Interesting Read for the Moderators

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

In theory there’s absolutely no reason why we should not be able to work out our problems as adults…

Speak for yourself, numbskull. Actually, on second thought, please don't speak, you have potty breath.

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

In theory there’s absolutely no reason why we should not be able to work out our problems as adults…

Speak for yourself, numbskull. Actually, on second thought, please don't speak, you have potty breath.

Pththpt!

[Ban Hammer 13,508]

We could use a mod like that. 2 "nice ladies" and a pit bull. If ya don't listen to the nice little ladies, you get mauled.

I think somebody should get ahold of bholiday, ask him to come back, and make a mod out of him.

I was thinking Marc of CarolandMarc

in that case i vote for matako

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

We could use a mod like that. 2 "nice ladies" and a pit bull. If ya don't listen to the nice little ladies, you get mauled.

I think somebody should get ahold of bholiday, ask him to come back, and make a mod out of him.

I was thinking Marc of CarolandMarc

in that case i vote for matako

I nominate charles to be in charge of recruitment. He knows talent when he sees it!

[Welshcookie 17]

in that case i vote for matako

pfffttt....surely Ric Flair?? at least he would bring some poetic charm to the public scaldings....hehehe...

[Mags 112]

in that case i vote for matako

pfffttt....surely Ric Flair?? at least he would bring some poetic charm to the public scaldings....hehehe...

WWWWWOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

[Ban Hammer 13,508]

We could use a mod like that. 2 "nice ladies" and a pit bull. If ya don't listen to the nice little ladies, you get mauled.

I think somebody should get ahold of bholiday, ask him to come back, and make a mod out of him.

I was thinking Marc of CarolandMarc

in that case i vote for matako

I nominate charles to be in charge of recruitment. He knows talent when he sees it!

i still support the platy 100%

savetheplaty.com!

[PlatyPius 5]

We could use a mod like that. 2 "nice ladies" and a pit bull. If ya don't listen to the nice little ladies, you get mauled.

I think somebody should get ahold of bholiday, ask him to come back, and make a mod out of him.

I was thinking Marc of CarolandMarc

in that case i vote for matako

I nominate charles to be in charge of recruitment. He knows talent when he sees it!

i still support the platy 100%

savetheplaty.com!

Actually, it's www.platy.be

I don't wanna buy any more domain names....

[Boblop 0]

OH MY GOD!!! I am on the internet a lot and all around on various forums related to whatever might be going on in my life. I've had lots of experience with trolls and really have learned to just ignore them. The bullies!!!! I haven't experienced that until I came to VJ and there are several boards that I simply avoid like the plague because of the atmosphere they create there. I've stated how I feel about it and now I've moved on. I'm watching how I feel in other boards here and we'll see if I stick around after my journey is over or not. It COULD be a cool place to hang out and lend support because it's an incredibly emotional and life changing journey.....but I deal with enough ####### irl, no way I'm coming on VJ for added grief. I'm happy about this post, because now I don't feel like everyone is in the clique and doesn't see what I see.

It's always good to hear from members who normally don't post because they've been bullied into silence.

I don't think that the above poster was 'bullied into silence', Steven...if she makes a choice to post or leave, that's her choice. It's not that she's 'afraid of the bullies' so much that she doesn't post.

There's a difference to a personality conflict where two adults simply don't click in temperment, and bullying.

I think it's all in perspective, really. We can each look at a person and walk away with different opinions. Bully is a bit OTT, no? No one here's gonna get a faceful of dirt shoved in his/her face during recess. People will agree, people will disagree. And some people are 'bullies' and some are 'wussies', and everything in between....at the end of the day...if you don't get on with someone, one should either manually or automatically ignore that person. Problem solved.

This thread, to me, reads like passive aggressive finger pointing at it's worst. We're all adults here. We all make our own choices. To have to place blame for one's choices on a stranger seems silly to me.

If you don't like someone, ignore him/her. If that person is iyo out of line...report that person and let admin deal with it. We're not all going to agree....we're not all going to like each other. And we're all at a stage of a v frustrating process...so naturally the stress level is going to be high sometimes. The answer is not having to wrap everything in cotton wool and walk on eggshells in fear of offending someone.

