Sending THE Visa...

[babybunny 2]

in islam you are paid a dowry. I did not see no place on the contract that sayes - pay the bridegroom. welshcookie since you are not muslime this leaves you out of the converstation.

ohhh....I understand now....so HE is paying for YOU.....well in my culture we have a word for that also....

and isnt it muslim not muslime???

Proud my man can take care of me dayum right! - typing fast I am at the office

BSing and getting paid!

[rockamandy 0]

in islam you are paid a dowry. I did not see no place on the contract that sayes - pay the bridegroom. welshcookie since you are not muslime this leaves you out of the converstation.

ohhh....I understand now....so HE is paying for YOU.....well in my culture we have a word for that also....

and isnt it muslim not muslime???

zing! beautiful.

[Ban Hammer 13,337]

in islam you are paid a dowry. I did not see no place on the contract that sayes - pay the bridegroom. welshcookie since you are not muslime this leaves you out of the converstation.

i don't believe this topic started on what religion he or she was (the original poster). furthermore, the comment of the woman being paid a dowry makes it sound like the woman is bartered and sold. i agree with the previous posters - if you are really a partner with the one you love, you help and support them however you can, regardless if they are a man or woman. i do, for some reason, feel a great deal of sympathy for the male half of your relationship, as it sounds like he won't get one finger raised to help him in a time of need. and btw, i'm not "muslime" either. snicker

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Do they have ATMs in his town or in one that is accessable? I used my debit/ATM card in Egypt to withdraw money from my american account.

You could set up another account at the bank in his name, or in both your names, or heck, even just in your name. Send him the debit/ATM card and the pin number and he should be able to withdraw money (but don't send them in the same letter, because someone might steal it in the mail). Check to see what kind of fee your bank will charge for an overseas withdrawl though. I have Wells Fargo and they charged $5 for a withdrawl from a non wells fargo ATM machine.

[babybunny 2]

welsh cookie anything you call me - you have been already called 3 times over. oops watch what your stepping in!

[Linababe 0]

dayum you send your fiancee money? its supposed to be the other way around.

I don't understand your logic...so it's ok the other way round??

Anyway...if you are a couple what does it matter whose money it is...sharing your life surely means that doesn't it?

in islam the man is suppose to take care of his wifes $$$$$$ needs. thats why he offers a dowry!

not the other way around! you dont be paying him money.

Anyway...if you are a couple what does it matter whose money it is...sharing your life surely means that doesn't it?

yes.. the real relationships that prevail are the ones where there is mutual support, and not the expectations that ONE should ALWAYS pay up.

it is an expectaton he takes care of my needs sayes so on the marriage contract.

Oh here we go I knew religion would come into this.... I agree if you are a couple there is nothing wrong with the woman giving the man money and vise verce... this is the year 2006 not the olden days and you shouldnt bring culture or religion into it - I am indian and yes my american fiance is white and I have in the past given him a large amount of money and after we get my visa and i move there i will be buying our home right off and in return he will be providing for us and supporting me while i sit at home and make a home for us... absolutly nothing wrong with it - IF YOU dont believe a woman should help her man that is your opnion but there is no need to slander any other who wish differently. Marriage is a joint effort so get over it if the OP does things differently to you.

Lina (UKC)

[babybunny 2]

in islam you are paid a dowry. I did not see no place on the contract that sayes - pay the bridegroom. welshcookie since you are not muslime this leaves you out of the converstation.

i don't believe this topic started on what religion he or she was (the original poster). furthermore, the comment of the woman being paid a dowry makes it sound like the woman is bartered and sold. i agree with the previous posters - if you are really a partner with the one you love, you help and support them however you can, regardless if they are a man or woman. i do, for some reason, feel a great deal of sympathy for the male half of your relationship, as it sounds like he won't get one finger raised to help him in a time of need. and btw, i'm not "muslime" either. snicker

this topic is about some woman< islamic woman > paying for a lazy < islamic > man. apprently she is gonna pay her own dowry too.

