I just need to vent

[polarbear 0]

*hugs*

[Ta Ta 1]

You mentioned Dec 14 is your Birthday...........that was when my fiance had his 1. interview Dec. 14 , 2006. We have been in AP for 11 months.

I have not seen him in 1 1/2 and we are waiting for the 2. interview.

I know how hard it is and take comfort that you are not alone and we can encourage each other when no one else understands.

This too shall pass

[Aymsgirl 0]

Today i was having one of those days where all i could do is cry, and think of how much i miss my love. It is amazing to me really how much i love my fiance i told him that today if i didn't love him so much there is no way i could have waited all this time. I have not seen him in 22 months and i can't afford to see him right now if i could i would have by now for sure. Everyday that goes by i pray that we hear something soon. Almost 8 months on A/P and we have no idea how much longer it will be. I told my love today that it would be such a wonderful birthday present for me if he got his visa on my birthday which is December 14th and i am hoping we hear something by then. I am sorry to write all this i just had a really rough day today i know that we all encourage each other to stay strong because i encourage alot of people on here everyone on V.J. knows i am always the one with encouraging words but today i had to encourage myself to believe, and pray this horrible nightmare will be over soon so that we can start our life together.It is not like we are doing anything wrong all we want is to be with our loved ones, I just know god never gives us more than we can handle but i have my days where it seems like this is all a dream. This process is definetly designed for people who are truly inlove, dedicated, patient, and who have found the right person. I know that I love him so much and he is the one for me and because of this love is why i can continue on with the whole ridiculous process. Thank you for reading! You are all in my prayers and thoughts for sure.

AJ1

When I read your post it made me sit back and not feel so alone in this process. Today has been a hard day for me. Just knowing the clock is ticking before our little one will be here and we are no more closer to anything than getting the receipt number for our case. My fiancee is going through some rough times with a loss of his father and I feel like God is testing the heck out of us. You are right this process is only for the people that truly love each other and aren't we lucky souls to have this? I am so blessed by so many things in my life and just have no patience with this process. My prayers are with you dear and I am hoping that the end is in sight for you very soon. You take care and keep your faith and love.

Tasha

[ayesha4akram 0]

aj, I know exactly how you feel. And although knowing how you feel, will NOT make you feel better, I just hope and pray that you and everyone going through this process gets good news soon.

I haven't seen Akram in 27 months, and some days are good but most days (especially when going to bed) i'm saddened that it's been this long and still no news yet, so I mostly cry myself to sleep. Since the holidays are aproaching, that's when it really gets to me, so I'm in a blue funk since last week and can't seem to snap out of it. I don't want to spend another holiday without him, but I can't do anything about it for now.

And the questions from family and friends about when he's coming doesn't help at all. It just makes me think about how long it's taking us.

We (all of us going through this) don't have it easy AJ1, but I can tell you this: Things that are worth waiting for, are the ones we'll treasure the most. I don't know when, but someday your wait will be over and you'll have that treasured moment to cherish the rest of your life, insha Allah.

I do have you (and everyone here) in my prayers, because you're the only ones who can really understand and relate to what I'm saying.

Keep your faith strong, and may God help us all through this, Ameen.

Hugs,

Ayesha

[Visa4habibi! 0]

Hang in there, girl. I was waiting for 2 years and 3 months after we got married. Thanks God/Alhamdulilia, my husband is finally with me!!! The overall wait was 3 years and 3 months!

And I have so much debt to show for that waiting period, I'm still not done paying back for my trips # 2 and 3.

It will happen when it's supposed to, not when you want to (unfortunatelly), but it WILL!\

T

[doodlebug 3]

Ayesha, sorry if you've mentioned this before but why did it take so long between getting your NOA2 and getting your interview? It was like a year and a half wait for the interview????

aj, I know exactly how you feel. And although knowing how you feel, will NOT make you feel better, I just hope and pray that you and everyone going through this process gets good news soon.

I haven't seen Akram in 27 months, and some days are good but most days (especially when going to bed) i'm saddened that it's been this long and still no news yet, so I mostly cry myself to sleep. Since the holidays are aproaching, that's when it really gets to me, so I'm in a blue funk since last week and can't seem to snap out of it. I don't want to spend another holiday without him, but I can't do anything about it for now.

And the questions from family and friends about when he's coming doesn't help at all. It just makes me think about how long it's taking us.

We (all of us going through this) don't have it easy AJ1, but I can tell you this: Things that are worth waiting for, are the ones we'll treasure the most. I don't know when, but someday your wait will be over and you'll have that treasured moment to cherish the rest of your life, insha Allah.

