Interesting Read for the Moderators

[Marilyn. 340]

Excellent post Steven. Bullying DOES hurt people, whether in real life or online. And we are ALL people.

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Which one am I?

Neither. You're the VJ Mascot

Ok, where are the hot VJ cheerleader babes? Do I get to climb on top?

[Fandango 1,439]

Which one am I?

Neither. You're the VJ Mascot

Ok, where are the hot VJ cheerleader babes? Do I get to climb on top?

There's no squad anymore. It's just you.

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Which one am I?

Neither. You're the VJ Mascot

Ok, where are the hot VJ cheerleader babes? Do I get to climb on top?

There's no squad anymore. It's just you.

In that case, I demand a raise.

[Fandango 1,439]

Which one am I?

Neither. You're the VJ Mascot

Ok, where are the hot VJ cheerleader babes? Do I get to climb on top?

There's no squad anymore. It's just you.

In that case, I demand a raise.

Keep up this kind of crazy talk and you'll do it for half.

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Lisa, you are the WORST.BOSS.EVER!!!!!

*tantrum*

[Fandango 1,439]

Lisa, you are the WORST.BOSS.EVER!!!!!

*tantrum*

Your break is over...get back to work!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Excellent post Steven. Bullying DOES hurt people, whether in real life or online. And we are ALL people.

Hopefully the moderators will pay more attention to it, who is doing it on a regular basis and nip in the bud before we lose more members or they stop posting.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

OH MY GOD!!! I am on the internet a lot and all around on various forums related to whatever might be going on in my life. I've had lots of experience with trolls and really have learned to just ignore them. The bullies!!!! I haven't experienced that until I came to VJ and there are several boards that I simply avoid like the plague because of the atmosphere they create there. I've stated how I feel about it and now I've moved on. I'm watching how I feel in other boards here and we'll see if I stick around after my journey is over or not. It COULD be a cool place to hang out and lend support because it's an incredibly emotional and life changing journey.....but I deal with enough ####### irl, no way I'm coming on VJ for added grief. I'm happy about this post, because now I don't feel like everyone is in the clique and doesn't see what I see.

It's always good to hear from members who normally don't post because they've been bullied into silence.

I don't think that the above poster was 'bullied into silence', Steven...if she makes a choice to post or leave, that's her choice. It's not that she's 'afraid of the bullies' so much that she doesn't post.

There's a difference to a personality conflict where two adults simply don't click in temperment, and bullying.

I think it's all in perspective, really. We can each look at a person and walk away with different opinions. Bully is a bit OTT, no? No one here's gonna get a faceful of dirt shoved in his/her face during recess. People will agree, people will disagree. And some people are 'bullies' and some are 'wussies', and everything in between....at the end of the day...if you don't get on with someone, one should either manually or automatically ignore that person. Problem solved.

This thread, to me, reads like passive aggressive finger pointing at it's worst. We're all adults here. We all make our own choices. To have to place blame for one's choices on a stranger seems silly to me.

If you don't like someone, ignore him/her. If that person is iyo out of line...report that person and let admin deal with it. We're not all going to agree....we're not all going to like each other. And we're all at a stage of a v frustrating process...so naturally the stress level is going to be high sometimes. The answer is not having to wrap everything in cotton wool and walk on eggshells in fear of offending someone.

Did I just get hit by a train for voiceing my opinion? Oh, no, I didn't, I was being passive aggressive instead of just aggressive and attacking. Wow! That's my character flaw. I'll work harder at being verbally aggressive instead of sharing and being open and welcoming to others opinions.

FYI, I do post.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

OH MY GOD!!! I am on the internet a lot and all around on various forums related to whatever might be going on in my life. I've had lots of experience with trolls and really have learned to just ignore them. The bullies!!!! I haven't experienced that until I came to VJ and there are several boards that I simply avoid like the plague because of the atmosphere they create there. I've stated how I feel about it and now I've moved on. I'm watching how I feel in other boards here and we'll see if I stick around after my journey is over or not. It COULD be a cool place to hang out and lend support because it's an incredibly emotional and life changing journey.....but I deal with enough ####### irl, no way I'm coming on VJ for added grief. I'm happy about this post, because now I don't feel like everyone is in the clique and doesn't see what I see.

