Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)

[brownnskinn 0]

My girl...I AGREE 100% (we BOTH have lives)...you know what my grandmother always tell me. No, (NONE) marriage or relationship will every be perfect or without faults, but in order to make it work (and a lot of people don't agree with this) ONE PERSON HAS TO LOVE THE OTHER PERSON more. I hear people say that a lot, but mi nevah fully understand it. The way I was thought to make a relationship work is to give 50% and expect 50% back (with my experiences) that never worked.

COMPROMISE (what a pretty word) but what does it really mean. When I was going through counseling with my son's father I must have heard that word 20 times for the session.

No that 50-50 ####### don't wuk atall.

Girl, please keep it coming. I'm on page 10 now. I'm waiting for my study patner to include her research. She ask mi weh mi get di information (mi tell her) IT CLASSIFIED.

DWL

[brownnskinn 0]

Lawny mi feel yah...why compromise so hard ? b/c one is given more than he/she is getting....if I give and not getting i'm withdraw...when u start give mi wi play again...alot of men feel if they compromise they r given up their "manhood" puhleease....get ova dat...me and my husband fight all di time..but often times he doesn't see why he could have made a dif decision until we talk and get to the "middle"

Girl that is the million dollar question! A great visual that I have heard regarding needs and marriage is the "bank account" scenario. Basically like you said. You each have an emotional "account" and if all that is happening is the spouse is taking out "withdrawls" (getting what they need) and not making any "deposits" (giving what you need)...the account run dry and the ####### starts to happen because the accounts aren't balanced. Each person should be working towards filling the other persons "account".

OMG!!! So right on! These concepts are talked about in this book If I rememember correctly: The Respect men want the Love women deserve...very good book!!

[brownnskinn 0]

mi a go mek miself a meez tuh..english and lita mi like oonuh meez dem

Me too!

[brownnskinn 0]

if i could get him to help more with the laundry we would have so much for time for rooksing pon di weekends

Mek im knoa dat Jengy!

We drop everyting for rooking at our house

Lawd Gawd! Brownie, if unnu nah rooks nuff? Lawd DWL. Mi can juss pikcha ie. Laundry in yuh hand and hubby say " cum gyal! jump pon ie!", and deh clothes dem a guh fly inna de air as yuh run to im!! Woooieee!!!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

look at me ..look at me !!! i did it...

[Marlita 0]

OMG, Kimmy, dat look like you!

[brownnskinn 0]

My meez gone mad

[SupportOAFJF 0]

OMG, Kimmy, dat look like you!

gotta have the glasses

[Marlita 0]

haha, mi see seh she inna yaad.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

My meez gone mad

u ready fi fight a battle !

[clairern 0]

Is there a way for those who didnt finish high school in jamaica to finish as adults? Im sure there are no free programs? like here in the US.

They can't technically finish high school. They have to take the GED to qualify as having a high school diploma. There a lot of free programs out there, just check with any technical schools. Good luck

[classychic77 0]

My meez gone mad

u ready fi fight a battle !

All of the Meez are so adorable. I love them !

[Jengles 0]

I so meezed myself, but mi haffi go change it, it is so dancehall me, mi have on one loud dress and gold shoes...on second thought mi nah change it a mi dat, now how do i pon her on this page

Edited February 27, 2008 by Jengles

[shrewdgal 0]

yeah. he would if i decided that

but even if he doesnt if he accepts the form since he is in a different country then in something like 60 days I would be legally eligible for divorce or something

she explained it but I wasnt listening that well

Hey guys! I have so much reading to catch up on.

Drama in the life.

I asked about the divorce because that may be what happens with me.. gross and heartbreaking..but maybe not needed.

There are some questions that still need to be answered and I need to do some searching within myself.

I may be a southern woman..but what most people dont know is that behind that sugary drawl and ladylikeness is a girl that was raised in the south learnin how to fight and knowing how she should be treated. Southern women (most women..not just us) dont settle. no sir.

My best friend is a lawyer and researched the case for me just incase I need it. Yes, I can get a divorce here no matter where I was married and where he is a citizen, the other party just has to sign the divorce stuff in front of a notary/jp. incase anyone ever wants to know.

I covet your prayers at this moment!

Thanks guys!!

i wish you the best!! make sure whatever decision you come to is for you and your well being....

agreed, but do u think he will sign the divorce?? hope it doesn't go that route

[clairern 0]

Morning Yardies, just geting up OOB. Trying to relax today, cause I am working some OT tonight. Have a great day all, and I will check in later.

Love

Claire