trust issues

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The MENA freakshow is attracting quite a bit of attention. It's as if Veiled Princess is in our midst again *sniff*.

[SaadBell 0]

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[HannahP 119]

I have never thought this......but if you do not have something kind and encouraging to say or good advice.... and your man is here already... and you arent in the middle of these trials and tribulations

You need to get your ### off the boards. What you said to doodle was uncalled for to begin with...

And here you are with your husband here... Can't you be a little compassionate?

WHATS WRONG WITH PEOPLE ON HERE?

Good god, what is WRONG WITH YOU? Maybe you wouldn't be a complete nutcase over being separated from your husband if you stopped obsessing over it. Get a hobby. Smoke a joint. Relax.

You act as if you (&the other unfortunate MENA couples who are going through a prolonged separation) are the only person in the world who has ever been apart from a loved one. Hate to burst your little ego-bubble, but there are plenty of couples who've had to go through separations. My sister was separated from her partner for 18 months when she got deployed to Iran; next year, they will be separated for over two years because she's getting deployed to Kosovo.

You could at least pretend to have an ounce of self-respect.

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

This is a sad sad unfriendly thread. How can you people be so mean to each other?

Back to the original question: I dont know you two but I can try give an opinion. I dont think there is anything wrong with helping out your man if you feel he is honest with you and all that stuff. If he is honest and a good partner to you he would help you out too if you needed it. You though seem to be smelling something fishy about whats happening to you so time to have a good talk cuz thats what couples should do...live an honest life and be open with each other. You said he didnt mind that you cut him off the monthly money so you will see what happens. Why did he need the money till now and now he says no money is fine? Have you visited him there in Italy? If your relationship is genuine from both sides I am sure you will work it out. Thats up to you to find out and I wish you luck

I have a question here. Does it just seem to me or do only US women fall in love with men from Islamic countries? I am not sure if I saw a US man here being in love with for example an Egyptian woman. Maybe I´m wrong, maybe it has religious reasons, please feel free to correct me

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

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I have plenty of self respect and its easy to be condescending when your husband is with you... Your life is moving fowards... ours arent and at least military people have an end date. Some of us have no idea when we will see our husbands. And I was sick of reading comments from people wh arent even going through the absolutely horrific waits we are ( mine will be a year with no end in sight)

Its easy for you guys who have your husbands here to tell those of us in the midst of record waits and paper work to get a hobby . Why dont you get one and get the hell off the visa boards since you are done with your journey if you cant be supportive?

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

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The MENA freakshow is attracting quite a bit of attention. It's as if Veiled Princess is in our midst again *sniff*.

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9 User(s) are reading this topic (1 Guests and 2 Anonymous Users)

The MENA freakshow is attracting quite a bit of attention. It's as if Veiled Princess is in our midst again *sniff*.

wom.......NO ONE can fight like the mena girls.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

This is a sad sad unfriendly thread. How can you people be so mean to each other?

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I have a question here. Does it just seem to me or do only US women fall in love with men from Islamic countries? I am not sure if I saw a US man here being in love with for example an Egyptian woman. Maybe I´m wrong, maybe it has religious reasons, please feel free to correct me

No, it's not only US women who have relationships with men from predominately non-MENA countries, but non-Muslim, non-MENA men have more hurdles to overcome. There are some men involved with MENA women who come here, but it is harder for men because these countries still tend to hold to relatively conservative and patriarchal standards and traditions when it comes to women. MENA cultures, to varying extents, define women by the social status and preferences of the men they re associated with, and it is believed that a woman married to a non-Muslim, a non-Arab, and/or non-countryman lowers her status and becomes vulnerable to negative foreign influences. The woman and her children are considered to be whatever the husband is - even to the point of having their citizenship rights compromised. In fact, in many cases, the children cannot take the nationality of the mother, only that of the father.

Mix in cultural norms that allow men more freedom in the public sphere, and more choice regarding travel, social mixing, intermarriage and it results in their having more opportunities to meet foreign women and becoming involved wth them, something MENA women are discouraged to do, although this is all changing in more "westernized" urban areas and in some countries.

Edited November 14, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

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At this time due to the TOS violations aboud, I am closing this thread. Should there be a need for the original topic to continue being discussed, please begin a new topic. (be sure to leave the mudslinging out).