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  1. 1. Is it ok or not ok for someone who is engaged to continue going to those sites?

    • Nope not ok
      60
    • Yeah just fine
      1
    • As long as your SO knows about it and doesn't find anything wrong with it
      8
    • Everbody need's some secrets
      2

  2. 2. If you found out your SO is heavily involved on Single's site..

    • I'd be very upset and confront him/her about it
      65
    • Wouldn't matter to me
      1
    • Depends on the site
      5

  3. 3. Imagine you find out your SO is calling someone he met / she met on a Dating site AFTER you met and got engaged

    • I'd be mad as all heck
      69
    • Wouldn't bother me
      1

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Zee Bee Grand Master

Zee Bee   61

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I would tell him to stay on the site- cause I would be gone.

I agree with Stacey33.

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Wow, I'm going against the tide on this one........based on my personal experience.

Jerry and I met on a Christian singles website, and we both continued to be on the website long after we were engaged. We had a lot of friends on there that we would chat with in the chatrooms, and we didn't want to stop talking to them. So we stayed on there until we got married. So I voted "yeah, if the SO knew about it". Maybe not necessarily what the OP meant, but...

However, if I found him on match.com or eharmony.com messing around after we were engaged, he'd have some 'splaining to do..... :whistle:

And I agree with you Cassie....it would depend on the intent of the person who is frequenting the site. If they are there to still chat up people of the opposite sex...then NO WAY. However, if as you say, you meet other people along the way that you are not interested in romatically but just like talking to, I don't think there is anything wrong with shooting out an occasional message or something. Hubster and I met in a music chat room....not what the OP is asking, but seeing as we talked to other people about anything and everything, why should we dump those people as friends? There is nothing romantic about it. And in fact several of us have found each other in Facebook and we are all friends in there now. We don't sit around and chat, but messages here and there are nice.

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SEVEN!

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JVKn'CVO   11

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First I'd be veeeery surprised and all like "WHAT THE...!!" ... so not ok, because engaged/married=commited

Then I'd go :diablo: on him

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My answer can be summed up in three letters:

NFW!!!!!

ITA!

Wow, I'm going against the tide on this one........based on my personal experience.

Jerry and I met on a Christian singles website, and we both continued to be on the website long after we were engaged. We had a lot of friends on there that we would chat with in the chatrooms, and we didn't want to stop talking to them. So we stayed on there until we got married. So I voted "yeah, if the SO knew about it". Maybe not necessarily what the OP meant, but...

However, if I found him on match.com or eharmony.com messing around after we were engaged, he'd have some 'splaining to do..... :whistle:

And I agree with you Cassie....it would depend on the intent of the person who is frequenting the site. If they are there to still chat up people of the opposite sex...then NO WAY. However, if as you say, you meet other people along the way that you are not interested in romatically but just like talking to, I don't think there is anything wrong with shooting out an occasional message or something. Hubster and I met in a music chat room....not what the OP is asking, but seeing as we talked to other people about anything and everything, why should we dump those people as friends? There is nothing romantic about it. And in fact several of us have found each other in Facebook and we are all friends in there now. We don't sit around and chat, but messages here and there are nice.

I also agree with you two on this, but I think it's a different situation. P and I met on a forum and we both still participate on the forum, but it's not a singles site by any means. I would never expect him to stop talking to friends online (a couple of whom are female) but then again, we all know each other (IRL) and I trust him. So in the situation you two are describing, then it would be cool with me and is.

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Why would you need a singles site if you are engaged? :blink:

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Thanks to everyone for the input.

My personal opinion is that forums like VJ or Groww.com ,stuff like that is ok.

Even some singles sites (but only when your profile shows your REAL marriage status) are ok,but whats not ok is to have a profile on a single's site that obviously states that you're looking for something.........AFTER you got together ,got engaged and so on.

Being heavily involved on such a site and actually even calling someone you met onthere is ,in my opinion,absolutley NOT acceptable and should not be done .As it raised red flags and concerns and often leads to at least two ppl getting hurt.The "cheated on" spouse and the person your SO is talking to and has no clue of your SO being engaged to get married.........

Yes unfortunatley I AM speaking from experience..........and the only two websites I communicate with other ppl in are Groww and VJ,so it figures............

Again,thanks for the input.At least now I know that I'm not the only one seeing it like that........

And PLEASE no nasty comments about it.It's bad enough as it is...........

Nat

Met on May 17,2005

Got engaged on Sep 15th,2006

Came to the US for good on Jan 27th,2009

and we got married on March 28th,2009

GOD , grant me the serenity

to accept the things I can not change

the courage to change the things I can

and the wisdom to know the difference!

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:( Hope you get it sorted out Nat...it's been a tough road for you getting this far I know. (F)

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It's acceptable only if you're open to the idea that sexual/relational exclusivity is not always

necessary for a meaningful long-term relationship and can accept a polyamorous lifestyle

for yourself and your partner.

Otherwise, I don't see how it can possibly work.

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Thanks to everyone for the input.

My personal opinion is that forums like VJ or Groww.com ,stuff like that is ok.

Even some singles sites (but only when your profile shows your REAL marriage status) are ok,but whats not ok is to have a profile on a single's site that obviously states that you're looking for something.........AFTER you got together ,got engaged and so on.

Being heavily involved on such a site and actually even calling someone you met onthere is ,in my opinion,absolutley NOT acceptable and should not be done .As it raised red flags and concerns and often leads to at least two ppl getting hurt.The "cheated on" spouse and the person your SO is talking to and has no clue of your SO being engaged to get married.........

Yes unfortunatley I AM speaking from experience..........and the only two websites I communicate with other ppl in are Groww and VJ,so it figures............

Again,thanks for the input.At least now I know that I'm not the only one seeing it like that........

And PLEASE no nasty comments about it.It's bad enough as it is...........

Nat

:( I hope you work it out.

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