It's always good to hear from members who normally don't post because they've been bullied into silence.

I don't think that the above poster was 'bullied into silence', Steven...if she makes a choice to post or leave, that's her choice. It's not that she's 'afraid of the bullies' so much that she doesn't post.

There's a difference to a personality conflict where two adults simply don't click in temperment, and bullying.

I think it's all in perspective, really. We can each look at a person and walk away with different opinions. Bully is a bit OTT, no? No one here's gonna get a faceful of dirt shoved in his/her face during recess. People will agree, people will disagree. And some people are 'bullies' and some are 'wussies', and everything in between....at the end of the day...if you don't get on with someone, one should either manually or automatically ignore that person. Problem solved.

This thread, to me, reads like passive aggressive finger pointing at it's worst. We're all adults here. We all make our own choices. To have to place blame for one's choices on a stranger seems silly to me.

If you don't like someone, ignore him/her. If that person is iyo out of line...report that person and let admin deal with it. We're not all going to agree....we're not all going to like each other. And we're all at a stage of a v frustrating process...so naturally the stress level is going to be high sometimes. The answer is not having to wrap everything in cotton wool and walk on eggshells in fear of offending someone.

Did I just get hit by a train for voiceing my opinion? Oh, no, I didn't, I was being passive aggressive instead of just aggressive and attacking. Wow! That's my character flaw. I'll work harder at being verbally aggressive instead of sharing and being open and welcoming to others opinions.

FYI, I do post.

LOL

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Steven,

Quit trying to get me banned. Just because I bully you with my superior wit and charming looks doesn't mean you need to bring our rivalry to this forum.

[Fandango 1,439]

OH MY GOD!!! I am on the internet a lot and all around on various forums related to whatever might be going on in my life. I've had lots of experience with trolls and really have learned to just ignore them. The bullies!!!! I haven't experienced that until I came to VJ and there are several boards that I simply avoid like the plague because of the atmosphere they create there. I've stated how I feel about it and now I've moved on. I'm watching how I feel in other boards here and we'll see if I stick around after my journey is over or not. It COULD be a cool place to hang out and lend support because it's an incredibly emotional and life changing journey.....but I deal with enough ####### irl, no way I'm coming on VJ for added grief. I'm happy about this post, because now I don't feel like everyone is in the clique and doesn't see what I see.

It's always good to hear from members who normally don't post because they've been bullied into silence.

I don't think that the above poster was 'bullied into silence', Steven...if she makes a choice to post or leave, that's her choice. It's not that she's 'afraid of the bullies' so much that she doesn't post.

There's a difference to a personality conflict where two adults simply don't click in temperment, and bullying.

I think it's all in perspective, really. We can each look at a person and walk away with different opinions. Bully is a bit OTT, no? No one here's gonna get a faceful of dirt shoved in his/her face during recess. People will agree, people will disagree. And some people are 'bullies' and some are 'wussies', and everything in between....at the end of the day...if you don't get on with someone, one should either manually or automatically ignore that person. Problem solved.

This thread, to me, reads like passive aggressive finger pointing at it's worst. We're all adults here. We all make our own choices. To have to place blame for one's choices on a stranger seems silly to me.

If you don't like someone, ignore him/her. If that person is iyo out of line...report that person and let admin deal with it. We're not all going to agree....we're not all going to like each other. And we're all at a stage of a v frustrating process...so naturally the stress level is going to be high sometimes. The answer is not having to wrap everything in cotton wool and walk on eggshells in fear of offending someone.

