how to best use the 90 days prior to marriage k-1

[britty 1]

You know instead of arguing about all this, there are homes in Louisiana and Mississippi that need to get re-built. There are people that need counseling and there are fire lines we all could be helping with.

Ramos

so why are you wasting time posting here?

[Fandango 1,439]

A little bit of both actually, and I have to agree with the OP, I do agree your signature picture does suck, looking at somebody's painted azz does get old considering how much you like to post. I wonder if there is any rule in regards to an offensive photo in a signature, cause yours is pretty close to bordering on that in my opinion. And please before you flame me LisaD, don't make me make a poll post, I am more than happy to show you I am not that the only one that thinks this.

Humbly,

Ramos

I'm not flaming you at all...it's a legitimate question.

[ramos96 1]

I'm currently in the middle of my free time aka spare time.

Anything else you want to know?

Ramos

You know instead of arguing about all this, there are homes in Louisiana and Mississippi that need to get re-built. There are people that need counseling and there are fire lines we all could be helping with.

Ramos

so why are you wasting time posting here?

[mox 298]

it's my black-or-white-come-hell-or-high-water attitude towards the guidelines for eligibility for a visa. And we can debate this six ways from Sunday, but the end result is the same:

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That much IS black and white. Oh, and yellow and red in case anyone's confused what exactly I'm referencing.

First, the web citation is from a FAQ. It is guidance, nothing more. It is not legally binding. It was written by a bureaucrat, not a lawmaker.

And I just have to ask: why do you care? Why do you feel so strongly about a relationship that 2 consenting adults enter into? Once the beneficiary enters the country, they have 90 days to either marry or leave the country. Why should it be any business of yours what happens in between, or what those 2 consulting adults thought process is?

i wanna comment.

i saw somewhere here someone say that their SO is being forced to uproot themselves, leave family culture and country behind.

lemme clarify something here, no one is being FORCED, or MADE to leave their country. they made that choice when they agreed to start the k1 visa.

If you're referring to me, I never said "forced." I completely agree, the petitioner made a non-trivial decision to leave their family, friends, and country. This alone should indicate the seriousness with which, at the very least, the petitioner is taking the relationship. Some people here are acting as if someone who wants to give their partner the opportunity to adjust to an entirely new life is taking their relationship lightly, even though they themselves have absolutely no experience with the very thing they're condemning, nor the intellectual curiosity to look beyond their own limited experiences. Going through this entire K-1 process is enough to give anyone an ulcer. Nobody in their right mind is going to do it on a whim.

p.s. 70 Blood Elf Warlock

[ramos96 1]

Totally agree, Mox, it is definitely two people that make the decision to go thru all of this. At anytime she could say screw you and go back home also or find some other willing person to continue adjustment if the conditions are right, or not even go thru with it.

what do you think about the upcoming 2.3 patch?

[Drew and Tik 0]

Does everyone on VJ play World of Warcraft? Haha

PS - 70 Blood Elf Paladin, but account on hold

[Fandango 1,439]

it's my black-or-white-come-hell-or-high-water attitude towards the guidelines for eligibility for a visa. And we can debate this six ways from Sunday, but the end result is the same:

// image not quoted to save space //

That much IS black and white. Oh, and yellow and red in case anyone's confused what exactly I'm referencing.

First, the web citation is from a FAQ. It is guidance, nothing more. It is not legally binding. It was written by a bureaucrat, not a lawmaker.

And I just have to ask: why do you care? Why do you feel so strongly about a relationship that 2 consenting adults enter into? Once the beneficiary enters the country, they have 90 days to either marry or leave the country. Why should it be any business of yours what happens in between, or what those 2 consulting adults thought process is?

Why do you care about what I care about? See, we can do this all day. But the reason why I care is already outlined in my several posts in this thread. This community cannot endorse going against the guidelines of the visa.

And I lolled at your 'it was written by a beaurocrat not a lawmaker' line. Justify it anyway you want, chief! But it isn't called a 'FACT sheet' for the hell of it.

Does everyone on VJ play World of Warcraft? Haha

PS - 70 Blood Elf Paladin, but account on hold

Nope, not everyone! heh

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Does everyone on VJ play World of Warcraft? Haha

PS - 70 Blood Elf Paladin, but account on hold

I do I do!!!

68 Shadow Priest

I hate patching...my new computer with vista blows and I have to upload it in safe mode.....bummer.

Edited October 25, 2007 by ~Laura and Nick~

[Mags 112]

Just going to chime in here and say please keep this thread respectful and not make it personal. *chimes out*

[rebeccajo 14]

it's my black-or-white-come-hell-or-high-water attitude towards the guidelines for eligibility for a visa. And we can debate this six ways from Sunday, but the end result is the same:

// image not quoted to save space //

That much IS black and white. Oh, and yellow and red in case anyone's confused what exactly I'm referencing.

First, the web citation is from a FAQ. It is guidance, nothing more. It is not legally binding. It was written by a bureaucrat, not a lawmaker.

Excellent catch, moxcamel.

[archie07 0]

As I have said in the past, Seattle needs to visit Cebu and resolve his issues so they both can enter into this marraige with a positive attitude regardless of what the 90 days was intended for. I understand this wasn't the question asked in the thread but I think it may resolve his issues. That to me would be more important than what the 90 day threshold allowed by the USCIS is for.

[Seattle2Cebu 0]

plane ticket bought I agree with you

As I have said in the past, Seattle needs to visit Cebu and resolve his issues so they both can enter into this marraige with a positive attitude regardless of what the 90 days was intended for. I understand this wasn't the question asked in the thread but I think it may resolve his issues. That to me would be more important than what the 90 day threshold allowed by the USCIS is for.

[archie07 0]

Good Deal

[Sinergy 3]

You know instead of arguing about all this, there are homes in Louisiana and Mississippi that need to get re-built. There are people that need counseling and there are fire lines we all could be helping with.

Ramos

but unfortunatly some of us work and dont have the time or money to go rebuild ppl's houses, so we will argue about this instead

and i found your comment irrelavent and arrogant

[mox 298]

But the reason why I care is already outlined in my several posts in this thread. This community cannot endorse going against the guidelines of the visa.

(boldface mine) Sure it can. It's why we see "RFE trick" posts just about every other day. It's why we see advice on getting USCIS to give out information they wouldn't otherwise provide. It's why we see people posting about what the interviewers really want to hear, and it's also why some people hire lawyers. I would hate to see what this site would turn into if all we did was parrot back what the USCIS guides us to do.

Nobody is encouraging people to lie, or at least I'm not. People who go through this process have every intention of getting married. As I said, you're not in your right mind if you go through this process thinking you're just going to give the 'ol foreign bride a spin around the block and see how she handles. So really, stop treating this as if it's fraudulent, because it's not.

And I lolled at your 'it was written by a beaurocrat not a lawmaker' line. Justify it anyway you want, chief! But it isn't called a 'FACT sheet' for the hell of it.

So...um...do *you* know why it's called a FACT sheet? Where exactly does it come from? Can you cite an authoritative source? Because I've been spending the morning looking through CFR Title 8, and haven't been able to come up with anything that says my partner and I can't use the 90 days to adjust.

Edited October 25, 2007 by moxcamel