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I am entering my 11th month in this process and its projected that I have at least 2 more months at USCIS and then apparently I will have a delay time at NVC because petitions are not getting shipped there immediately ( one to two month delay to go to NVC and at least 4 months there processing meaning there is a very good chance that my husband will not interview until May of June ( although my lawyer is saying these timelines are going to start moving quickly as soon as they get the work visas done and the new hires get settled)

I am really pondering taking on some kind of project such as a book ( I do alot of research on Algerian history) or going outside my normal interests and learning some kind of new skill or taking a tax course.... I need to create an island of happiness because the level of negativity in my industry is very high ( all day long people ###### and whine) and then I do not get a whole lot of support for my gallyvanting around the world and my long distance relationship that I am valiantly trying to hold on to. I have so much responsibility with work ( I have two high stress high detail jobs )and someone very small at home and so much stress.. its unreal...

I have thought about learning how to sew or quilting or something else to pass the time... I have thought about organizing stuff for sale on ebay.... But I am just not that homey. I am more adept at thinking and writing....

I think I am just very depressed right now and just have been for a few days... Its pretty bad when your lawyer calls you just to chat which he did 2 days ago... I had given up emailing me and nagging him and I have just entered a state of nothing.. Nothing moving.. nothing processing.. nothing coming out of USCIS.. no movement anywhere........

I just have not really decided what more to do than just create this island.... and kind of go to work and when I go home , focus on creating or building something each day... a new book.... a class.... a project.. But this obsessing about USCIS and this process is a waste of precious time. I feel no better venting.. Its not helping make the days move faster...

Any thoughts from the others in my position waiting for answers that just do not seem to want to come?

I am almost scared my file is lost somewhere.....under a pile.. Because they rejected my 129 filing because my lawyer did not send in the money order I sent him with it and by the time he got the 129 f back it was too late to file and so now I am faced with NVC and a long wait.. and more tears... Just to know I started all of this January 2007 and had to start all over again in June and now its just more time leaving me... I miss my husband.. I just need to thank God he still loves and wants me and we are hanging in there.. I cannot imagine how badly this process tears people apart.. Its a struggle to hang on for years and years.. I will be at one year in January in the process

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Iran
Timeline
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I am entering my 11th month in this process and its projected that I have at least 2 more months at USCIS and then apparently I will have a delay time at NVC because petitions are not getting shipped there immediately ( one to two month delay to go to NVC and at least 4 months there processing meaning there is a very good chance that my husband will not interview until May of June ( although my lawyer is saying these timelines are going to start moving quickly as soon as they get the work visas done and the new hires get settled)

I am really pondering taking on some kind of project such as a book ( I do alot of research on Algerian history) or going outside my normal interests and learning some kind of new skill or taking a tax course.... I need to create an island of happiness because the level of negativity in my industry is very high ( all day long people ###### and whine) and then I do not get a whole lot of support for my gallyvanting around the world and my long distance relationship that I am valiantly trying to hold on to. I have so much responsibility with work ( I have two high stress high detail jobs )and someone very small at home and so much stress.. its unreal...

I have thought about learning how to sew or quilting or something else to pass the time... I have thought about organizing stuff for sale on ebay.... But I am just not that homey. I am more adept at thinking and writing....

I think I am just very depressed right now and just have been for a few days... Its pretty bad when your lawyer calls you just to chat which he did 2 days ago... I had given up emailing me and nagging him and I have just entered a state of nothing.. Nothing moving.. nothing processing.. nothing coming out of USCIS.. no movement anywhere........

I just have not really decided what more to do than just create this island.... and kind of go to work and when I go home , focus on creating or building something each day... a new book.... a class.... a project.. But this obsessing about USCIS and this process is a waste of precious time. I feel no better venting.. Its not helping make the days move faster...

Any thoughts from the others in my position waiting for answers that just do not seem to want to come?