Your "aggressive finger pointing at its worst" hits this thread square in the middle..I agree with you. I do not post

often due to the hateful comments that I read. As you say, I ignore them....So I "paste" controversial threads just

to try to point out those who live here to spread hate and divisivness. But you got it right. I salute you.

[Fandango 1,440]

Why thank you, B!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

OH MY GOD!!! I am on the internet a lot and all around on various forums related to whatever might be going on in my life. I've had lots of experience with trolls and really have learned to just ignore them. The bullies!!!! I haven't experienced that until I came to VJ and there are several boards that I simply avoid like the plague because of the atmosphere they create there. I've stated how I feel about it and now I've moved on. I'm watching how I feel in other boards here and we'll see if I stick around after my journey is over or not. It COULD be a cool place to hang out and lend support because it's an incredibly emotional and life changing journey.....but I deal with enough ####### irl, no way I'm coming on VJ for added grief. I'm happy about this post, because now I don't feel like everyone is in the clique and doesn't see what I see.

It's always good to hear from members who normally don't post because they've been bullied into silence.

I don't think that the above poster was 'bullied into silence', Steven...if she makes a choice to post or leave, that's her choice. It's not that she's 'afraid of the bullies' so much that she doesn't post.

There's a difference to a personality conflict where two adults simply don't click in temperment, and bullying.

I think it's all in perspective, really. We can each look at a person and walk away with different opinions. Bully is a bit OTT, no? No one here's gonna get a faceful of dirt shoved in his/her face during recess. People will agree, people will disagree. And some people are 'bullies' and some are 'wussies', and everything in between....at the end of the day...if you don't get on with someone, one should either manually or automatically ignore that person. Problem solved.

This thread, to me, reads like passive aggressive finger pointing at it's worst. We're all adults here. We all make our own choices. To have to place blame for one's choices on a stranger seems silly to me.

If you don't like someone, ignore him/her. If that person is iyo out of line...report that person and let admin deal with it. We're not all going to agree....we're not all going to like each other. And we're all at a stage of a v frustrating process...so naturally the stress level is going to be high sometimes. The answer is not having to wrap everything in cotton wool and walk on eggshells in fear of offending someone.

Your "aggressive finger pointing at its worst" hits this thread square in the middle..I agree with you. I do not post

often due to the hateful comments that I read. As you say, I ignore them....So I "paste" controversial threads just

to try to point out those who live here to spread hate and divisivness. But you got it right. I salute you.

A nod's as good as a wink to a blind bat.

[doodlebugg 10]

The only thing that comes to mind is - we have a whole slew of ways to report issues on the forum. As it stands now, there are written TOS with ranges of responses should they be broken, report/praise tool (which we *do* use), PMs to mods admin, and Report button directly to Captain. Is there a need for additional tools to squelch was is perceived as bully/troll behaviour? Not questioning the request, just truly curious.

For me, knowing the 'praise' and 'report' drop down button will alert you moderators to keep an eye on certain individuals, then I think that's adequate. It would be nice to see a moderator publicly admonish a bully when they are ridiculing someone's post instead of adding anything constructive to the discussion. That would go a long way in keeping them in check, IMO. A simple, "(Name of Person), turn it down a notch," would be great.

For what it's worth I wholeheartedly disagree with this tactic unless it is done on an equal basis. If it is not done with equality in mind then it will seem as though the mods are singling one person out, when there very well may be quite a few at fault. In the end all it does is publically embarass one or two individuals and the rest get away with things without public humiliation if the mods are busy at the time of their particular offense.

Just my two cents.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

For what it's worth I wholeheartedly disagree with this tactic unless it is done on an equal basis. If it is not done with equality in mind then it will seem as though the mods are singling one person out, when there very well may be quite a few at fault. In the end all it does is publically embarass one or two individuals and the rest get away with things without public humiliation if the mods are busy at the time of their particular offense.

Just my two cents.

Thanks. I appreciate your input. I'm going to refrain from adding anything more to the discussion beyond what has already been said.

[Nagishkaw 510]

Good idea.

[eric&gen 0]

Ric Flair matako were they the same person? Maybe an old member screwing aroud lol under the same names lol.