I hear crickets.....

[Zee Bee 61]

That makes two of us that are going broke over calling africa....but its worth it.

African men are sooo sweet aren't they!!?!?!

Uhhhhh, make that three of us going broke over calling africa. I talk to him 2-3 times a day.

Ummm...4.

I try not to think about it.

[Divine Mercy 0]

That makes two of us that are going broke over calling africa....but its worth it.

African men are sooo sweet aren't they!!?!?!

Uhhhhh, make that three of us going broke over calling africa. I talk to him 2-3 times a day.

Ummm...4.

I try not to think about it.

This particular forum seemed quiet for a long time so I only peek in once a week or less to see if anything is happening.

We've been longing to be together since early 2004 and it feels like it's never going to end. The visa process of the journey is just the last (extremely long) leg of the journey for us.. we had a lot of other obstacles to overcome before we could even apply.

Fortunately, I haven't seen too much of the nastiness that goes on in VJ, I feel very lucky to have come at a time when the site is filled with supportive and intelligent people!

Missing him is unbearable. In about ten years I'm going to add up all of our phone bills (the calling cards I bought at convenience stores won't even be included) when I can face the numbers. Right now it might lead me to call less (haha yeah right!)

It seems as if VSC is no longer the good service center. I haven't seen a K3 approval come out of there in weeks while CSC is churning them out one after another. It is wonderful when others get approved but also disheartening at the same time when I watch people who filed after me move on to the next step one after the other. I called VSC (using the RFE trick) last week and found out mine is still "on the shelf". We had originally hoped for a Christmas reunion, now we'll be lucky if we get a St. Patrick's Day reunion. The carrot on a string just keeps getting yanked away from us every time we get close. Also that RFE trick didn't generate a touch on the website. Neither did the inquiry made by my Senator's office. Their system is a mess. What are we paying for? I'm so frustrated and sad.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

I am sad to know that this forum is dead. I am just joining after the fact. My fiance was approved for his visa on November 13th. The whole process has been very stressful, but I just want to let others know that all will be well if you pray and have faith that God has already decided what the outcome will be. Femi will pick up his visa on November 20th and he will be here after Christmas. I am going to Nigeria for Christmas and we all know what fun there is in Nigeria during the holidays. Have a good one!!!!

Ooooooo, Great news! Enjoy the holidays with your sweetie!!

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Missing him is unbearable. In about ten years I'm going to add up all of our phone bills (the calling cards I bought at convenience stores won't even be included) when I can face the numbers. Right now it might lead me to call less (haha yeah right!)

It seems as if VSC is no longer the good service center. I haven't seen a K3 approval come out of there in weeks while CSC is churning them out one after another. It is wonderful when others get approved but also disheartening at the same time when I watch people who filed after me move on to the next step one after the other. I called VSC (using the RFE trick) last week and found out mine is still "on the shelf". We had originally hoped for a Christmas reunion, now we'll be lucky if we get a St. Patrick's Day reunion. The carrot on a string just keeps getting yanked away from us every time we get close. Also that RFE trick didn't generate a touch on the website. Neither did the inquiry made by my Senator's office. Their system is a mess. What are we paying for? I'm so frustrated and sad.

Oh, don't make me cry! I do feel incredibly sad, cause when I started this process, I naively thought that six months was how long the whole process took. So I thought he'll be home for Christmas! Whoopie! OH NO! I was wrong. Six months for part 1 and then go to NVC and then deal with the embassy and oh my goodness, now I don't even project out. I just hope we're together by next summer a year later. Many days I want to pack up and move over there cause I miss him very very much. It's awfully hard to feel like my life is on hold. I'm dealing with each day, but life decisions and goals are pretty much focused on reuniting my family and not much more. Maybe I'll need happy pills before this process is over.

[Divine Mercy 0]

Missing him is unbearable. In about ten years I'm going to add up all of our phone bills (the calling cards I bought at convenience stores won't even be included) when I can face the numbers. Right now it might lead me to call less (haha yeah right!)