I am almost scared my file is lost somewhere.....under a pile.. Because they rejected my 129 filing because my lawyer did not send in the money order I sent him with it and by the time he got the 129 f back it was too late to file and so now I am faced with NVC and a long wait.. and more tears... Just to know I started all of this January 2007 and had to start all over again in June and now its just more time leaving me... I miss my husband.. I just need to thank God he still loves and wants me and we are hanging in there.. I cannot imagine how badly this process tears people apart.. Its a struggle to hang on for years and years.. I will be at one year in January in the process

I sincerely understand your despair. Nothing happening and it feels like nothing ever will. If there was a way for you to take some time off (even without pay) maybe you should go back to visit your husband. Even if it only for a week or two. Even if means you have to incur some debt on your credit card for a airline ticket. It would do you and your spouse a world of good to reconnect.

I filed in December 2006 and so I can relate to the depression that sets after a long seperation. I have been depressed for months. Family and work friends really only see a facade of normalcy, but I obsess about the NVC and movement of our case and cry quietly. My husband is the king of patience and positive thinking and I don't want to ruin that. So even with him, I do not want to express the true depths of how lonely I am now.

If you can focus on doing a project as a way to keep your mind off the lonliness that's fine....But somehow, I think this won't be a cure for the sadness - only a diversion to keep you busy.

I feel it would be better for you to see your husband.

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Egypt
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I am entering my 11th month in this process and its projected that I have at least 2 more months at USCIS and then apparently I will have a delay time at NVC because petitions are not getting shipped there immediately ( one to two month delay to go to NVC and at least 4 months there processing meaning there is a very good chance that my husband will not interview until May of June ( although my lawyer is saying these timelines are going to start moving quickly as soon as they get the work visas done and the new hires get settled)

I am really pondering taking on some kind of project such as a book ( I do alot of research on Algerian history) or going outside my normal interests and learning some kind of new skill or taking a tax course.... I need to create an island of happiness because the level of negativity in my industry is very high ( all day long people ###### and whine) and then I do not get a whole lot of support for my gallyvanting around the world and my long distance relationship that I am valiantly trying to hold on to. I have so much responsibility with work ( I have two high stress high detail jobs )and someone very small at home and so much stress.. its unreal...

I have thought about learning how to sew or quilting or something else to pass the time... I have thought about organizing stuff for sale on ebay.... But I am just not that homey. I am more adept at thinking and writing....

I think I am just very depressed right now and just have been for a few days... Its pretty bad when your lawyer calls you just to chat which he did 2 days ago... I had given up emailing me and nagging him and I have just entered a state of nothing.. Nothing moving.. nothing processing.. nothing coming out of USCIS.. no movement anywhere........

I just have not really decided what more to do than just create this island.... and kind of go to work and when I go home , focus on creating or building something each day... a new book.... a class.... a project.. But this obsessing about USCIS and this process is a waste of precious time. I feel no better venting.. Its not helping make the days move faster...

Any thoughts from the others in my position waiting for answers that just do not seem to want to come?

I am almost scared my file is lost somewhere.....under a pile.. Because they rejected my 129 filing because my lawyer did not send in the money order I sent him with it and by the time he got the 129 f back it was too late to file and so now I am faced with NVC and a long wait.. and more tears... Just to know I started all of this January 2007 and had to start all over again in June and now its just more time leaving me... I miss my husband.. I just need to thank God he still loves and wants me and we are hanging in there.. I cannot imagine how badly this process tears people apart.. Its a struggle to hang on for years and years.. I will be at one year in January in the process

I sincerely understand your despair. Nothing happening and it feels like nothing ever will. If there was a way for you to take some time off (even without pay) maybe you should go back to visit your husband. Even if it only for a week or two. Even if means you have to incur some debt on your credit card for a airline ticket. It would do you and your spouse a world of good to reconnect.

I filed in December 2006 and so I can relate to the depression that sets after a long seperation. I have been depressed for months. Family and work friends really only see a facade of normalcy, but I obsess about the NVC and movement of our case and cry quietly. My husband is the king of patience and positive thinking and I don't want to ruin that. So even with him, I do not want to express the true depths of how lonely I am now.

