Pleaseeeeee help me

[samantha2699 0]

You have to with your wife. Now ask her if she still wants you to go there. What's the point of going to the USA if she doesn't love you anymore. The reason why she petitioned you , is because you want to be together and you love each other. But if love is not there anymore, it would be best for you to stay in your country, move on, do the necessary documents you have to file and pray for a better partner.

If love is pure, love will endure. It takes 2 to tanggo and to make a marriage work. If it's just one, it will not work out. But I hope things will change once you talk to your wife heart to heart.Good luck... prayers for you..

[Dixie_Peach 1]

Am I the only romantic here? I know what she did was totally wrong, but if he loves her that much maybe he should try to win her back. Long distance relationships can be very trying and make people do crazy things. I'm not justifying her actions in any way at all, but they are married, so maybe they can work things out.

you are not the only romantic here JP... I am too... and I have to say that I agree with you. Maybe the wife was just feeling the stress of a LONG DISTANCE relationship... and once she reconnects with her husband, things could fall into place. Isn't love worth the try? AND the effort? I have to believe that it is!

[Together4ever 1]

Am I the only romantic here? I know what she did was totally wrong, but if he loves her that much maybe he should try to win her back. Long distance relationships can be very trying and make people do crazy things. I'm not justifying her actions in any way at all, but they are married, so maybe they can work things out.

you are not the only romantic here JP... I am too... and I have to say that I agree with you. Maybe the wife was just feeling the stress of a LONG DISTANCE relationship... and once she reconnects with her husband, things could fall into place. Isn't love worth the try? AND the effort? I have to believe that it is!

I'm with you on this too. He has the visa, had already planned on travelling, he might as well go to her and see if anything can be done. Yes, the long distance relationship part of this IS VERY TRYING, and it does make people do nutty things. I know lately I am finding myself suffering from emotional exhaustion to the point I am having difficult being emotionally available to Mohammed as he is accustomed to. It doesn't mean I don't love him, I am just plain tired. I know some people have literally run from this because of the stress.

I'm a big fan of real love. I say at least go and satisfy yourself one way or the other. You are in my prayers.

[fatimah 0]

Hi, I can't comment if you should come or not because its not my judgement thats only from Allah.

But since my husband and I have been waiting 2 years to get a visa from Casa for us to live a life together you are lucky alhamdulillah. We will be the happiest couple in US once Casa grants visa for us to be together.

You are in difficult situation and try talking to get some sense from all this you write.

[dmartmar 1]

Some have said that the stress caused on his wife stems from their long distance relationship.

Yet here she goes and gets involved in another long distance relationship.

Huh?

[Together4ever 1]

Yes, the long distance relationship part of this IS VERY TRYING, and it does make people do nutty things. (i.e. logic tends to disappear or at least hide itself for awhile.)

[meauxna 15]

the visa is issued- thats all she wrote!

once its been visa is issued its yours. far as I know once its been issued she cant take it away from you. you can certainly enter the usa.

The USC can pull the petition any time up until the beneficiary crosses the POE. If the petition is pulled before then, the visa is invalid and he won't be allowed entry.

[honeyblonde 0]

You know, I've thought about this a lot, and in my opinion, yes, love is a great thing, but if his wife could be convinced by an ex-boyfriend to get back together with him, even though she was married, would he really want to get back together with her? She seems a little wishy-washy for marriage.

Just my opinion.

[myfellah 0]

I think I must have entered a reply on another thread you have in another section. I still think if you love your wife you should take the chance. I don't know how long it has been since you have seen each other but this immigration sure is stressful. What better way to try and work things out than you being here in person. You will know at least you tried. We don't know her side of the story but you two are married. Try and work things out and maybe just having you travel here and be by her side will be enough to start your marriage over again. Good Luck in whatever you choose.

Doreen

[morocco4ever 63]

You know, I've thought about this a lot, and in my opinion, yes, love is a great thing, but if his wife could be convinced by an ex-boyfriend to get back together with him, even though she was married, would he really want to get back together with her? She seems a little wishy-washy for marriage.

Just my opinion.

I have to agree. My husband and I have been going through this for a long time now. I will tell you that it is stressful, and we have had a share of arguments that stem from the stress of being apart, but the bottom line is that I love him and he loves me. I won't give up this battle no matter how hard or long it takes, nor will he.