[UmmSqueakster 54]

It would be interesting to have a polite conversation on another thread on the issues that arrise when people marry partners from third world countries. I know I've had issues with that, but I'm pretty sure we could all discuss it in a manner that doesn't evoke a cat fight.

[Linababe 0]

yeah work hard lady. send buy yourself a man!

You lady....are out of order as you usually are on here these days.......

umm maybe she aint getting her needs met by her other half.... if ya know what I mean lol

[babybunny 2]

dayum you send your fiancee money? its supposed to be the other way around.

I don't understand your logic...so it's ok the other way round??

Anyway...if you are a couple what does it matter whose money it is...sharing your life surely means that doesn't it?

in islam the man is suppose to take care of his wifes $$$$$$ needs. thats why he offers a dowry!

not the other way around! you dont be paying him money.

Anyway...if you are a couple what does it matter whose money it is...sharing your life surely means that doesn't it?

yes.. the real relationships that prevail are the ones where there is mutual support, and not the expectations that ONE should ALWAYS pay up.

it is an expectaton he takes care of my needs sayes so on the marriage contract.

Oh here we go I knew religion would come into this.... I agree if you are a couple there is nothing wrong with the woman giving the man money and vise verce... this is the year 2006 not the olden days and you shouldnt bring culture or religion into it - I am indian and yes my american fiance is white and I have in the past given him a large amount of money and after we get my visa and i move there i will be buying our home right off and in return he will be providing for us and supporting me while i sit at home and make a home for us... absolutly nothing wrong with it - IF YOU dont believe a woman should help her man that is your opnion but there is no need to slander any other who wish differently. Marriage is a joint effort so get over it if the OP does things differently to you.

Lina (UKC)

its wrong to give a man money. can he not take care of you. whats with that?

[iceyspots 0]

heh heh

[babybunny 2]

yeah work hard lady. send buy yourself a man!

You lady....are out of order as you usually are on here these days.......

umm maybe she aint getting her needs met by her other half.... if ya know what I mean lol

no my husband is not here so what? ####### you want me to do about it? we are at AR mercy

so what.

[Ban Hammer 13,337]

in islam you are paid a dowry. I did not see no place on the contract that sayes - pay the bridegroom. welshcookie since you are not muslime this leaves you out of the converstation.

i don't believe this topic started on what religion he or she was (the original poster). furthermore, the comment of the woman being paid a dowry makes it sound like the woman is bartered and sold. i agree with the previous posters - if you are really a partner with the one you love, you help and support them however you can, regardless if they are a man or woman. i do, for some reason, feel a great deal of sympathy for the male half of your relationship, as it sounds like he won't get one finger raised to help him in a time of need. and btw, i'm not "muslime" either. snicker

this topic is about some woman< islamic woman > paying for a lazy < islamic > man. apprently she is gonna pay her own dowry too.

perhaps you should review page one, top of it

if you wish to discuss islamic woman paying for the dowry, a new thread might be in order.

[gimygirl 0]

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[babybunny 2]

in islam you are paid a dowry. I did not see no place on the contract that sayes - pay the bridegroom. welshcookie since you are not muslime this leaves you out of the converstation.

i don't believe this topic started on what religion he or she was (the original poster). furthermore, the comment of the woman being paid a dowry makes it sound like the woman is bartered and sold. i agree with the previous posters - if you are really a partner with the one you love, you help and support them however you can, regardless if they are a man or woman. i do, for some reason, feel a great deal of sympathy for the male half of your relationship, as it sounds like he won't get one finger raised to help him in a time of need. and btw, i'm not "muslime" either. snicker

this topic is about some woman< islamic woman > paying for a lazy < islamic > man. apprently she is gonna pay her own dowry too.

oh this topic is in line with the opener. Icy is muslim..

perhaps you should review page one, top of it

if you wish to discuss islamic woman paying for the dowry, a new thread might be in order.