If you can focus on doing a project as a way to keep your mind off the lonliness that's fine....But somehow, I think this won't be a cure for the sadness - only a diversion to keep you busy.

I feel it would be better for you to see your husband.

I almost feel that seeing the husband and having to leave him again would make it worse :( But I deffinantly understand. I keep thinking that if only there was a way to take some time off I would go see him (for me, fiance). But for me it's just not a possibility and I will have to wait for the visa. For me the only thing that works is keeping myself busy. It DOES work until it's time to go to bed... I almost don't sleep because between stopping the projects and sleep there is thinking of him and trying to get to sleep :blush:

Sorry to be so depressing, but having talked to my habbibi in 2 days and starting to really feel it :(

يَايُّهَا الَّذِينَ ءامَنُوا اسْتَعِينُوا بِالصَّبْرِ وَالصَّلَوةِ اِنَّ اللَّهَ مَعَ الصَّبِرِينَ

“O you who believe! seek assistance through patience and prayer; surely Allah is with the patient. (Al-Baqarah 2:153 )”

Filed: Timeline
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I am entering my 11th month in this process and its projected that I have at least 2 more months at USCIS and then apparently I will have a delay time at NVC because petitions are not getting shipped there immediately ( one to two month delay to go to NVC and at least 4 months there processing meaning there is a very good chance that my husband will not interview until May of June ( although my lawyer is saying these timelines are going to start moving quickly as soon as they get the work visas done and the new hires get settled)

I am really pondering taking on some kind of project such as a book ( I do alot of research on Algerian history) or going outside my normal interests and learning some kind of new skill or taking a tax course.... I need to create an island of happiness because the level of negativity in my industry is very high ( all day long people ###### and whine) and then I do not get a whole lot of support for my gallyvanting around the world and my long distance relationship that I am valiantly trying to hold on to. I have so much responsibility with work ( I have two high stress high detail jobs )and someone very small at home and so much stress.. its unreal...

I have thought about learning how to sew or quilting or something else to pass the time... I have thought about organizing stuff for sale on ebay.... But I am just not that homey. I am more adept at thinking and writing....

I think I am just very depressed right now and just have been for a few days... Its pretty bad when your lawyer calls you just to chat which he did 2 days ago... I had given up emailing me and nagging him and I have just entered a state of nothing.. Nothing moving.. nothing processing.. nothing coming out of USCIS.. no movement anywhere........

I just have not really decided what more to do than just create this island.... and kind of go to work and when I go home , focus on creating or building something each day... a new book.... a class.... a project.. But this obsessing about USCIS and this process is a waste of precious time. I feel no better venting.. Its not helping make the days move faster...

Any thoughts from the others in my position waiting for answers that just do not seem to want to come?

I am almost scared my file is lost somewhere.....under a pile.. Because they rejected my 129 filing because my lawyer did not send in the money order I sent him with it and by the time he got the 129 f back it was too late to file and so now I am faced with NVC and a long wait.. and more tears... Just to know I started all of this January 2007 and had to start all over again in June and now its just more time leaving me... I miss my husband.. I just need to thank God he still loves and wants me and we are hanging in there.. I cannot imagine how badly this process tears people apart.. Its a struggle to hang on for years and years.. I will be at one year in January in the process

I sincerely understand your despair. Nothing happening and it feels like nothing ever will. If there was a way for you to take some time off (even without pay) maybe you should go back to visit your husband. Even if it only for a week or two. Even if means you have to incur some debt on your credit card for a airline ticket. It would do you and your spouse a world of good to reconnect.

I filed in December 2006 and so I can relate to the depression that sets after a long seperation. I have been depressed for months. Family and work friends really only see a facade of normalcy, but I obsess about the NVC and movement of our case and cry quietly. My husband is the king of patience and positive thinking and I don't want to ruin that. So even with him, I do not want to express the true depths of how lonely I am now.