I do have you (and everyone here) in my prayers, because you're the only ones who can really understand and relate to what I'm saying.

Keep your faith strong, and may God help us all through this, Ameen.

Hugs,

Ayesha

[SandyNJack 5]

I too am not looking forward to another holiday season without my Jack. My Mom tells me there are other people in your life too and maybe I do take them for granted but no one really knows what it is that we are going through and the not knowing. So know that you are not alone and that we are all here for each other.

[pbgirl 1]

Those of you that have been waiting for so long to be together, your strength is really admirable.

[ayesha4akram 0]

Ayesha, sorry if you've mentioned this before but why did it take so long between getting your NOA2 and getting your interview? It was like a year and a half wait for the interview????

aj, I know exactly how you feel. And although knowing how you feel, will NOT make you feel better, I just hope and pray that you and everyone going through this process gets good news soon.

I haven't seen Akram in 27 months, and some days are good but most days (especially when going to bed) i'm saddened that it's been this long and still no news yet, so I mostly cry myself to sleep. Since the holidays are aproaching, that's when it really gets to me, so I'm in a blue funk since last week and can't seem to snap out of it. I don't want to spend another holiday without him, but I can't do anything about it for now.

And the questions from family and friends about when he's coming doesn't help at all. It just makes me think about how long it's taking us.

We (all of us going through this) don't have it easy AJ1, but I can tell you this: Things that are worth waiting for, are the ones we'll treasure the most. I don't know when, but someday your wait will be over and you'll have that treasured moment to cherish the rest of your life, insha Allah.

I do have you (and everyone here) in my prayers, because you're the only ones who can really understand and relate to what I'm saying.

Keep your faith strong, and may God help us all through this, Ameen.

Hugs,

Ayesha

Ohhh, i didn't explain that. I needed a co-sponsor, but I didn't know who to ask (those things are so personal, and i really wanted to do everything myself) . so i waited till I got enough courage to ask my brother if he could co-sponsor. Alhamdulillah he didn't hesitate to say yes, but if i had know that then, i would have done it sooooooooooooo much earlier! So it's my fault for all this time in between .

I don't know how to explain, but I'm a person that doesn't like to ask for help (i don't know if you understand, but that's the best way i can put it). I found out that 2 jobs was too much for me, and when time kept passing by, i started to get desperate, and that's when i decided, I NEED HELP!

It would bring me comfort if i knew for certain we were going to get the visa, but not knowing when they'll send the papers back to the embassy, and then if they give him the visa, that's what gets to me the most.

Anway, that's the reason, sorry for rambling .

Hugs,

Ayesha

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Hugs to you all!

[doodlebug 3]

I totally understand hating to ask for help. I"m the same way. My pride gets me each and everytime!!!!

[ayesha4akram 0]

I totally understand hating to ask for help. I"m the same way. My pride gets me each and everytime!!!!

Yesssssssssss, thank you!!! that's the word I was looking for: pride!!!!! It was on the tip of my tongue (fingers in this case) but I just couldn't think of the word. LOL

[myfellah 0]

So many of us know what you are going through. It helps sometimes to just put into words what you are feeling. I remember thinking of the birthdays and holidays we were missing each year but things will change and you'll be counting the ones you are spending together again and again.

I hope you hear something very soon.

Doreen

[allousa 1]

We (all of us going through this) don't have it easy AJ1, but I can tell you this: Things that are worth waiting for, are the ones we'll treasure the most. I don't know when, but someday your wait will be over and you'll have that treasured moment to cherish the rest of your life, insha Allah.

This sums it up! IMO, people that have not gone through this process could not possibly cherish their loved one like those of us who have fought to get them here. And I mean that for EVERYONE and not just MENA people. This process will bend you to your limits but tie a knot in the end of your rope and hang on for dear life...because you WILL make it through. Seems like when you least expect it, their is an answered prayer that comes along.

Lean on us when you don't have the strength. We've got to be strong for each other. I think that's why so many of us rejoice when someone's nightmare is finally over.

Inshallah, AJ, that day will soon be for YOU!!!!! <<<<<HUGS>>>>>

[aj1 1]

I want to say thank you to everyones' encouragement i really needed it. These past few days have really been hell and this process has lately has hit me in the face pretty hard. I am happy to know that you are all hear to listen if i ever need to vent. Thanks again to you all for your thoughts, kind words, and prayers god know i really needed it.

AJ1