Did I just get hit by a train for voiceing my opinion? Oh, no, I didn't, I was being passive aggressive instead of just aggressive and attacking. Wow! That's my character flaw. I'll work harder at being verbally aggressive instead of sharing and being open and welcoming to others opinions.

FYI, I do post.

See, this is what I mean. I wasn't directing that at you, or even saying that you were posting or not posting at all. In fact, I said 'Steven' which clearly showed who I was responding to.

Hit by a train for voicing your opinion? What?

Edited November 7, 2007 by LisaD

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

OH MY GOD!!! I am on the internet a lot and all around on various forums related to whatever might be going on in my life. I've had lots of experience with trolls and really have learned to just ignore them. The bullies!!!! I haven't experienced that until I came to VJ and there are several boards that I simply avoid like the plague because of the atmosphere they create there. I've stated how I feel about it and now I've moved on. I'm watching how I feel in other boards here and we'll see if I stick around after my journey is over or not. It COULD be a cool place to hang out and lend support because it's an incredibly emotional and life changing journey.....but I deal with enough ####### irl, no way I'm coming on VJ for added grief. I'm happy about this post, because now I don't feel like everyone is in the clique and doesn't see what I see.

It's always good to hear from members who normally don't post because they've been bullied into silence.

I don't think that the above poster was 'bullied into silence', Steven...if she makes a choice to post or leave, that's her choice. It's not that she's 'afraid of the bullies' so much that she doesn't post.

There's a difference to a personality conflict where two adults simply don't click in temperment, and bullying.

I think it's all in perspective, really. We can each look at a person and walk away with different opinions. Bully is a bit OTT, no? No one here's gonna get a faceful of dirt shoved in his/her face during recess. People will agree, people will disagree. And some people are 'bullies' and some are 'wussies', and everything in between....at the end of the day...if you don't get on with someone, one should either manually or automatically ignore that person. Problem solved.

This thread, to me, reads like passive aggressive finger pointing at it's worst. We're all adults here. We all make our own choices. To have to place blame for one's choices on a stranger seems silly to me.

If you don't like someone, ignore him/her. If that person is iyo out of line...report that person and let admin deal with it. We're not all going to agree....we're not all going to like each other. And we're all at a stage of a v frustrating process...so naturally the stress level is going to be high sometimes. The answer is not having to wrap everything in cotton wool and walk on eggshells in fear of offending someone.

Did I just get hit by a train for voiceing my opinion? Oh, no, I didn't, I was being passive aggressive instead of just aggressive and attacking. Wow! That's my character flaw. I'll work harder at being verbally aggressive instead of sharing and being open and welcoming to others opinions.

FYI, I do post.

See, this is what I mean. I wasn't directing that at you, or even saying that you were posting or not posting at all. In fact, I said 'Steven' which clearly showed who I was responding to.

Hit by a train for voicing your opinion? What?

Lisa, stop being such a bully!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Steven,

Quit trying to get me banned. Just because I bully you with my superior wit and charming looks doesn't mean you need to bring our rivalry to this forum.

I sincerely don't want to see anyone banned here...really. But I also don't want to see people leave here because some people, especially members who've been here awhile, can't extend the kind of courtesy and respect to newer members. I'm hopeful that with the help of the moderators, we can keep in check those who tend to feel an incessant need to go beyond just disagreeing, who actually ridicule others' opinions.

Edited November 7, 2007 by Mister Fancypants

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Steven,

Quit trying to get me banned. Just because I bully you with my superior wit and charming looks doesn't mean you need to bring our rivalry to this forum.

I sincerely don't want to see anyone banned here...really. But I also don't want to see people leave here because some people, especially members who've been here awhile, can't extend the kind of courtesy and respect to newer members. I'm hopeful that with the help of the moderators, we can keep in check those who tend to feel an incessant need to go beyond just disagreeing, who actually ridicule others' opinions.

A serious response? Well excuse my lame attempt at humor.

ps. a lot of the newer members are retards with attitude. Not most but way too many.