Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)

[JA Tam 7]

With that being said JATam, i was wonderng the other day how everyone came to find VJ? I was told about it from a woman a met on another forum who happened to see me mention i met a man in Jamaica. She told me of VJ waaayyy before we were even close to deciding to get married but she surely led me in the right direction. i always wonder where would i be now, if I hadn't found vj. I took 10 months from joining VJ to filing my petition. But I learned so much in that time.

So tell me...how did you learn about VJ?

GOOGLE :lol: I found VJ at the point when NVC sent me the request for hubby's birth cert., our marriage cert. and his police report. Based on how I knew the process was, that threw me, so I started searching for info on this new change for JA. Thankfully VJ popped up and I have been blessed with meeting all of you!!!!

Edited February 1, 2008 by JA Tam

[shrewdgal 0]

Ok guys. I am SO frustrated and this is only the beginning. I dont know how you guys have made it through! I have so much respect for you!!

I filed my CR-1 on October 30.

I received my NOA-1 on January 17

My receipt number is STILL not in the system.

Talked to my senator's office Tuesday. They sent a fax and they will let me know as soon as they know anything. VSC still hasnt faxed them back.

I am still not in the system.

I have to pay taxes for this year.

We have immigration costs.

I may have PCOS.

I cannot bear the thoughts of going to JA this summer and leaving my husband on July 31 to come back to work with no end in sight.

I need help.

Do you ever just reach that point where your faith in God doesnt even seem to console you? I just dont know if I can do it. Everyday it is making me miserable.

Whine over. haha

Hush yuh mouth girl! God is all in this. Its the faith in Him that gets me and my husband through. i know its hard, me and you are pretty much neck in neck in our journey...just got married...spent a good part of the summer in JA..left our new husband and family behind, filed paperwork in October after the crazy USCIS backlog, waited til January for the stinkin NOA1. Yeah its all crazy. I'm already getting depressed at the fact that I will be having to say goodbye to my husband again next month after my visit and the visit hasn't even come yet!

As far as the visa I have chopped it up to knowing that he won't be here til the holidays this year. i am estimating a year of processing. So of course we will spend our first anniversary alone But waht keeps me going in knowing that God is using this time to strenghten our relationship with Him. Its given us patience, and has humbled us alot to one another. We try not to appreciate each other more and we eachplace our selves in the others shoes CONSTANLY as to always help us to be compassionate with one another. We pray together over the phone and have devotion with one another. Little things like this help keep us grounded. I know it doesnt compare to being with each other, but we try to make do with where God has placed us....having faith that He is training us for a marriage that is meant to go the long haul.

Try not to think of the little details in your visa process...like not being in the online system...think more of your NOA2. Give yourself a deadline date you hope to be there, like 6 months after you sent it. Then give yourself a deadline you hope to get out of NVC, like 90 days after NOA2, then give yourself a day to have interview, like 60days after NVC complete. This will give you bigger stepping stones and cut down on the anxiety. Trust me...there are so many people who bever got in the online system but went on to get the visa in a good amount of time. Don't stress the little things. And hopefully those dates above will be altered when they start clearing faster.

You know what does give me hope and a bit of happiness?

-Well I'm a planner and I am now planning some sort of party for when we come back 'permanantly' with visa.

-I'm estimating time off from work and PTO hours needed for the holidays

-Making lists of exciting and fun places to go and see in my area

-Remodeling my house to make room for the Mister

It just feels good to be able to plan for this stuff...cause it will be happening.....this Chritmas and Thanksgiving...God willing...we will be celebrating together in our own home. Its nice to start to think of my home as 'our home'. I hope you get some peace soon enough.

\

I needed that. Thank you

[shrewdgal 0]

Shrewdie, Lita - no lie, it is not an easy journey that you face. SG, sometimes you have to cry, let it all out to God and He will help you to realize that you can't do it in your strength, you need His strength. This is probably one of the hardest processes to go through and Lita, is the same thing I said - I looked at that time apart from hubby as training to be the better wife and for him, the better husband that God wants for each of us. Try and occupy your time as much as possible and remember your VJ family is here for you to encourage you through this process. I wished I had found VJ earlier in my journey, but it was right on time!

My dear, it was the hardest part leaving him everytime I went home; #1 - mi neva waan lef Jamaica, much less without him. The amount of tears that fell the night before I left and the next morning - mi dear, cried 4 rivers between the 2 of us. This process is rough and it hard for someone to understand it unless them going through it too.

Hold fast to your faith my dear - remember it won't be this way forever. THIS TOO SHALL PASS!!! (most recently quoted by Gill & maddie)

Thank you. I just have a lot going on lately and stress out tha wazoo. I just had my heart set on a miracle

[JA Tam 7]

All, check this out: Upcoming Radio Interview. There are a lot of issues that have been highlighted by all of us lately, and to have this public forum to air our immigration issues would be awesome. Hopefully it can spark something in this whole immigration process.