It seems as if VSC is no longer the good service center. I haven't seen a K3 approval come out of there in weeks while CSC is churning them out one after another. It is wonderful when others get approved but also disheartening at the same time when I watch people who filed after me move on to the next step one after the other. I called VSC (using the RFE trick) last week and found out mine is still "on the shelf". We had originally hoped for a Christmas reunion, now we'll be lucky if we get a St. Patrick's Day reunion. The carrot on a string just keeps getting yanked away from us every time we get close. Also that RFE trick didn't generate a touch on the website. Neither did the inquiry made by my Senator's office. Their system is a mess. What are we paying for? I'm so frustrated and sad.

Oh, don't make me cry! I do feel incredibly sad, cause when I started this process, I naively thought that six months was how long the whole process took. So I thought he'll be home for Christmas! Whoopie! OH NO! I was wrong. Six months for part 1 and then go to NVC and then deal with the embassy and oh my goodness, now I don't even project out. I just hope we're together by next summer a year later. Many days I want to pack up and move over there cause I miss him very very much. It's awfully hard to feel like my life is on hold. I'm dealing with each day, but life decisions and goals are pretty much focused on reuniting my family and not much more. Maybe I'll need happy pills before this process is over.

Believe me, I feel your sadness. It is heartbreaking every single day. Sometimes I don't even bother to call him because the sound of his voice is too much. I just did a little investigation seeing as how there are so few VSCers on here there's really not much to go on but here's what I found (it's not great so brace yourself)

CSC Approved Petitions since September 1, 2007

I-130 (CR1) = 5

I-130 (K3) = 64

I-129F (K1) = 212

I-129F (K3) 65

VSC Approved Petitions since September 1, 2007

I-130 (CR1) = 2

I-130 (K3) = 8

I-129F (K1) = 57

I-129F (K3) = 5

I wish we had waited to get married when he finally got here. The I-130 slows things down quite a bit

[Zee Bee 61]

I keep thinking that I want to go back to Ghana, but then I think about the sadness and the tears of leaving him again and I can't take it.

So I take solace in the fact that the mext time I go home we will be coming back together.

And the wait of this process only makes things that much harder.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

I wish we had waited to get married when he finally got here. The I-130 slows things down quite a bit

It's funny u say that because the grass is always greener. I keep thinking that I was a fool and should have just planned a wedding in Ghana with both our families and filed the I130 since the K1 is taking me just as long and he still won't be a resident when he gets here. So, it's kind of cool to see that we both think that we could have done something differently to make it better and probably the reality is there is no "better" we just have to wait as patiently as we can. Only God knows the plan. Bassi keeps reminding me to trust.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

I keep thinking that I want to go back to Ghana, but then I think about the sadness and the tears of leaving him again and I can't take it.

So I take solace in the fact that the mext time I go home we will be coming back together.

And the wait of this process only makes things that much harder.

I think I feel the same way you do but don't want to admit it. I know that probably sounds crazy. I sabotaged going over for the holidays by waiting until the fare went up to $2000 and saying, oh well, I can't afford it now. I can't imagine leaving him again. But I also can't fathom going a year not seeing him again. So what do I do?

This is why I don't come here everyday. This process really taps in the weakest part of my spirit.

[Zee Bee 61]

I keep thinking that I want to go back to Ghana, but then I think about the sadness and the tears of leaving him again and I can't take it.

So I take solace in the fact that the mext time I go home we will be coming back together.

And the wait of this process only makes things that much harder.

I think I feel the same way you do but don't want to admit it. I know that probably sounds crazy. I sabotaged going over for the holidays by waiting until the fare went up to $2000 and saying, oh well, I can't afford it now. I can't imagine leaving him again. But I also can't fathom going a year not seeing him again. So what do I do?

This is why I don't come here everyday. This process really taps in the weakest part of my spirit.

I know. I like coming on here and rooting for people and seeing everyone moving along but it is hard when I am stuck in limbo until March. But I figure I could be of some help to someone so I hang around and contribute where I can.

I am just counting the days until the interview. Then I have to wait another 4 months before I see him.