There are some strange sorts out there. My husband has a friend that had a women come to meet him for the first time not too long ago. The intent of course was to get engaged and apply for the fiance visa. I talked to her extensively about the process in the hopes of helping to make it easier for them than it was for us. At first everything seemed normal, but then we find out that she is actually still married, but separated. Okay, not good, but you can still work around it. Him and his family took her in and they all treated her with the utmost respect and love. But now the story takes on a new twist. The woman, after being with him in ALL senses of the word has decided that she wants to spend some time with a "friend" that she had also met online, also a male. He begged her not to go, to the point of tears. She still went. Sound like love? Anyway, she actually went to this other man, got to know him in ALL of the senses of the word as well. They even had an engagement party! After this she went back to my husbands friend to finish her vacation.. Now through all of this the woman claims to be a good Christian.....I could have fainted!

My point to this story is that sometimes you are better off without them. Of course there is always 2 sides to every story, but if this woman is so easily swayed then is this really what you want for life? Its just really sad when people play with your heart.

[jordanianprincess 0]

I am really glad to see that I'm not alone in my opinion. What his wife did was terrible (not knowing her side of it) but they are married!!!

I guess there is one point in this story that really bothers me and it's the same one that tells me he needs to go and see his wife. He heard this information from a thrid party. I strongly believe that whatever happens in your marriage should stay between you and your husband. Third parties only cause drama.

I have never cheated on my fiance nor would I ever even think about it. But before coming to Jordan, we were fighting ALOT. I mean we were like cats and dogs. The distance really gets to you. The minite I saw him in the airport, I forgot about every fight, every bad day, and everything that had happened before my arrival. It was the most amazing feeling of my life.

Divorce rates are so high in the USA because people are so unwilling to forgive. Everyone makes mistakes, that doesn't mean you are wishy washy. I think if they were not married, I'd say throw in the towel. Since they are married, it does deserve a second chance or at least to try.

[Together4ever 1]

I am really glad to see that I'm not alone in my opinion. What his wife did was terrible (not knowing her side of it) but they are married!!!

I guess there is one point in this story that really bothers me and it's the same one that tells me he needs to go and see his wife. He heard this information from a thrid party. I strongly believe that whatever happens in your marriage should stay between you and your husband. Third parties only cause drama.

I have never cheated on my fiance nor would I ever even think about it. But before coming to Jordan, we were fighting ALOT. I mean we were like cats and dogs. The distance really gets to you. The minite I saw him in the airport, I forgot about every fight, every bad day, and everything that had happened before my arrival. It was the most amazing feeling of my life.

Divorce rates are so high in the USA because people are so unwilling to forgive. Everyone makes mistakes, that doesn't mean you are wishy washy. I think if they were not married, I'd say throw in the towel. Since they are married, it does deserve a second chance or at least to try.

I agree with you on this. They ARE married. No matter what the truth is, that is between husband and wife, but I guess where I was coming from was this. If I was in this man's shoes, my own choice would be to confront this issue face to face. No matter which way it goes, at least he will have the peace of mind that he did his best and it will make giving closure to this so much easier.

And OH GOSH do we fight sometimes. It IS the stress (and frustration). We squabble over stupid things and our emotions just go off the richter scale. We know it though, and we never stop holding hands through it no matter how painful it gets, but man it can push you to the maximum you think you can handle sometimes.

I wish this couple the best in life whether it be together or apart.

[AngelK96 0]

Here is where the story sounds weird to me. First, why would the wife not stop the CR1 at the embassy? Why continue with letting him go thru the whole proccess knowning she doesn't want him anymore? According to meauxna it can be doneanytime prior to POE? Secondly this denied K1 fiance visa with an Algerian??? I don't know the odds of a denied petition from Algeria, but the one person who got one recently had no questions asked.. I don't know sounds sooo strange to me. I was away from my husband for a long time I known him about three years now. If i fell out of love with him the last thing i would do is still let his petition go thru at the embassy I would have withdrawn it, but that's just me. Too bad we couldn't hear the supposely i don't want anything to do with you wife version... I guess that only for a green card topic that was in Yallah Middle East made me wonder about his story. If i'm wrong then my bad