If you can focus on doing a project as a way to keep your mind off the lonliness that's fine....But somehow, I think this won't be a cure for the sadness - only a diversion to keep you busy.

I feel it would be better for you to see your husband.

I have gone back one time since we were married and will go back again in 6 weeks but it feels like the world is ripped away from me when I leave him. If It were just a 7 month wait with a start and a finish it would be one thing... but its been a year in December and I never will forget his face each time I say good bye ..... I am financially pounded with left over airplane bills and I am staring at thousands of dollars of bills in between the lawyer ( which we needed for sure due to the fact I did not file the first one correctly) and the airplane tickets... and the hellish seperation.. we love each other.. I find us almost like zombies.....For those people who have not endured over a year wait, let me tell you anyone that has been through things verging on a year or more and extending past a year can understand the pain of this kind of seperation. I know for people who already have their spouses here that this all seems to be too much... and I think before I loved him, I knew what love was.. I had no idea of the depth of my love for him until we were seperated each time.. And no matter what anyone says... all the songs in the world that sing about love make sense to m e.... all the times everyone ever told me that love was the most cherished thing that you could have,, it all makes sense.. I love him... and I am desperately sad.. and desperately depressed about my long wait... I am holding on to hope at this point.. I miss him so much.. and this is exactly how I feel ( what you are describing.....) Its painful and hard.. but he is worth every tear ,,, thats for sure
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The Cr-1 is a longer wait than a K-3 or K-1 visa, but in the larger picture, your visa journey wil be finished (except for citizenship if that is a option) when your husband arrives. The headache of AOS, EAD and AP is something you will nto have to experience.

Thats the glass is half full interpretation.

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24 March 2009 I-751 received by USCIS

27 March 2009 Check Cashed

30 March 2009 NOA received

8 April 2009 Biometric notice arrived by mail

24 April 2009 Biometrics scheduled

26 April 2009 Touched

...once again waiting

1 September 2009 (just over 5 months) Approved and card production ordered.

Filed: Timeline
Posted
The Cr-1 is a longer wait than a K-3 or K-1 visa, but in the larger picture, your visa journey wil be finished (except for citizenship if that is a option) when your husband arrives. The headache of AOS, EAD and AP is something you will nto have to experience.

Thats the glass is half full interpretation.

we still have to do some kind of removing of conditions in 2 years right?

Am I ever ever ever going to get out of USCIS? Is it ever ever ever ever ever going to be over with there? At least at NVC you send them things and they send you things back like a pen pal. i am terrified I will never get out of USCIS with the way things are going...Filed in June and I am no where near out of there with no 129f to pull me ahead. #######.. I really am over everything...Really

But thanks for the encouragement....

Yikes as far as USCIS.. I am now over 120 days since NOa1 and who knows with the 200 day waits I have seen how much longer

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we still have to do some kind of removing of conditions in 2 years right?

Not if you have been married for more than 2 years when the card is issued. And even if you do, you husband will walk into this country get his social secutiy card and receive the green card almost immediately.

It really is a smart visa to go for. So many couples here are struggling - een though they are together- they do not have the money to file, the husband has to sit and wait months before working makign adjustment a bit rougher in many cases.

erfoud44.jpg

24 March 2009 I-751 received by USCIS

27 March 2009 Check Cashed

30 March 2009 NOA received

8 April 2009 Biometric notice arrived by mail

24 April 2009 Biometrics scheduled

26 April 2009 Touched

...once again waiting

1 September 2009 (just over 5 months) Approved and card production ordered.

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Jordan
Timeline
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.... level of negativity in my industry is very high ( all day long people ###### and whine) and then I do not get a whole lot of support for my gallyvanting around the world and my long distance relationship that I am valiantly trying to hold on to. I have so much responsibility with work ( I have two high stress high detail jobs )and someone very small at home and so much stress.. its unreal...