But in the end it will all be worth it, for all of us

[Adrians Mom 0]

Hey guys...hope everyone had a good weekend. I was busy the whole weekend, went to my god-sisters wedding, and then hung out with some of my girlfriends yesterday. Girls day out...we just caught up and had dinner with each other. Alot of us...well all four of us are in long distance relationships, so we try to keep each other company every once in a while. Was very refreshing. My SO was kinda testy that I didn't get to talk to him as much this weekend. Hmmm...showing true colors are we? LOL...

I haven't seen my SO since May...this six months has been difficult...and we're both getting testy. I can't put off this trip, I've got to see him....its healthy for the relationship I bliv. I do wonder how long it will take for our petition to get to the embassy. They sent off our petition on Friday...

Here's to a good and SHORT week ladies....

[Ta Ta 1]

Hmm....I think I am going to start a thread so that we can keep track of people's progress, ie, people waiting for NOA2's, interviews, etc. I have seen it being done in other forums.

Lets see what I can come up with.

Hmm....I think I am going to start a thread so that we can keep track of people's progress, ie, people waiting for NOA2's, interviews, etc. I have seen it being done in other forums.

Lets see what I can come up with.

Oooooh, that would be great. I, for one, would appreciate that alot!!!!

That is all the motivation I needed

Be looking out for one soon

That would be cool ..... I like that idea.

Still waiting for a second interview and haven't seen him in 18 months

[Marlita 0]

Hmm....I think I am going to start a thread so that we can keep track of people's progress, ie, people waiting for NOA2's, interviews, etc. I have seen it being done in other forums.

Lets see what I can come up with.

Hmm....I think I am going to start a thread so that we can keep track of people's progress, ie, people waiting for NOA2's, interviews, etc. I have seen it being done in other forums.

Lets see what I can come up with.

Oooooh, that would be great. I, for one, would appreciate that alot!!!!

That is all the motivation I needed

Be looking out for one soon

That would be cool ..... I like that idea.

Still waiting for a second interview and haven't seen him in 18 months

Hey All! Never posted in this thread but I've seen a few of you on other threads. I'm up late and bored once again on another Saturday night. I saw some action in this thread and peeked in to say hello. Hey Omoba! I know you're missing Jawi and her story just as much as I.

[Ta Ta 1]

Hey Marlita, just got back from my trip and am trying to catch up with VJ pages and pages ......... waetin yuh mean bout Jawi ?

Har go stop di story ? I have not caught up with that thread yet, don't tell me she stopped ???????? I have to find it.......*runs off to see what's up*

[Divine Mercy 0]

I wish we had waited to get married when he finally got here. The I-130 slows things down quite a bit

It's funny u say that because the grass is always greener. I keep thinking that I was a fool and should have just planned a wedding in Ghana with both our families and filed the I130 since the K1 is taking me just as long and he still won't be a resident when he gets here. So, it's kind of cool to see that we both think that we could have done something differently to make it better and probably the reality is there is no "better" we just have to wait as patiently as we can. Only God knows the plan. Bassi keeps reminding me to trust.

hmmm maybe we are exactly where God wants us to be right now.

I keep thinking that I want to go back to Ghana, but then I think about the sadness and the tears of leaving him again and I can't take it.

So I take solace in the fact that the mext time I go home we will be coming back together.

And the wait of this process only makes things that much harder.

I think I feel the same way you do but don't want to admit it. I know that probably sounds crazy. I sabotaged going over for the holidays by waiting until the fare went up to $2000 and saying, oh well, I can't afford it now. I can't imagine leaving him again. But I also can't fathom going a year not seeing him again. So what do I do?

This is why I don't come here everyday. This process really taps in the weakest part of my spirit.

I know. I like coming on here and rooting for people and seeing everyone moving along but it is hard when I am stuck in limbo until March. But I figure I could be of some help to someone so I hang around and contribute where I can.

I am just counting the days until the interview. Then I have to wait another 4 months before I see him.

But in the end it will all be worth it, for all of us

It will be well worth it, I for one am happy you stick around in the mean time

[Zee Bee 61]

Where is everyone ?