have you founf after 1 yr living in US to have found a real friend?

[Simply_Uno 1]

Hi girls, I just wanted to know if out there somebody has found something very common to me (maybe it's depending on the part of USA where you live) but after 1 year living in US I haven't met yet someone to be called girlfriend to me. And this kind of stuff has been stressing me alot..........because when I don't work or my hubby works and I'm alone, it bugs ALOT.

I live in Hawaii where people are very hostile, and to meet & make new friends is like winning the lotto.

I just wanted to know if someone out there has something in common with me.

I just would like to also point out that I'm a nice person & very open to make new friends, so I really believe that it is not my fault, actually I have noticed that the only one thing that girls are interested in here is eating like animals, and having as many kids as much as they can ..........so it's really sucks to me, since I don't have anything in common in that. I would love to talk, exchange converrsation.........nothing at all, everything is concentrated in food & kids..........welll, I guess that everybody is different, so everybody can have their own though and behave.........

Here looks like that if you are not from here, they don't really care about you.......toatally different to the mainland, if you wanna come to Hawaii come just as a tourist, sorry but that's how it is...........don't come to live.

I would like to share your exeperience about new friendship made during yiur first year in USA.

Aloha from a very difficult place where to make new friends

Hello, "sweet heart"

please don't take offense to the "term of endearment"

I really hate you are going through this. I know what it is like not having any friends. but count it all joy, better to have no friends than to be surrounded by "fake" friends. I am from the Midwest, and it is difficult making good friends regardless of where you are coming from. Even here in the "Midwestern" states, the stigmas are different from one area to another (i.e. Iowa to Illinois to Minnesota to Wisconsin). With you being in Hawaii, I empathize with you. If you are not from there, you are definitely an "outsider". You say that you work, that is a positive, at least your mind isn't "idle", but know that "co-workers" are not friends, they are just that, people that you work with and should be treated as such. I don't know what your interests are, but if you go to church, start there join the choir or some other auxiliary. Then there is the community college, take a class or volunteer to tutor at the college. I can only caution you to be aware of social parasites so that they don't prey upon your vulnerability. Take your time, and by all means, make them audition for you. A true friend has no problem proving their genuineness and being patient. Keep your head up.

p.s. and for the record, I will be your cyber "girlfriend" if you want and for as long as you need.