?

i know what u meant, and that is a good point, but how do I get it across?? the kids are in MoBay, so i told her maybe that's why, they are so up to date. and my point was if they mother and the father are putting together to buy, then that is a good thing. it's not like the mother is calling saying u muss buy this for her.

u know maybe someone else could tell u how to say it nicely..mi woulda just say it...

[Jengles 0]

??? Ladies,

I'm looking for help for a friend, their both jamaican, but he's only been here for around 4 years. problem is his buying habits for his kids in J.a.

background: their married and she's 7 months pregnant

i.e. he and the baby mother in j.a. bought a pair of clarks for his daughter. my friend thinks, his kids should get payless or cheaper shoes because the ground/road in j.a. is hard and the shoes aren't going to last long. he then caught her looking at a pair of baby Gucci sneakers and things went downhill from there. I told her to be careful of how she says things because she doesn't want it to look like she only wants him to buy cheap things for his children.

I told her that if he and the baby mother want to buy clarks for the girl (pre-teen) then that is their business. It is up to her to steer him to a more affordable way. i.e. buying them when they are on sale. he says he wants to do for his kids because he's not there and yada yada yada.

any advice??? same experiences??

I believe in paying more for quality items like shoes, purses, and some clothing items. But, I have my limits. When my kids were babies and growing so quickly, they only got brand names if I found them at a good second hand shop. Otherwise, they got the payless kind. Once they got into school, I did splurge on the better namebrand tennis shoes for school because they were just too rough on them....3 pairs of Payless or 1 pair of Nike.....same difference; but less hassle on my part to just buy one good pair. Now, that their feet are more stable, I always buy the name brands. However, that being said, I do not think Gucci makes shoes any better then Nike. I wouldn't buy the Gucci sneakers just to have them say Gucci on them. Now, little Tim's are a different story (ha ha).

Seriously, you have to weigh the value of the shoes against the money spent. If they are going to get lots of wear and tear on them, then, yes, I believe they are worth it. Let's face it, babies do not wear out shoes. They grow much too fast.

Now that u mention the payless do wear out, but if they are cute i buy them and just know that i have to buy again in a couple of months. I'm a sale shopper and like to buy and put stuff down, so I would often end up getting brand name stuff at payless prices.

[Jengles 0]

No didn't think it was JA issue either just used that cause they r in JA

If she buys payless they will need shoes and clothes more often..she has to remember that in JA people have to walk..to get on the bus get stepped on..walk from to bus school in the rain...Yes i agree they can buy on sale or in dept stores ..don't think they have to get cheap stuff just cause they're in JA..that's not fair in my opinion..if she was in their shoes wouldn't she but expensive stuff ?

i know what u meant, and that is a good point, but how do I get it across?? the kids are in MoBay, so i told her maybe that's why, they are so up to date. and my point was if they mother and the father are putting together to buy, then that is a good thing. it's not like the mother is calling saying u muss buy this for her.

u know maybe someone else could tell u how to say it nicely..mi woulda just say it...

I've tried telling her, she's just not seeing it from his point of view, women can be so unreasonable, *cha* lol

[SupportOAFJF 0]

u know i rather buy payless for my daughter here than buy it for my niece and nephew even my step kids...they have less wear and tear here than there...some women can be veryyyy unreasonable sometimes...