[JA Tam 7]

Shrewdie, Lita - no lie, it is not an easy journey that you face. SG, sometimes you have to cry, let it all out to God and He will help you to realize that you can't do it in your strength, you need His strength. This is probably one of the hardest processes to go through and Lita, is the same thing I said - I looked at that time apart from hubby as training to be the better wife and for him, the better husband that God wants for each of us. Try and occupy your time as much as possible and remember your VJ family is here for you to encourage you through this process. I wished I had found VJ earlier in my journey, but it was right on time!

My dear, it was the hardest part leaving him everytime I went home; #1 - mi neva waan lef Jamaica, much less without him. The amount of tears that fell the night before I left and the next morning - mi dear, cried 4 rivers between the 2 of us. This process is rough and it hard for someone to understand it unless them going through it too.

Hold fast to your faith my dear - remember it won't be this way forever. THIS TOO SHALL PASS!!! (most recently quoted by Gill & maddie)

Thank you. I just have a lot going on lately and stress out tha wazoo. I just had my heart set on a miracle

I know hon...when the burden gets too heavy remember that Jesus said; "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest....For my yoke is easy and my burden is light" (Matt. 11: 28, 30). Cast your cares on Him...you put it to the Lord and you leave your burdens, your stress at His feet. Where better for it to be...I know it is hard to praise through your pain, but remember when the praises go up, the blessings will come down. This week has been rough on me and I have been so depressed because of a lot of things that are going on, but I am going to leave it at His mercy seat. Believe me, this week I got to being so upset with God, but I am even more upset with myself for losing my faith. I'll be praying for you hon. It will get better; tomorrow's another day, one for God's blessings to be renewed!!!

We're all here for you love.

[Forever Young 1]

With that being said JATam, i was wonderng the other day how everyone came to find VJ? I was told about it from a woman a met on another forum who happened to see me mention i met a man in Jamaica. She told me of VJ waaayyy before we were even close to deciding to get married but she surely led me in the right direction. i always wonder where would i be now, if I hadn't found vj. I took 10 months from joining VJ to filing my petition. But I learned so much in that time.

So tell me...how did you learn about VJ?

GOOGLE :lol: I found VJ at the point when NVC sent me the request for hubby's birth cert., our marriage cert. and his police report. Based on how I knew the process was, that threw me, so I started searching for info on this new change for JA. Thankfully VJ popped up and I have been blessed with meeting all of you!!!!

Ditto...I found VJ via Google too! I joined in December 2006...checked the Yardie thread got WAAAAAY to overwhelmed and logged off til I actually filed in July 2007! I haven't shut-up since I love love love my VJ Yardie family!! I feel blessed to have found you guys! We are so different from other threads...don't get me wrong we have our likkle falling outs...(hennyone memba the Jena Six issue )but we always manage to come back together like a true family and move on! I love that about us!!

Bwoy, some of the VJ threads out there would have mi inna therapy 6 days a week! Instead...VJ Yardie thread is my therapy!

Love onnuh fuh dat! ,

Gill

[brownnskinn 0]

Mi feel like mi wah kill mi husband....Him lef early fi mail awf di petition before him guh work.

Mi cawl him fi di tracking number, him chat bout di line did too long, him can dweet tomorrow..chaaaaaaaaaaaaa

All him did a duh is siddung pan di PC instead him lef earlier..grrrrrrr

men !

That's like my husband wants to buy an PM3 player from misa Cheng shop pon di corner.."wah, no but nuttin from dem, if anyting wrong wid it how u a go get yuh money back !" *in a very loud voice*

My mister bought some property investment package $175, seh dey told em it only cost 30 bucks :blink He's soo gullible sometimes

[brownnskinn 0]

With that being said JATam, i was wonderng the other day how everyone came to find VJ? I was told about it from a woman a met on another forum who happened to see me mention i met a man in Jamaica. She told me of VJ waaayyy before we were even close to deciding to get married but she surely led me in the right direction. i always wonder where would i be now, if I hadn't found vj. I took 10 months from joining VJ to filing my petition. But I learned so much in that time.

So tell me...how did you all learn about VJ?

I googled visa....when looking for information.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

me too...google..did a get fed up a di process and was seeing what was out there

[classychic77 0]

Ok guys. I am SO frustrated and this is only the beginning. I dont know how you guys have made it through! I have so much respect for you!!

I filed my CR-1 on October 30.

I received my NOA-1 on January 17

My receipt number is STILL not in the system.

Talked to my senator's office Tuesday. They sent a fax and they will let me know as soon as they know anything. VSC still hasnt faxed them back.

I am still not in the system.

I have to pay taxes for this year.

We have immigration costs.

I may have PCOS.

I cannot bear the thoughts of going to JA this summer and leaving my husband on July 31 to come back to work with no end in sight.

I need help.

Do you ever just reach that point where your faith in God doesnt even seem to console you? I just dont know if I can do it. Everyday it is making me miserable.

