OPORTUNISTAS

[Craig_Karina 0]

Hello Fellow VJer's!!!!

FINALLY, I figured everything out about my wife! I had many suspicions that she was only interested in a better life for herself and her daughter in the United States. But, I turned a blind eye to it because I was in love. But, being crazy in love does not mean being STUPID in love!!! I visited my wife, Karina, on November 1st...and was to stay 5 days with her. By the second day, our marriage was irretrievably broken. I caught her in several lies...and ONE was a really BIG LIE!!! How do I know? Because I decided to "test" her feelings and sentiments toward me. I devised a plan so I could see her reactions in certain situations. And, in each test...she failed. She told lies about her whereabouts on the weekends. And, I had evidence!! She told lies about many things. She even told lies when the truth would have sounded better! I cannot and will not be married to a LIAR. Was she unfaithful? I do not think so...but, really I do not know. How can you tell when you're 1500 miles apart in different countries? I thought I knew this woman because I had been to see her 10+ times. But, the "real" Karina came out on the night of 2 November...and I did not like what I saw. IT IS FINISHED FOREVER!!!!! NO LOOKING BACK!!!!

So, my advice to ALL of you on VJ is beware of your spouses/fiancees because there are ulterior motives from many of these women/men from other countries. NOT ALL...but, many want a better life and know that the opportunity exists with an American man or woman. They are willing to say anything, do anything (including getting pregnant) go anywhere for the privilege and opportunity of being in the USA!! It is OK to be in love with your wife/fiancee...but, do not be foolish. Devise some "tests" to guage their true feelings for you. Do not be afraid to put a "bug" in their computer to see what is being said behind your back about you. Learn their language so you can understand what is being said in conversations...when you are with them...or in e-mails to other "friends." YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO KNOW BECAUSE ONCE THEY ARE HERE IN THE UNITED STATES...THEY ARE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY FOR MANY YEARS!!!!

Thank God, 2 friends in Colombia living in the same city and a few fortunate circumstances to show me the type of woman that my wife really was...an OPORTUNISTA. I was in this marriage for LOVE...she was in it for MONEY and the USA opportunity. Today, I mailed a letter to withdraw my petitions to USCIS...so a spot will be vacated and it will move everyone else up a notch!!! I am hurting a little from this bad experience but...not so much as I would be in 3 or 4 months when my wife and daughter were here with me. I feel sorry for the little girl because she will probably follow in the footsteps of her mother.

Good luck to all of you on VJ and I wish you much happiness. I know there is a good woman out there in the world for me...back to the search. Divorce proceedings have been instituted!! There is NO TURNING BACK ON THIS ONE!!! NO WAY!!!

God Bless ALL of you...and God Bless the UNITED STATES OF AMERICA!!!

Craig

PS Suggestion: Use the time between NOA-1 to Interview to know your SO...if you met only one or two times...and your're madly in love or already married...Ask Questions!! INVESTIGATE!! I did...and I got results. Not exactly what I wanted to hear...but better now than later!!!!

[Krikit 1,165]

I'm so sorry, Craig.

[faith11 0]

l am very sorry for you Craig, next time you have to be more careful.

[archie07 0]

Whoa! I'm really sorry to hear your story mate.

[Mrs. Jaz 0]

Sorry to hear that...

[jrmach1 0]

OMG It is unbelievable and so sad you looked like such a happy couple I know you are very sad right now but thank God you get to know her before the visa was approve .The only that I hope is that you don't turn against women from now on you know God is there with you and I hopw you find somebody that can love you later on.

Good luck

[Tussie 0]

Craig,

Im sorry for the season that you are going through, but I know that this season will pass and make you stronger. I was in a 5 year relationship with an ex which was not really sincere. After we broke up, I did go through my season of depression. I thought no one will love me or even as much as he did (what I thought at the time was that there was only him). I didnt eat, I went from 125 pounds to 94 in two months. I cried. I was single for two years. Im glad I had two years to make my own decisions based on what I am, who I am and what I like. I realized that my ex was never my type and have been blessed to meet my hubby while in Germany. This was not planned at all. I went to Germany to do an assigned job and while doing my job I met him. He worked there and it just all fell into play. You will realize that when someone loves you or desires you, they will do things from their end. Not just you. You wont be the only one trying to impress and romance. She will too My advice to the broken hearted is dont look because they will find you. And when you are not looking you are being your self which is what you really want the person to be attracted to. You. Usually when some people are after other people, they are not themselves. They pretend to be someone or something they are not. Take care Craig and I hope this season will go by quick. 2008 is around the corner(L)

[Jamie76 0]

Sorry to hear about what happened, but I remember your post several months ago with the same title. You knew what was up then, no?

[~*Maria*~ 1]

I'm so sorry to hear that craig

[Brian and Yenys 0]

Craig,

I am saddened to hear of the situation you described. God Bless you and may your heart forgive her !!!

Good Luck and Keep the faith Always

BRIAN

[C and J 1]

Craig,

I am sorry this has happened to you again You had this gut feeling several months ago and thought you had straightened it out at that time. Things seemed good between yourself and Karina again. Unfortunately, it seems to only have been a mask. It proves that sometimes the first instinct is the correct one, no matter how hard it seems to be

Best of luck, Craig.

[Elbereth 0]

I have a pretty good life here in Brazil. I make my own living as software engineer and manage to make a pretty comfortable life. The weather is nice, the people are nice and my family that I love is near.

Honestly, as far as I care, you can keep your smelly country. It boils my blood when people imply I might have married Chris just to get a visa. It is actually a huge sacrifice I am making to leave this country that I love.... but I love him more

[Elbereth 0]

BTW, is the little girl your own daughter? What's going to happen to her?

[My Honey 0]

Best of luck to you... So, very sorry to hear about your situation!

[jrmach1 0]

Craig,

I am very sorry to hear what happened. But there are plenty of gold digging, lying, cheating spouses/fiancees here in the U.S. also. It's the person themselves, whats in their heart, not where they are from, their race or skin color. I wish you the best in your future.