Out of curiosity ... what's your job? (my "official" job title, is "computer scientist" ... so, I'm the computer guy they send in to solve those "complex problems" ... which I just end up googling because I'm lazy as **** - and - what I was trained for - that's maybe 5% of what I do all day. DOH! :) [Of course, it's not that simple, but I can laugh at myself, right?])


The moral of my story: Stick with someone who matches your own culture.

( This coming from an Arab who married an Arab from overseas... go figure. )

Filed: K-3 Visa Country: Egypt
Timeline
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we still have to do some kind of removing of conditions in 2 years right?

Not if you have been married for more than 2 years when the card is issued. And even if you do, you husband will walk into this country get his social secutiy card and receive the green card almost immediately.

It really is a smart visa to go for. So many couples here are struggling - een though they are together- they do not have the money to file, the husband has to sit and wait months before working makign adjustment a bit rougher in many cases.

My congressman's office said the K-3 is a total waste of time and she advises people who come to her in the beginning not to bother with it.

12/28/06 - got married :)

02/05/07 - I-130 NOA1

02/21/07 - I-129 NOA1

04/09/07 - I-130 and I-129F approval email sent!!!!

04/26/07 - Packet 3 received

06/16/07 - Medical Examination

06/26/07 - Packet 3 SUBMITTED FINALLY!!!!

07/07/07 - Received pkt 4

07/22/07 - interview consular never bothered to show up for work.

07/29/07 - interview.

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Ron Paul 2008

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I couldn't agree more with your congressperson's statement.

I also agree with MBP. So many months were wasted for us because of the K3. If we did the CR1 my husband coulda hit the ground running when he got here. Ah well, coulda, woulda, shoulda. Thank God things are moving right along now.

we still have to do some kind of removing of conditions in 2 years right?

Not if you have been married for more than 2 years when the card is issued. And even if you do, you husband will walk into this country get his social secutiy card and receive the green card almost immediately.

It really is a smart visa to go for. So many couples here are struggling - een though they are together- they do not have the money to file, the husband has to sit and wait months before working makign adjustment a bit rougher in many cases.

My congressman's office said the K-3 is a total waste of time and she advises people who come to her in the beginning not to bother with it.

Filed: Timeline
Posted
we still have to do some kind of removing of conditions in 2 years right?

Not if you have been married for more than 2 years when the card is issued. And even if you do, you husband will walk into this country get his social secutiy card and receive the green card almost immediately.

It really is a smart visa to go for. So many couples here are struggling - een though they are together- they do not have the money to file, the husband has to sit and wait months before working makign adjustment a bit rougher in many cases.

My congressman's office said the K-3 is a total waste of time and she advises people who come to her in the beginning not to bother with it.

k3 was not an option for me because my lawyer forgot to enclose the 170 dollar money order with my 129f petition and the petition was kicked back almost 2 months later. I would have had to refile in the middle of receipting hell and then it would not have gotten receipted for another month ( which would have been October) and then I would have my I130 held back to be approved along with a drudgingly slow 129f ( look at processing times) and then on top of it I would have had to force my Western Algerian husband to endure another 2 day train ride ( along with 2 hours in a taxi and then a 2 hour wait at the border) YES HE IS AFRAID OF FLYING WITHOUT ME.. Do not make fun of him ok LOL to go to TUNIS to endure an interview in a foreign country.. then he has to stay there for who knows how long, going back and forth to the embassy ( which I have known several people denied out of Tunis that were Algerian.. forced to undergo multiple trips back and forth) and some even revoked.. So with the drudgingly slow cr1 I don't have a choice but to wait and wait and wait and wait and wait.. at least if there are any problems... which I am sure there will be.... judging from anything I seem to touch from tires to cars to cakes to cookies to angel food cake, at least he is 3 hours from Algiers and not 2 days from the embassy and his cousin is a police man in Algiers so at least he can get a ride from the train station.

So in other words. I do not have a choice so I do not know why I am even talking about it.. I have no choice in the matter... I have to go CR1 cause the k3 went out the window because of being misfiled

 
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