Whine over. haha

I have PCOS, if you need any advice or just want to talk about it I'm here.

[JA Tam 7]

Ok guys. I am SO frustrated and this is only the beginning. I dont know how you guys have made it through! I have so much respect for you!!

I filed my CR-1 on October 30.

I received my NOA-1 on January 17

My receipt number is STILL not in the system.

Talked to my senator's office Tuesday. They sent a fax and they will let me know as soon as they know anything. VSC still hasnt faxed them back.

I am still not in the system.

I have to pay taxes for this year.

We have immigration costs.

I may have PCOS.

I cannot bear the thoughts of going to JA this summer and leaving my husband on July 31 to come back to work with no end in sight.

I need help.

Do you ever just reach that point where your faith in God doesnt even seem to console you? I just dont know if I can do it. Everyday it is making me miserable.

Whine over. haha

I have PCOS, if you need any advice or just want to talk about it I'm here.

Not to be nosey, but what is PCOS? (if you don't mind me asking).

[JA Tam 7]

With that being said JATam, i was wonderng the other day how everyone came to find VJ? I was told about it from a woman a met on another forum who happened to see me mention i met a man in Jamaica. She told me of VJ waaayyy before we were even close to deciding to get married but she surely led me in the right direction. i always wonder where would i be now, if I hadn't found vj. I took 10 months from joining VJ to filing my petition. But I learned so much in that time.

So tell me...how did you learn about VJ?

GOOGLE :lol: I found VJ at the point when NVC sent me the request for hubby's birth cert., our marriage cert. and his police report. Based on how I knew the process was, that threw me, so I started searching for info on this new change for JA. Thankfully VJ popped up and I have been blessed with meeting all of you!!!!

Ditto...I found VJ via Google too! I joined in December 2006...checked the Yardie thread got WAAAAAY to overwhelmed and logged off til I actually filed in July 2007! I haven't shut-up since I love love love my VJ Yardie family!! I feel blessed to have found you guys! We are so different from other threads...don't get me wrong we have our likkle falling outs...(hennyone memba the Jena Six issue )but we always manage to come back together like a true family and move on! I love that about us!!

Bwoy, some of the VJ threads out there would have mi inna therapy 6 days a week! Instead...VJ Yardie thread is my therapy!

Love onnuh fuh dat! ,

Gill

Gill, mi caan believe yuh bring dat up Ah so it haffi go sometimes. It has been a wonderful experience on VJ; I never knew I could get so close to a bunch of women so fast. I feel so personally invested in all of you, mi nuh tink mi coulda ever come off ah VJ, no matter how hard mi try.

What is going on wid di link up?

[JA Tam 7]

So I saw this in The Jamaica Star this afternoon. It freaked the hell out of me: Demons Invade School

[shrewdgal 0]

Ok guys. I am SO frustrated and this is only the beginning. I dont know how you guys have made it through! I have so much respect for you!!

I filed my CR-1 on October 30.

I received my NOA-1 on January 17

My receipt number is STILL not in the system.

Talked to my senator's office Tuesday. They sent a fax and they will let me know as soon as they know anything. VSC still hasnt faxed them back.

I am still not in the system.

I have to pay taxes for this year.

We have immigration costs.

I may have PCOS.

I cannot bear the thoughts of going to JA this summer and leaving my husband on July 31 to come back to work with no end in sight.

I need help.

Do you ever just reach that point where your faith in God doesnt even seem to console you? I just dont know if I can do it. Everyday it is making me miserable.

Whine over. haha

I have PCOS, if you need any advice or just want to talk about it I'm here.

Not to be nosey, but what is PCOS? (if you don't mind me asking).

Not being nosey. Its Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. It basically means your ovaries are cystic and dont work the way they should. causes a whole heap of problems..infertility one of them.. blah

[JA Tam 7]

Ok guys. I am SO frustrated and this is only the beginning. I dont know how you guys have made it through! I have so much respect for you!!

I filed my CR-1 on October 30.

I received my NOA-1 on January 17

My receipt number is STILL not in the system.

Talked to my senator's office Tuesday. They sent a fax and they will let me know as soon as they know anything. VSC still hasnt faxed them back.

I am still not in the system.

I have to pay taxes for this year.

We have immigration costs.

I may have PCOS.

I cannot bear the thoughts of going to JA this summer and leaving my husband on July 31 to come back to work with no end in sight.

I need help.

Do you ever just reach that point where your faith in God doesnt even seem to console you? I just dont know if I can do it. Everyday it is making me miserable.

Whine over. haha

I have PCOS, if you need any advice or just want to talk about it I'm here.

Not to be nosey, but what is PCOS? (if you don't mind me asking).

Not being nosey. Its Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. It basically means your ovaries are cystic and dont work the way they should. causes a whole heap of problems..infertility one of them.. blah

Thanks for explaining. We are going to pray against the infertility; as we can see with Classy, you can have some beautiful babies.